Dating A MILF Escort As A Civvie - Update
rockstar666
Illinois
A few months back, I posted about a BP MILF escort I was very attracted to, but didn't want to be just another customer to so I never called her. After a year of cyber stalking her, I found her name and FB page, and she friended me when I sent a request. This is an update of what's going on.
I started just 'liking' things she'd post, or risk a short reply. After a few months of this with no action from her at all, she started making an occasional reply to my replies. This coincided with her weekly BP adds ceasing, as if she was out of the escort business. Then about a month ago, she started reading my wall and commenting on my posts (I have a very entertaining FB page!) and I can't tell you how excited that made me! We started chatting via IM as well and we got along famously. Keep in mind she has never told me she was an escort and I never said I knew.
I figured the time was right to ask for a date, so I casually mentioned a gig we were playing and asked if she'd like to come and 'party with a rock star (tongue firmly in cheek)'. She said she'd love to, but can't because she moved to the East Coast for a year of training in a dog grooming school! That's why the adds stopped. BTW I have checked BP in her state daily and she's not placing adds so I assume she's not currently escorting. There are no new TER reviews either; she'd average 1-2 a month.
So my timing stinks huh! Funny thing is, we've swapped phone #'s and she gave me her escort number! I would have thought she had a second phone for friends and family. Maybe she does? Anyway, we exchanged lots of texts and she sends me current G rated pics of her. Doesn't she realize that if I Google the number that I'll get 3 pages of her old escort stuff? Maybe it's her way of letting me find out she "used to" do sex work? I haven't mentioned it...and that's my question before the house: I'm not sure if I should or shouldn't.
She will be returning in June next year - maybe. She likes the East and might stay. Meanwhile we've become very chatty with each other and get along really well. We communicate several times a day. She knows I'm no idiot and would eventually trace the #....if I never mention anything it will be like a lie from me. I invite comments on where to go from here. I think I have to either tell her I knew all along, pretend I just found out or ignore it completely. Each path has pluses and pitfalls.
Thoughts?
I started just 'liking' things she'd post, or risk a short reply. After a few months of this with no action from her at all, she started making an occasional reply to my replies. This coincided with her weekly BP adds ceasing, as if she was out of the escort business. Then about a month ago, she started reading my wall and commenting on my posts (I have a very entertaining FB page!) and I can't tell you how excited that made me! We started chatting via IM as well and we got along famously. Keep in mind she has never told me she was an escort and I never said I knew.
I figured the time was right to ask for a date, so I casually mentioned a gig we were playing and asked if she'd like to come and 'party with a rock star (tongue firmly in cheek)'. She said she'd love to, but can't because she moved to the East Coast for a year of training in a dog grooming school! That's why the adds stopped. BTW I have checked BP in her state daily and she's not placing adds so I assume she's not currently escorting. There are no new TER reviews either; she'd average 1-2 a month.
So my timing stinks huh! Funny thing is, we've swapped phone #'s and she gave me her escort number! I would have thought she had a second phone for friends and family. Maybe she does? Anyway, we exchanged lots of texts and she sends me current G rated pics of her. Doesn't she realize that if I Google the number that I'll get 3 pages of her old escort stuff? Maybe it's her way of letting me find out she "used to" do sex work? I haven't mentioned it...and that's my question before the house: I'm not sure if I should or shouldn't.
She will be returning in June next year - maybe. She likes the East and might stay. Meanwhile we've become very chatty with each other and get along really well. We communicate several times a day. She knows I'm no idiot and would eventually trace the #....if I never mention anything it will be like a lie from me. I invite comments on where to go from here. I think I have to either tell her I knew all along, pretend I just found out or ignore it completely. Each path has pluses and pitfalls.
Thoughts?
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I'm asking if I should tell her how I found her, pretend I just found out about her via the # she gave me, or leave it for later. The fact she's unavailable to me at the moment makes the 3rd choice more attractive but she didn't give me that # by accident....or did she?
If she brings it up first, I'll tell her I already knew and didn't want to meet her as a customer so I went the indirect route of a FB friend to see if she liked me. It's the truth, and hopefully she'll be flattered about it.
w.r.t. her giving you her escort #, you're a stranger not a personal friend thus why give you heflr personal # - also she may be lining you up as a future custy for when/if she gets back.
And w.r.t. not escorting, how would she be paying for school and supporting herself, looks like escorting is a flexible type job one could use while in school
If she IS still escorting, she's not using BP. Plus, I ran her cell# again just in case and there are no hits less than a few months old from any source. She used to use 3-4 different sites for her adds.
Escort? Dog Groomer? Methinks we are overestimating her intelligence. It is easy to imagine that it never crossed her mind that you might google her phone number and find out about her "past" life. It never crosses my mind to google lots of stuff (like my own TUSCL code name) to see what pops up.
IMO, if you bring up her past escorting (or even acknowledge that that is how you found her) -- you're dead in the water. It seems fairly clear that she is trying to move on from that life. The only way to proceed is to assume she has evolved from that past life until she discloses otherwise. Meanwhile, enjoy the ride and let us know how it goes.
rockstar may actually be a Rock Star.
I admit moving her might be fun though. I know she doesn't have a ton of stuff, and a 2 day drive would be entertaining to say the least. Her TER reviews are top notch!
Yes I'm attracted to her, but of course I come to realize she's the typical flaky sex worker, and I've BTDT so I know what to expect. Somehow I feel if I can't driver her back, she'll find someone who can.