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Please inform of my untimely demise

Subraman

Car key and wallet dating your sister

From SamPepys discussion of ATF's OTC handicapping:
-->"She told me she has even told family how to inform me if something does happen to her."

So, any PLs have such orders in place? I will admit I have, a few times. For the most part, "inform my ATF of my death" (and btw, I have direct instructions in my will that, no matter how I go, tuscl should be on the suspect list) are not necessary because:

1. If she's working at my fave clubs, my buddies will be back there and know to tell Misty of my suspicious death at the hands of the shadowy organization known as tuscl
2. Most of my CFs and ATFs probably don't much care that I'm dead, anyway, except inasmuch as they now have time for a new less-entitled regular

But a few times, I've been in a position where neither 1 nor 2 applied... times when the relationship had turned more like arrangement-lite or even FWB, she wasn't working at the club anymore, no direct connection to any of my social circle (many times these girls know my friends and have partied with them, but don't have phone numbers or emails). In short, a relationship where each of us is expected not to just ghost on the other. As an example, take my 5-year relationship with my (basically long-retired) ATATF, I don't even know how to describe it, maybe "arrangement-lite masquerading as FWB"; I know and am connected with her family and friends, but the reverse is not true, she has no way to interact with my family or friends. So, my best buddy has "here's how to contact her, let her know if juice finally hunts me down and finishes me off via death-by-bunga-bunga".