Feeling a little pathetic
theDirkDiggler
Illinois
Have you ever gotten a text from a favorite begging you to visit her on a slow day? And then sheepishly go and spend a crap load on her really making her day/night? I just did. At the time, it felt great. The girl was extremely appreciative and it showed during her dances, but the next day i feel that i probably didn't use my best judgement. Remember that i practically always plan my visits. This was definitely unplanned as my last visit wasn't that long ago. I definitely can't sustain this rate of spending...
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I did go in, and sitting in a corner (I didn’t have a usual spot in the club) she picks me out in a heartbeat from walking out of the dressing room. I said “how did you know where I was?” (It was a huge club) and she said “I knew you weren’t going to pass up seeing me.” Yeah total PL moment.
It's not just not seeing her. That's the easier part. Once i'm alone with her in the club, the money just falls out of my pockets. She is just so intoxicating to me. No amount of clubbing experience has developed an immunity in me to her. Especially if she is going to up her dances. It's hard to believe that she can still improve when she already does everything i like the way i like it. Even as i was overspending, it was torture for me to end the dances. It doesn't help that she is super sweet to me.
Then one evening I get a text from her along with a sexy photo and she wants to come over tonight. I wasn't prepared for that and really didn't want her coming over at 9PM. I'm a day guy. So I told her "Not tonight but lets get together during the day time soon".
Next time I went to the club I found out that she had moved to Texas the day after she had called me. At least she didn't get any traveling money outta me. :)
I suppose with the holiday and post holiday season, where a plethora of girls are trying to squeeze blood from a stone, i might have a chance for deals, but the girl is popular and tends to do well. She just ran into the perfect storm of too many girls (and hot ones that also give good dances too) working and literally a handful of customers in the club. NO ONE at the club was doing very well, except her AFTER i showed up. She needed money (surprise) and drove over an hour and was freaking out that she of all dancers might actually have a really bad night (under $100 for her).
I also don't want to offend her by going the discount route. There is nothing "discounty" or stingy about her dances with me (and i don't that want to start either) and i feel it only appropriate to be generous in kind to her.
Even had one that I had a falling out with suddenly want to make up out of the blue, but I don't really go to her club much, so it didn't really matter.
But, my CF from this time last year had the same effect over me. So, I understand what you're going through.
@Doces The frequency of visits ITC and amount spent were also probably why that CF thought she could raise our OTC rate by 66% at the last minute. Wish I knew then what I know now.
That sounds more like a missed opportunity than something to be pleased about. I mean you did save money, but saving money (although a hard habit/mindset to quit but a very good habit) seems less important to me the older i get. Besides general quality of living, the only reason i save now is to enjoy life when i can enjoy it.
Yes, all the time
-->"And then sheepishly go and spend a crap load on her really making her day/night?"
SHEEPISHLY go? Never. I tell my CFs specifically to text me on slow days, exactly because of what you experienced, "appreciative and it showed". On a slow day, I'll be able to hang out with her for hours and hours, she'll show her appreciation ... and it's nothing but an advantage to me that she knows that if she's having a crap day and making no money, I can often come through for her.
One caveat: some girls DON'T appreciate that you're their slow-day guy... in which case, fuck them. Many girls appreciate it, my budget is too limited to spend time with a girl who doesn't.
So, in summary: I specifically instruct her to let me know when it's slow so I can try to come in, and with the right stripper, I am more than paid back in bang-for-my-buck great service and "Free" (except for price of drinks) hanging out time & front room groping.
Don't be sheepish; own it, muthafucka
I wish i could do the SJG/Subraman and i guess SirLapdancealot front room action for "free", but whatever front room stuff we do pales greatly to what we do in the LD area.
If you're sick of getting screwed on dance times during the week, tell her so. Maybe she can put in a word with the DJ to run longer songs when you go for dances with her. I have had arrangements like that.
Even on weekends, she definitely gives me first priority when she sees me and will stay with me unless i tell her she can work the rest of the club if she wants. And she doesn't rush off when i tell her that, but almost reluctantly leaves asking if i'm sure, so her service skills are excellent. She also never asks for dances unless i bring it up. My preference has been and always will be seeing her on weekends. Now if it weren't for those danged texts. I know this is a somewhat unique situation in my case, but it is what it is.
It’s like you treated yourself to an early Christmas present -
If the club decides to kill its weekday income by making dances effectively more expensive during off nights, that's their own business. At one of the clubs I go to it's the opposite situation where during the off days the two-fers are $20 less than on weekends.
