Married and Miserable or Single and Lonely?
shailynn
They never tell you what you need to know.
All this talk about marriage lately made me think about one of my favorite Chris Rock lines: "either you're married and miserable, or single and lonely."
Aside from your current situation which would you choose if you had a choice?
Aside from your current situation which would you choose if you had a choice?
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SJG
I wanted a soul mate, I got something which was completely unworkable. I am still suffering from Post Marital Stress Disorder.
SJG
TRAFFIC LIVE AT SANTA MONICA 72
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SJG
I find that to be true. The more money I had, the more strippers I fucked.
I think if most of us had unlimited funds, we'd never leave the strip club.
Just a thought.
SJG
But by the time I got married, my woman was so deeply embedded in my life that I really was not accustomed to being alone at all. And she had learned to rule by creating upsets.
So being alone is something I have had to learn again, starting from the very basics. And I have had to really think about how I want the rest of my life to be.
Never again will I be married, and never again will I even live with a woman. I would never let any one woman get that much power over my life and my daily peace and harmony.
SJG
And in the organization I am building, it will be like that, but the pussy will be right there whenever you want it.
SJG
tl;dr I'm never getting married haha.
Lol, I remember one girl at work said her husband kept the thermostat at 54 degrees year round and she was hot in the office all the time. They kept the thermostat at work at 75 or 76. I was warm but not super hot. I could go out to the shop where they had no air, sweat like crazy and come back inside the "hot" office.
I'm currently looking for a new job and one reason I haven't moved, a relative living nearby would want to move in. I have a lot of control though. If I can live with several sisters in the house growing up, I can live with just one relative in the house. Looking for a new job is a lot of work by itself. My younger brother was easier to settle differences with growing up. We'd settle it by fighting, then we'd be back to playing games or whatever we wanted to do like nothing happened. The other issue got settled. My younger brother always lost.
But this is the wrong question. At least for me. I have already answered this question for myself. The question for me is whether it's possible to be married/happy with great sex. I used to be sure that the answer was no but now I'm not so sure.
I think the saying is "Married and bored"... But that could mean missarable too
It might be universal that females are taught to hate or put down mothers in laws.
My younger brother once called his wife to ask permission to spend 20 dollars when he was with me alone at the store. My older brother couldn't believe it. He thought he had it better even though his wife drive him to bankruptcy and he maxed out his maximum social security taxes before he retired. Those examples of marriage made me be in no hurry to get married.
I figure better to be single and happy and controlling your own destiny and what you are doing rather than married and miserable getting nagged to death every day being told what home project you need to work on next or how you have money problems because your wife is an idiot and doesn't know how to save a dime nor is she interested. Some of the married men at work would say, just agree with the wife with whatever if you want a happy marriage. I'm wondering is that the definition of pussy whipped?
If they get divorced, they will have to pay big child support payments for life it sounds like plus give up lots of assets if the wife wasn't working. I think the court system is rigged against males from what I've heard. The child support payments awarded are a whole lot more than what the guy would have payed if he stayed married so they stay together.
Although even before marriage I was never really fond of monogamy. I just assumed that I could do it because that's what I saw everyone else was doing.
That's the nice thing about strippers, everything is so casual. Exclusivity is definitely not expected, for either one of us. It's refreshing.
For that matter, I echo the question I posed in another thread, which is: What in the world does marital happiness have to do with messing around with strippers? This notion held by some that one must be unhappy with his wife if he is screwing around with strippers is both goofy and naive. One has nothing to do with the other.
Yes, there are other options. Reliable FWB would be vastly superior to either miserable or lonely. Win the lottery and spend lots of time living the LondonGuy lifestyle would be vastly superior.
Sure some people are happy / content in their marriage and partner. However, particularly in hindsight, that's never been true in my family. Staying in it is just the lesser evil to a lot of people. Lots of couples put on a good front to the world but are a shit show in private. Lonely / miserable are not the 'only 2 categories' but they sure seem to be the largest 2 from what I see.
Probably getting OT but... I also see marriage as very high risk. Half of your wealth and probably continuing payments if things don't work out until you're so old and gray it doesn't matter? Seems to me like there would have to be a comparatively high reward to justify such risk.
Someone on another thread I think asked why people marry.
Consider:
1. Religion as we know it could never exist without it.
2. There is an entire industry which runs on marriage and by promoting it.
3. The real estate industry depends upon marriage.
4. Much of the commercial sector, and the life insurance industry, depend upon it.
5. Capitalism depends upon it, it needs people to be sexually isolated, economically isolated, and now even socially isolated.
6. Politicians use it to promote themselves.
SJG
Grahame Bond - Love Is the Law
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Never though much of this girl, still don't, idiot!
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Gospel From The Stripper Pole
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I had no idea that there could ever have come anything like Reagan, making like Vietnam and Watergate had never happened, and then the social conservatism of the 80's and the following decades. And I never saw that most people did not want the world to be radicalized, at least not yet. I always felt hugely betrayed that the people my age were not with me, but seemed to want to perpetuate the world of our parents.
SJG
Pentangle, a girl played me some of this, like late 70's. In the years which followed, I always looked for it in new and used record stores. Nothing.
Here, then and now:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqtnLFMD…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mFuxq_J1…
I mean, I know men, often from churches, who seem to be both happy and faithful. But I certainly would not want to live like them. And for the most part, they do not impress me. They seem to be atrophied and broken men, hiding behind social conformity, not ever looking at things too closely or trying to understand very deeply. They get like this, then eventually physical and mental frailty take them.
SJG
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7. As it stands today marriage one of the few long lasting social glues we have. Capitalism distorts and breaks down everything else.
8. Women know that their looks only have so much of a shelf life, so they know they need to get hitched. They use their wiles to make it go that way.
9.. Even today most women do not find self supporting careers open to them. Unmarried women beyond a certain age, but not yet old enough to likely be widows, are looked down upon by most people.
One thing I have never been able to understand, how could any guy spend his Sunday mornings in church. And worst of all, how could any guy spend his Sunday morning listening to a sermon?
https://www.amazon.com/Why-Men-Hate-Goin…
They must be living in places without Viet Coffee.
Maybe some of our church going folks would be able to answer this?
https://www.flickr.com/photos/25953606@N…
SJG
Killing Me Softley
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4USer34…