ATF Leaving To Another State
Dman12345
Arizona
I am a big of TUSCL and its articles, I really appreciate expert advice from those are frequent SC and been through all the drama and SS, so here is my first and full story of my SC experience:
I am not what you call a seasonal SC visitor. I might visit once couple weeks or maybe sometimes only once every month or couple months. And every time I go, I only go for one reason. And that is just for fun and some physical contacts with hot females. This was all true until 6 months ago. I had some dances with this cute latina that was my type. She give me dances and VIP that was very GFE and something I never experienced. I didn't think much of this at all in the beginning. Until couple months down the line that for some reason every time I showed up at this club she was always there and I ended up getting dances from her. She is very good conservationist and we can talk forever about even the most random things. This is where everything gets interesting. It finally hits me that I realize this girl is very special to me and I have urges to want to see and talk to her more. This is the same time I noted to myself that this girl is my all time favorite. Before this, I have never meet any one even close. And I have been doing SC for 10+ years, nothing serious though. After making up my mind about wanting to see this girl more, I tried to arrange seeing her OTC or simply just trying to figure out her schedule so I can see her more in the club. But this girl is just so unpredictable, I was only able to get her text. Never heard from her over the phone. I was only able to get her out 1 out of many many times and it was just a brief dinner. As for schedules, I was only able to get her to tell me she was coming to the club only one time. And the rest, I pretty much just had to try my luck to see if I can locate her in the club. I spent really good money on her in the beginning because I go to this club seldomly, but I know my current financial status that this is not feasible for frequent visits so I did try to budget down a little so I can see her more. I guess this is around the same time where I ran into trouble. This along with me introducing one of my friend to her (he was drunk on that day and made some inappropriate comments). I think this ticked her off and somehow changed her from being super friendly to being super cold to me in the last few weeks. She also said some mean things that hurt my feelings but I somehow shrugged it off because I thought it was so ridiculous. So fast forward to now, we somehow made up and no longer mad at each other. It got emotional but at least on that day I thought we made peace with each other. And just as god would play trick on me like how I shouldn't meet this girl, she told me she is fed up with her current living and wants to move out to a different state. So here I am, went from nonchalant to excited to angry and now to sad because I will dearly miss this girl. In the last couple days, I have been trying desperately to make some OTC with her (even though I know she is just going to say yes initially but flake out in the end, that's just the way she is). But I want to at least try rather then regret later. So now only couple days before she is leaving, I am stuck in an awkward position that I never had in my life. I have deep feelings for my ATF and she is leaving. And I can't see her even though I tried everything that's within my control. So someone out there, help me out or even call me out, I know I am a big PL but I can't help feeling this way right now. I know time will heal things but for now I just feel like I am helpless.
I am not what you call a seasonal SC visitor. I might visit once couple weeks or maybe sometimes only once every month or couple months. And every time I go, I only go for one reason. And that is just for fun and some physical contacts with hot females. This was all true until 6 months ago. I had some dances with this cute latina that was my type. She give me dances and VIP that was very GFE and something I never experienced. I didn't think much of this at all in the beginning. Until couple months down the line that for some reason every time I showed up at this club she was always there and I ended up getting dances from her. She is very good conservationist and we can talk forever about even the most random things. This is where everything gets interesting. It finally hits me that I realize this girl is very special to me and I have urges to want to see and talk to her more. This is the same time I noted to myself that this girl is my all time favorite. Before this, I have never meet any one even close. And I have been doing SC for 10+ years, nothing serious though. After making up my mind about wanting to see this girl more, I tried to arrange seeing her OTC or simply just trying to figure out her schedule so I can see her more in the club. But this girl is just so unpredictable, I was only able to get her text. Never heard from her over the phone. I was only able to get her out 1 out of many many times and it was just a brief dinner. As for schedules, I was only able to get her to tell me she was coming to the club only one time. And the rest, I pretty much just had to try my luck to see if I can locate her in the club. I spent really good money on her in the beginning because I go to this club seldomly, but I know my current financial status that this is not feasible for frequent visits so I did try to budget down a little so I can see her more. I guess this is around the same time where I ran into trouble. This along with me introducing one of my friend to her (he was drunk on that day and made some inappropriate comments). I think this ticked her off and somehow changed her from being super friendly to being super cold to me in the last few weeks. She also said some mean things that hurt my feelings but I somehow shrugged it off because I thought it was so ridiculous. So fast forward to now, we somehow made up and no longer mad at each other. It got emotional but at least on that day I thought we made peace with each other. And just as god would play trick on me like how I shouldn't meet this girl, she told me she is fed up with her current living and wants to move out to a different state. So here I am, went from nonchalant to excited to angry and now to sad because I will dearly miss this girl. In the last couple days, I have been trying desperately to make some OTC with her (even though I know she is just going to say yes initially but flake out in the end, that's just the way she is). But I want to at least try rather then regret later. So now only couple days before she is leaving, I am stuck in an awkward position that I never had in my life. I have deep feelings for my ATF and she is leaving. And I can't see her even though I tried everything that's within my control. So someone out there, help me out or even call me out, I know I am a big PL but I can't help feeling this way right now. I know time will heal things but for now I just feel like I am helpless.
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The two most important rules of strip-clubbing are:
1) Don't fall in-love with a stripper
2) Don't forget rule #1
Also, what Papi said: Don't *ever* fall in love with a stripper!
Take it from someone who knows all too well . . .
Hopefully, she didn't take you for too much money.
Shadowcat: I don't mind road trip but she not willing to do otc
Here's what I have found in my experience. There's a girl I like, and I want to meet OTC, really let's just say what it is - I want to fuck this girl and I can't do it in the club so I have to meet her outside the club. If she's not responsive after a month or so of me trying, I move on, because it's probably not going to happen. The reason it's not going to happen? I'm not spending enough money or offering enough money for OTC, she's creeped out by me for some odd reason, or she's one of those strippers who just doesn't do OTC.
You talk to 10 strippers inside a club at least 1 of them is going to do OTC, then she has the potential to become your ATF!!!
Consider yourself lucky that she is moving away before you get Dadillaced.
Lol, that was clever
I know it may not seem like it now, but you'll find another eventually, trust me. You also will not fall as hard next time.
Most of these girls already have BFs and at the same time try to juggle a couple of PLs/RILs OTC - most of them are unreliable and many of them their lives are upside-down meaning you don't wanna walk into that tornado especially if you don't know that this is often the case (that you are dealing w/ a tornado even if the skies seem clear).
You are doing the equivalent of sky-diving w/o any experience except dealing w/ strippers OTC w/o any experience is more dangerous - don't try to handle a snake if you are not an experienced snake-handler; you're gonna get bitten and perhaps poisoned.
But there we are in our PL glory. Drinking (aka) becoming inebriated, hot girls probably hotter than what any of us see in an average day in public, walking around in lingerie and even in some clubs totally nude, saying nice things to us, inflating our egos making us feel important even though we know it's just a ploy to separate us from our money - but we still fall for it... after all that how can we not fall in love once in awhile?
Seriously though, if it helps one guy to not blow that much cash then it's worth it.