If she can work it out on her end that the songs will be the same length, that would be enough to interest me. It sounds like you're only really interested in weekends regardless, though. Maybe you could suggest something not in the club for the days you don't want to go to the club or she can satisfy herself that you're going to see her at all.
If you think it's worth it to compensate her for putting forth a comparatively better effort than the other dancers, then give her a tip. That's how I do it.
Yeah, it was like early Christmas. And yes, good memories, unforgettable and addictive really, although i'm more of the enjoy the present/moment kind of guy than a reminiscing /reliving the past guy. And i doubt this is the last before Christmas. Sigh...
@ppwh
I do agree in principle with everything you said. The club is notoriously slow most weekdays, and is heavily reliant on regulars for any girl to make money those days and is one of the few times the VIP/CR is probably better value (for the customer of course). In hindsight, i probably should have gone that route. Unfortunately, she doesn't do OTC, not for lack of trying...
Now enough about me and my story. How about the rest of you? Do you go visit your favorite stripper at her whim?
Generally, yes, because it offers me a better experience. The rationale is that if she is motivated enough to contact me that day, she will be motivated enough to make the visit worthwhile. I respond to ask if she will sit with me if I go in to set the expectation that I'm not interested in being one of 5 guys who show up and wait around after she sent out a mass text.
As I said, it's generally a win/win/win for me, getting at least the experience I would have hoped for on a random night, often at a lower price from the club, and the money I spend adds to her income rather than causing her pick between customers.
Again, maybe i should ask a different way. Any of you guys wrapped around a stripper's finger?
And i do realize that it was probably so she could have a get out of jail free card in her pocket just for nights like the one in the OP...
That is a good point. She did seem and continued to be genuinely appreciative. Probably more than i can recall any other stripper being with me. If that earned me more points with her, great. Hopefully, it might become something more real, at least in the strip club world. She already can virtually do no wrong from my point of view so again, i'm probably in worse shape than before...
KInda a loaded-question - best if it was a thread onto it's own
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That's when you offer her an OTC earning opportunity.
The hottest and most charismatic girls are often the hardest to get OTC because they tend to do well ITC, but almost every single good club earner that I ever took OTC was snagged on a night just like that one. So many of these girls burn through their money so fast that it doesn't matter what they made two nights earlier, but rather only what they have in their pockets when they walk in and what they need to pay for the next day.
But instead you went in and made her fat and happy ITC. To each his own I suppose and it's your money to spend how you please, but that smacks of a wasted opportunity to me.
Seeing a girl repeatedly in her strip club is what makes one a PL.
SJG
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Oh yeah, there are 3(!) new articles posted, including one from yours truly. All 3 articles seem to discuss being in too deep with one stripper, lol.
It can be fun to be very into a hot stripper. It’s fine that you’ve not played it as cool as you could have. In a way I envy you in a way - as I might be too jaded to get so enamoured with a dancer. Enjoy it as much as you can - without draining too much from your wallet.
When my favorite at the time would call and say that she "really wanted to see me", I would fall for it almost every time.
Then one time she called me and asked for a $600 loan to help pay her rent.
I never talked to her again.
It was a wake up call for me that while this is a fun time for me, it is only all about the money for them.
Right now only my CF has my number, and she just let's me know her schedule, no begging for me to show up. I don't plan on giving up my number to another dancer, although a few new girls have given me their number.
I'm actually quite happy about that.
Of course you received unsolicited comment - that's what happens when you post on an open forum, so stop the fucking whining already. Maybe if you found you other ball sack you wouldn't be in this ridiculous predicament right now.
And of course she deems "different and "special" because that's what the best hustlers do. The truth of the matter is that her life is likely as fucked up as anyone else's, but she is smart enough to know that presenting herself a certain way plays to certain types of guys. It is all part of the game young buck. She is in the back room cleaning her pussy with baby wipes and putting on deodorant like all the rest, yet she knows that certain guys gravitate to a particular type of story.
Time to grow up dude and realize where you are. We've all been there and maybe you need your moments to figure it all out, but trust me when I say it is just a higher end hustle. She doesn't love you and she sure as fuck won't be having your kids, so you are wasting your time and emotional energy on a stripper you dumb fuck.
Glad I could help. ;)
Thanks for the cheese!
Except that it was solicited. You posted a topic in a discussion forum. Discussion happened.
On the PL spectrum, this isn't bad at all. But if you start consistently spending money you don't have, then that's a whole other thing.