Does it matter how you ask a dancer for a dance?
DougS
Florida
While discussing if it makes a difference in the dance you receive if the dancer asks you for a dance, or the other way around, this topic occurred to me.
(note: again, we are talking about dancers that we've never danced before)
In my experience, it DOES seem to matter how I ask a dancer to dance for me. If I spot a dancer that really interests me, I'll track her down and ask for a dance. If I just ask her if she can dance with me when she has time, usually she will give me a decent dance, but nothing special... OR she might never "find the time" and I never get the dance at all.
I've found that if I say something like "come see me when you are available", of course after I've tipped her on stage or whatever, not only will it most likely lead to some chat before dance, but the dances will usually be a little better. Maybe the girl looks at me as being less of a PL, because of my approach?
Yet another approach, and the way that I normally ask, is to say something like "You really caught my eye from across the room and I was wondering if you wanted to go play a little" This line offers a small compliment and usually gets a smile and seems like it also results in better contact. I think it gets the girl thinking a little naughty and maybe makes her see you as more of a "player" than just a PL...
OR, maybe it's all just a crap shoot and it's all the girl and not the approach...
I know if the stilettos were on the other foot, I would be much more into a dance if a girl propositioned me with the "do you want to play?", rather than a "wanna dance?" line.
(note: again, we are talking about dancers that we've never danced before)
In my experience, it DOES seem to matter how I ask a dancer to dance for me. If I spot a dancer that really interests me, I'll track her down and ask for a dance. If I just ask her if she can dance with me when she has time, usually she will give me a decent dance, but nothing special... OR she might never "find the time" and I never get the dance at all.
I've found that if I say something like "come see me when you are available", of course after I've tipped her on stage or whatever, not only will it most likely lead to some chat before dance, but the dances will usually be a little better. Maybe the girl looks at me as being less of a PL, because of my approach?
Yet another approach, and the way that I normally ask, is to say something like "You really caught my eye from across the room and I was wondering if you wanted to go play a little" This line offers a small compliment and usually gets a smile and seems like it also results in better contact. I think it gets the girl thinking a little naughty and maybe makes her see you as more of a "player" than just a PL...
OR, maybe it's all just a crap shoot and it's all the girl and not the approach...
I know if the stilettos were on the other foot, I would be much more into a dance if a girl propositioned me with the "do you want to play?", rather than a "wanna dance?" line.
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I remember visiting a club years ago when I was new and the customers went to the dancers to get dances for the most part. I didn't hesitate to go ask what I thought was the prettiest dancer to dance for me. She became a favorite of mine in that club and after that I didn't ask her because she would always ask me first or come over and talk to me first.
I remember one dancer told me I made her feel like a customer. I didn't realize I was routinely doing that. She would come over and sit and talk with me and before she asked, I seemed to always ask her if she wanted to dance and ask about the price as well.
btw.... forget about attempting "chick-talk" in an effort to make an impression on a girl. I don't think guys can pull that off without looking insincere and lame, and trust me - chicks will see right thru it in a new york minute.
I have an off-the-wall sense of humor at times - most of the time... a lot of double entendres, puns and one-liners that a lot of the time travels about 7 inches above the dancers head. It's sometimes disheartening to come up with a great line and have her look at you with a confused look, like "what in the HELL are you talking about?!"
That's why it's so refreshing when you have a rapport with a girl that catches most of that...
Sometimes I'm reminded of that old Far Side comic where on one panel a dog owner is lecturing his dog, going into great detal about how Ginger has been a bad dog. On the other panel, it shows what the dog hears: blah blah blah blah Ginger blah blah blah blah blah blah blah Ginger blah blah blah blah blah blah blah Ginger blah blah blah blah Ginger blah blah...
All our word and fine distinctions are heard by strippers as: blah blah blah blah Yes blah blah blah blah blah blah blah Yes blah blah blah blah blah blah blah Yes blah blah blah blah Yes blah blah...
The fact is, unless you look like a big dumb spender, you're not going to attract the girls you want all the time just by showing up. Myself, that good feeling of "being hunted" wears thin pretty quick when the huntresses don't include the hottest strippers in the house.
Because of this, I prefer to be "chased" rather than to do the chasing. Depending on the volume of the situation, this has advantages as well as disadvantages, so I have to balance accordingly. I will indeed chase a girl down if she looks hot enough to me, but I seldom get a lapper with anyone without first chatting them up enough to find out whether her "chemistry" meshes with mine. It's about her attitude and customer-service sense, her sense of humor, etc.
Also I need to know if her tits are fake or real. :P