Should we be more considerate?
larryfisherman
California
This thread is about when the customer (you) ask a stripper to come sit by you after her stageset or something. So the stripper comes and chats with you for at least 30 minutes, probably closer to a hour (the slow hustle). She eventually asks for dances, and you agree.
You're not usually one to spend a shitload of money in the strip club. Let's say dances are $20. The dances are good, you get three of them, so 60 bucks.
I got to thinking a little bit. Dancers are there to make money. If a dancer spends a lot of time with us, should we feel obligated to give her a lot of money? Time is money, and that time she spent talking with us, she could have been making more money from another customer.
What do you think?
Note: I wasn't in this situation. I'm just laying out a situation of a dancer spending a lot of time talking to a customer, and the customer only getting a couple of dancers from her.
You're not usually one to spend a shitload of money in the strip club. Let's say dances are $20. The dances are good, you get three of them, so 60 bucks.
I got to thinking a little bit. Dancers are there to make money. If a dancer spends a lot of time with us, should we feel obligated to give her a lot of money? Time is money, and that time she spent talking with us, she could have been making more money from another customer.
What do you think?
Note: I wasn't in this situation. I'm just laying out a situation of a dancer spending a lot of time talking to a customer, and the customer only getting a couple of dancers from her.
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If I'm undecided, or enjoying her company, I will let her stay for free as long as she likes until she makes her pitch. By now I've decided if I want VIP, CR or just a quickie 2. Any dancer who spends more than even 15 min. with you with no pitch is taking a break and she likes you enough to take it with you even if it ends up for free.
When I sit with the girl I'm giving her the privilege of sitting with a Rick. How that for consideration?
The rest of you should tip.
Squawk!
At least she got 3 dances out of you $60 and maybe a small tip for the dances. That's better than just one dance ($20) or no dances ($0) or 'just a drink'.
I'd only tip for time, if I enjoyed it. But if you're on a budget, or trying to ratchet down your expenses, it seems like you did alright.
Where I end up vehemently disagreeing with guys is when they come up with arbitrary universal rules, like, "you should pay her $140 for every hour" or whatever. There's no universal rule, what's fair is completely contextual. My total outlay for a 4 hour trip is often around $200 to the stripper, and $100-ish for food and alcohol. Huge win for a dayshift girl on Monday 1:00-5:00pm dayshift, when many girls will have made like $40 during that same time period (on slow shifts, the girls make all their money at lunchtime, and after work), plus she'll have been wined and dined. Probably unacceptable for a girl over 11pm-3am saturday nightshift (hell, $200 probably isn't even enough to wrap that girl up for an hour, much less 4 hours). Completely contextual what is fair and what is not.
Then me and favorite even went to VIP and still just hanging out, no dances. It baffles me still how we just chill in VIP and she off and on dances and only charges me for the dances and the club isn't charging her for the songs she doesn't dance. Anyway I eventually leave and gave her what I thought was appropriate for her time despite no dances.
I usually don't just give for time but last night that's all I did.
If a stripper spends a while with you before dances that's her choice. Y'all may have good conversation going so she's in no rush to start dancing especially if it's a slow shift. If the dances are good, yeah get more, but despite my last night, compensate her based off the quality dances not time she decided to spend.
A few weeks ago, a dance sit beside me at the bar, uninvited. I tried my best to have a conversation with her, but only got 1 or a few words response. We just did not click. No extra tip for her.
I told her I was waiting on my CF, and she moved on.
if a dancer spends time w/ me and she’s my type; I’ll def get a few dances from her but won’t tip just for talking – if she sits w/ me out of her own volition I feel no obligation to spend any $$$ on her if I’m not interested in her and will get her to move-on sooner than later so we can both get on w/ our business (she won’t waste her or my time).
Every now and then I see deadbeat custies that will call dancers over or grab them as they walk by and will get the dancers to sit w/ them for a while and then not buy any dances from them; that shit is whack IMO.
It’s hard to know how much to spend on a dancer for her time via buying dances: I’d say it’s up to the dancer how much time she wants to invest b/f popping the question; what I may do is tip her extra after the dances if I enjoyed her company prior to the dances.
Having said all this; since I go to $5 and $10 per dance black clubs; I spend most of my time getting dances or just checking out the scene and thus I’m not big into convo or just hanging out talking with a dancer more than 5 or 10 minutes and usually not even that – I actually just prefer the “wanna a dance” so I can get my grind-on and then move-on to the next grinder.
Their hoes...not morons....wait let me try that again.