Hypothetical question. You're in a club having a good time and you see the girlfriend/wife of a guy you know fairly well, he could be a co-worker (we call them work colleague), or someone you know socially. The girl you see is with other girls you don't know and she's getting some seriously hot high contact action stage side or on the floor from dancers. You're quite shocked to see her in this environment let alone enjoying herself in the way she is. Although she knows you your eyes don't meet and she is not aware of your presence throughout your stay at the club.
When you next see her guy do you say you saw her and mention what she did, or do you keep it to yourself? When you see her by herself do you mention you saw her?
Speaking as a woman who could easily be spotted like under those same circumstances, I would expect to be treated just like you would had you seen a male friend in the club getting some action. I wouldn't expect a guy to rat out another guy, and he shouldn't rat out a woman either, regardless of who her bf/husband is.
Same here. When I see them - nothing will be said about what I saw. As mentioned above - I might be a bit jealous of how uninhibited she was - but that's it.
If it's a truly close friend -- I mean the inner circle -- it's not even a question or up for any type of debate. My loyalty is 100% to my buddy, and this is information he needs to know, and if the shoe were on the other foot, I'd find it unforgivable and unfathomable if he wouldn't do the same for me.
Keep your mouth shut, especially as she is the SO of a co-worker/colleague. You do not want to bring that drama into the workplace. Don't shit where you eat.
Many years ago I was in the club with my ATF. There was a bachelor party going on right next to us. I went to the men's room and when I got back my ATF told me that she knew the groom from their other job. He told her "I didn't see you here and you didn't see me here and I'm not going to ask you for a lap dance". So I asked her "Do you trust him to keep his mouth shut?" and she said "Yes. I know his fiancee". That was the end of it.
Not saying anything about what goes on in the club only applies to men ? I don't say anything about what goes on in a club.
Even if I thought my friend would want me to say something. If his relationship goes bad he will blame me. She will blame me. if he finds out I was there, I play dumb. I do not want anyone knowing what I do in the clubs unless I tell them. I will extend the same courtesy to everyone else. Even those I don't like.
If she spots me and we talk, the first thing I'd assure her of is that I wont say anything to any one.
Know when to keep your mouth shut. :) Besides, why would you want your name attached to this? I only see downsides to tattling (and I'm Mister Honesty). I vote keep out of other people's business.
In my case, if I was out at the club getting VHM dances, the wife already knows I'm there and what I'm doing. Even if I was at a hotel fucking a dancer, again. I would already have an agreement with the wife. So someone else (well meaning) butting in would serve no good and it would actually bother her more (that someone else knows) than the actual act itself would bother her, if that makes sense. Look, most guys are going to go behind their wives backs, but not all are. Some have agreements I place that are none of your goddamn business.
There is something someone once wrote about meddling in the affairs of wizards ... or was it the affairs of dragons? Either way: you were not invited.
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Privately I would be VERY jealous that he has a wife/girlfriend who is so uninhibited they would do that.
What happens in the SC stays in the SC.
Anyone else, keep my nose out of their business
Even if I thought my friend would want me to say something. If his relationship goes bad he will blame me. She will blame me. if he finds out I was there, I play dumb. I do not want anyone knowing what I do in the clubs unless I tell them. I will extend the same courtesy to everyone else. Even those I don't like.
If she spots me and we talk, the first thing I'd assure her of is that I wont say anything to any one.
In my case, if I was out at the club getting VHM dances, the wife already knows I'm there and what I'm doing. Even if I was at a hotel fucking a dancer, again. I would already have an agreement with the wife. So someone else (well meaning) butting in would serve no good and it would actually bother her more (that someone else knows) than the actual act itself would bother her, if that makes sense. Look, most guys are going to go behind their wives backs, but not all are. Some have agreements I place that are none of your goddamn business.
There is something someone once wrote about meddling in the affairs of wizards ... or was it the affairs of dragons? Either way: you were not invited.