What made you turn from long-term relationships to strip clubs?

21 comments

• K

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  8 years ago

  The two are not mutually exclusive. I enjoy variety. I don't eat the same meal every day. He'll , I eat three different meals each day.
• JohnSmith69

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  8 years ago

  She refused sex except on a very sporadic basis. And the sex she allowed was boring and mundane. So after it was clear that things would never improve and if anything only continue to decline, I turned to strippers as an outlet for my sexual needs.
• mjx01

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  8 years ago

  less "overhead'
• larryfisherman

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  8 years ago

  I had just ended a 10 year relationship with my girlfriend, and I was just looking to try some different things. Now I'm hooked. Thanks a lot TUSCL :)
• shadowcat

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  8 years ago

  Strip clubbing is the result of my divorce. Not the cause.
• Papi_Chulo

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  8 years ago

  Never married - in my 20s I thought I would marry b/c "that is what you're supposed to do (especially in the conservative Latin culture)". I think marriage is a good thing - I'm not against it at all - but for personal reasons I did not feel that urge to get married especially the older I got (30+) and kinda waned to avoid it - for personal reasons I did not want nor feel I could handle the responsibility of a wife and kids. So w/ no marriage in mind; for me personally it made LTRs kinda hard b/c it was hard to stay committed and deal w/ the relationship issues when a marriage and kids are not at play - the older I got the less relationships I was in and the less I wanted to be in them and did not like feeling tied down to just one person - in my previous LTRs I would always get bored of just being w/ that woman - I was not a cheater but got tired of the same person and would often decide to just end the relationship since I wanted to do other things more than I wanted to be w/ that person - I felt if I couldn't give her my best or what I expected for her to give to me; then it was best to end it since there was no marriage nor kids involved - for me I just can't do the same-o same-o day in day out year in year out; can't do it - w/ the caveat that perhaps "I didn't find the right person" that would make me want to stay w/ them long-term. In my mind there are def advantages to being in a relationship - but every time I think of being w/ the same person the whole time it makes me think I can't do it - I get such a rush from being/getting-to-play with different women.
• Meursault

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  8 years ago

  I've been going to clubs for 20 years. I was happily married for most of that time. I only went to clubs when traveling for business. Now that I am divorced I go to a few clubs only 1 hour from home. That is starting to feel a little creepy. I may be starting up a new relationship (too early to tell). I should probably quit going to these semi-local clubs if this relationship takes off, but I'm afraid I like my favorite too much to leave.
• whodey

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  8 years ago

  I figured out this hobby was cheaper than most long term relationships.
• vincemichaels

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  8 years ago

  Like Papi, as I grew older, it became apparent that a LTR wasn't going to be. After a friend and I went to a club in 1978, I became interested in strip clubs. In the 90's as Detroit became one of the better environments for strip clubs, my income rose dramatically. A perfect storm.
• rh48hr

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  8 years ago

  I went to strip clubs on and off (generally on business trips) while I was in a LTR with my ex wife. But I never received extras and kept my hands to my sides and let the dancer do her thing. After my divorce I was still looking for a gf. Had a couple girlfriends then a 2-year relationship with a crazy woman that I should have left early but didn't. after that was over I pretty much felt a LTR was impossible for me and I'd be better off with strip clubs. And for four of the past five years I've done that. I tried the LTR thing again in the middle and it didn't work out. I just don't think I'm cut out for a relationship. I seem to have problems finding a woman who isn't coming off of a relationship with someone who was abusive or a cheater or both. Then I have to deal with the lack of trust issues they have and holds against every man they date. But until that time where i find a woman who is not held back by the idiots in their past. I'm gonna enjoy clubbing.
• georgmicrodong

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  8 years ago

  I still have a long term relationship, with my wife, that just doesn't include much in the way of sex anymore. Arguably, I am in such with my ATF, if 6 or 7 years is "long term." One doesn't preclude the other.
• MASCULINIST100

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  8 years ago

  Actually, the way I look at is long term the SC is what I need to stick it out with an aging woman. She’s my best friend. But she doesn’t give Mr. happy what he needs. I mean she tries. It's just the reality of getting older.
• pensionking

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  8 years ago

  Simple -- sex only every 6 months or so for nearly a decade -- whacking off only lasts for so long. Current streak is Thanksgiving 2014. No lie.
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  What changed my view was a marriage that turned into a death trap. I still have nightmares about it. I still haven't really made sense of it either. Made lots of posts about it. SJG Chaos Magick in Theory & Practice, Sigils, Tailsmans, Shapeshifting, Baphomet, Andrieh Vitimus [view link]
• JimGassagain

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  8 years ago

  I love my wife, and she is hot. I just started dabbling into the underbelly of sex work, but need to be careful with having my wife find out and with what our 5 children and all. Mostly, I went astray looking for late night snacks while on tour. The kids are sleeping when we're at home in Manhattan, and u can get a great pastrami sandwich at most late night delis but the clubs are too high profile in the NYC. With more ananymity I was ready to explore in the Midwest and out west. Portland was the best place to get beer and food, and with my ample resources I need to kill time after my set with the kids sleeping soundly in the rooms by 10 pm. I can't sleep unless it's past midnight so spelunking into above ground cave began to become a irregular hobby of mine after my manager scopes out the scene for me. He advised me not to being too much cash for fear of being robbed which would alarm the presses, so it's interesting how much can fun u can have with 2-3 hundred dollars and good local grub.
• rockstar666

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  8 years ago

  My wife stopped having sex with me about 7 years ago, and I'm not dead yet.
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  I just came to the point where I see monogamy and legal entanglement as insane, like letting someone hold a gun to your head. Or maybe a gun to your cock. I am still working to rehabilitate my functionality! But this does not mean that I am committed to disposable women or pay 4 play sex as the long term solution. No no, I am working on something very big which will address all of these issues. And so here we have Larry, a young man being corrupted! Hee Hee Hee. But seriously, my heart goes out to all the men who have had to endure horrid marriages! SJG Oakland Hottie, I would stop and pick this one up! I love the way she is dressed, and the full hips! [view link] Doxy Spotting, Brazil Hottie [view link] Ciudad Juarez [view link] Juarez, ass display! [view link] Heaven on Earth The Rise and Fall of Socialism [view link]
• Papi_Chulo

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  8 years ago

  "... What made you turn from long-term relationships to strip clubs ..." My GF was to my right and the strip club was to my left - I made a left turn.
• RandomMember

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  8 years ago

  Not everyone goes out clubbing to fill some void in their emotional or sexual relationship with their SO. It's just plain fun entertainment.
• IronFox22

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  8 years ago

  Well, if you're going clubbing and you're SO is ok with it, you've found a rare bird.
• Daybreaker

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  8 years ago

  Let's see...I like going with my boyfriend. Maybe we'll end up like the Sea's....their take on stuff as a couple sounds good to me.