On the average do you get a better dance if she asks you 1st??

Bones: Apparently Tunica Cabaret has reopened. I just read a review dated 1/25/07...

FONDL, Jpac only said that dancer B was "a little more to your taste", so I took that to mean not a significant preference. I've turned down a girl only to hook up later many times, too. Just as often, though, I've regretted passing up an opportunity that never reappeared. Maybe for me it's more a matter not wanting to put on hold the chemistry that could already be starting by her coming around.

If I do turn her down, I think it's much better to simply say no thanks rather than explain that I'm waiting for a different girl (unless she asks me), which doesn't help anything. I like to keep it all between her and me. You can change your mind later just as easily.

Chandler, I might do that too depending on how much of a preference I have for B over A. I was assuming a significant preference. I've often turned down a girl and then hooked up with her later, and I've never found that to be a hindrance. I think strippers are fairly used to that.

Doug, FONDL: In Jpac's scenario, the reason I would say yes to dancer A is that, if I strike out trying to snag dancer B, then try to get back to A, she may no longer be available by then, either. And if she is, my turning her down earlier could hinder the chemistry between us. Why break up the flow from my stage tip to her stopping by to my agreeing to a dance? Saying "maybe later" doesn't really leave you with more options, I've found.

Casualguy: You just said upthread that it has been many years since you've asked for a dance. What gives?

It's a crap shoot.

If I want a dance from a dancer though, I'll just go up to her and tell her and usually get one shortly later. I think I'm more picky about the price of dances if all the dancers look reasonably good.

If both girls look good to me, I may get a dance from a dancer who charges reasonable prices. I'm not too picky except I will often say a quick no thanks or maybe later if a dancer comes up to me and says immediately "wanna dance?" If I wasn't interested in her I might immediately tell her I wasn't interested in getting dances until maybe later in the evening. I need to think of a better line if the club is about to close in less than an hour. I guess maybe next visit will work.

Jpac, to answer your question, if dancer B appeals to me more than A does but I like them both, when I tip B on stage I will ask her to join me when she gets off stage. Then if A approaches first I'll tell her I'm waiting for another girl. But if instead of joining me, B heads for another customer, then I will approach A and ask her to join me. I always try to hook up with my favorite first.

But to answer the original question, I think every girl is different. Some will give their best dance first time to try to get you to buy some more, especially if you seem reluctant. With others the dances get better the more you buy. With still others they get better the more you get to know her. I don't think there's any way to tell in advance or to affect the outcome, they will do what they do.

"Better" dances are from either

(1.) girls who are high-service for low-price. They often ask first, though not necessarily. Haggling, knowing the ropes, finding privacy, being familiar with (and recognized in) the club can all contribute; or

(2.) girls who get horny (or do a DAMN good job of acting like it). They generally don't ask first, but instead sit with me and "get to know me" and share a drink, a conversation, an hour, before I start to dump a load on 'em. In which case, yes indeed, I pay graciously and plentifully and they know not to be too mercenary about asking first, the next time they see me. Requires building a "friendship" over several visits, or "hitting it off" on a more quiet night, instead of prime-time crowds when she isn't running around trying to maximize cash-benefit in an immediate manner.

Jpac: An A in the hand is better than a B in the bush [insert pun here], so I would take her offer rather than chase after the less available girl's non-offer. However, I wouldn't take A's coming around as a sign that I'd get a better dance from her than from B.

This is all based on your premise that I'm interested in both girls and only slightly more in B than in A. On the other hand, if I considered B a "must do" and A a "might do in a pinch", that would be a different story.

Jpac: In your scenario, I think I'd pass on the dance invitation from Dancer A, but make sure that you are clear to her that you want her to come back for dances later. That way, you don't "burn any bridges" and leave your options open. Then, track down Dancer B, 'cause she's more to your liking and see how it goes. If you like what you are getting, then stick with her... if not, make eye contact with Dancer A, track her down or wait until she comes back and take her up on her previous offer.

Now, if your scenario changes slightly and you are operating on a limited budget (either time or money) and can only choose one of the Dancers, I think I would recommend going with Dancer A.

Another angle to your scenario that you didn't mention, which would have a significant impact on how I'd handle the situation. How did Dancer A ask you for a dance... if it was the "wanna dance?" blah, blah crap, then it means NOTHING that she asked you. If, on the other hand, she slinked onto your lap and whispered into your ear "mmm...wannna go play?"... it's a no brainer... I'm RUNNING to the dance area, towing her behind me.

Good responses from everyone but I have 1 more scenario. Let's say you tip both dancer A & dancer B. Dancer A comes around to your seat after she is offstage and says thankyou. She also asks for a dance. Dancer B tells you thanks while on stage but doesn't bother to come to your seat. Both are good looking but Dancer B is a little more your taste. So what do you do? Do you get a dance from either 1 or do you look for someone else?

It greatly depends on whether I tipped them or not. If I did, there's always a good shot at having a good dance, because if you go out of the way for them, they might do more...or maybe not, but that's the risk. If I didn't, then most of the time, no, because they seem more interested in my money than anything. Easily my worst OTC experience was a girl who came up to me first, but that was when I was relatively new to the SC experience. On the other hand, one of my best experiences was a lady who came up to me unsolicited. She's too old and shouldn't be dancing, but there's a reason for her popularity there.

IMHO, I've found them better if I ask, most times. Many times, the ones that ask, well there is a reason they ask. They do not give many dances.

It's been many years since I asked a dancer for a dance. I think it was back in the 90's and I thought the dance I got was just as good as any other. My experience with a new club is usually one of feeling like I'm fresh meat. I have noticed sometimes a dancer will seem very horny and very insistent on getting a dance on a few occasions. Those girls usually give pretty good dances. Sometimes they're willing to reduce the prices they charge as well if they really are that determined to get a dance from you.

I'm very picky. I usually form an early idea of which strippers I'm interested in. They tend to be more in demand for dances than the average girl who comes around asking. If I luck out and she asks first, great. It saves me the effort of getting up and flagging her down. If she doesn't, I won't hesitate to go snag her at the first opportunity.

Granted, there's something to be said for the little thrill you feel at the sight of a hot ass stripper coming to join you. You're like a little schoolgirl being chosen at the junior high dance. However, if that's not happening, I'd rather take the initiative myself than leave the club having settled for somebody less desirable. There's also a thrill that comes with stalking and capturing her. I haven't found that it makes any difference in the dance I get.

There are a lot of variables in this, as you can imagine.

The simple answer is, if I've asked her to dance for me, either inviting her stageside to come see me after her set, or if I otherwise track her down on the floor, the majority of the time, the dance is going to be better. Why? Because if I've asked her, it's because she is totally my type and already has me in the mood to play.

Complicated answer.. I don't care for dancers coming up and asking me for a dance. That just puts things in a negative light, unless I've previously been making eye contact with her from across the floor and exchanging longing looks and smiles - but, to me, that's pretty much asking her to come over, thus I really wouldn't say that she asked me first. I still prefer the chat first, but it really doesn't matter that much, 'cause we're going to be talking during the dance.

If she approaches me for a dance and she's my type, well, I'm going to enjoy it - at least the view if nothing else. On occassion, a girl that's my type, even if the contact isn't there, if she's looking me in the eyes, and giving me good views of her beauty, I may go three of four dances with her and count it as a good time.

And as you can see, being old and horny will pretty much make up for a lot, so rarely am I going to have a dance that I don't enjoy.