Kissing/Proper Etiquette for Kissing
larryfisherman
California
So far in my strip club adventures I've only been kissed once. I'm a big fan of kissing, I would like more of it. I'm constantly reading reviews where TUSCLers are engaging in tongue to tongue with their dancers. I've read on here that some of you tell the girls you want kissing.
Is kissing pretty common? What do I got to do to get more of it? Is simply asking for it the way to get it?
Also as far as the etiquette of kissing, when a dancer does the nose to nose and your lips are very close together, do you go in for the kiss then? Or do you not kiss her unless she starts it?
Some advice from you experienced veterans would be greatly appreciated!
Is kissing pretty common? What do I got to do to get more of it? Is simply asking for it the way to get it?
Also as far as the etiquette of kissing, when a dancer does the nose to nose and your lips are very close together, do you go in for the kiss then? Or do you not kiss her unless she starts it?
Some advice from you experienced veterans would be greatly appreciated!
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Nevertheless, it happens. But it's more common on an OTC date. I suggest you find a good OTC provider and there's a much better chance kissing is included.
If you must kiss itc, you've got two options. First, ask and make clear that her permissiveness in kissing will make a big difference in what you're willing to pay. Most will say no but some will say yes especially in an extras club
Second, when she brings her lips right next to yours, make contact very gently. If she doesn't pull away immediately as if she just touched a hot iron, then get increasingly more assertive as it goes. This is more likely to succeed if it's an extras club, if she is giving you a very erotic dance, and if you're getting multiple dances in a
I'll start slow, with maybe a peck on the cheek or lips or brush my lip against her nipple. Then, I'll see how she responds. She'll either go with it, change positions, or politely say no kissing. Sometimes I'll start kissing somewhere else on her body, like her stomach or neck and see how she reacts.
If her signals say no at this point, I won't try again. However, if she continues getting close after that, I'll escalate things a bit. This has led to me making out with a dancer's boobs, but I haven't tried DFK yet. I've never been to an extra's club, so I imagine it's a lot easier there.
That last word is very important so I put it in a post all by itself.
It's true - some dancers will swallow your load - and not want to kiss (they say it's too intimate?) - and I'm happy with that too.
RTP is right - you don't know where that mouth has been - especially in full service clubs - so keep that in mind. I've never handed a dancer a bottle of listerine before a private dance - so I'm not sure how to make sure her pipes are clean!
I've never been rejected, but I also don't try it with every dancer.
its only happened to me twice and obviously the dancer initiated it both times. it was great each time. i'm a big fan of it, too.
are we talking front room action or backroom action?
because backroom action is a sucker's game
only a fool does backroom action. lol
@ twentyfive - I suppose you could say the same when girls give BBBJ's?
It's definitely an activity with the widest range or dancer responses.
One of my favorites (who quit dancing last Dec) would DFK, on occasion.
Other dancers have kissed me, after I had visited them a couple of times. But it is rare, I would say more like 30%.
During my club visit 2 weeks ago, I had a private session with a dancer I had not seen for a while...but had spent time with her before. She did not seem like the type to kiss a customer, so when she did it was a great surprise.
Last week, i initiated the kiss, and she reciprocated. I think I finally found a new CF!
I find that if a girl "doesn't kiss," if I eventually convince her to do so, it's far more enjoyable. Both my ATF and the MILF fall into this "reluctant" category, and both turned out to very sexy kissers when they relented.
In non-extras clubs, there are certain girls who just trip my trigger and with whom I love light kissing, especially if -- as gmd described just above -- she plays hard-to-get and I win her over.
Are the girls at Stripperweb out of touch with reality? I get the feeling (according to them) that if you try to initiate/kiss them, then they will slap you and/or call the bouncer.
I don't think I'm gonna ask a stripper if I can kiss her, that seems kinda lame.
I think Sinclair makes a good point.
It's "stable", not roster
Wha...??!? SW out of touch with reality?! Crazy, man!
Other than the fact that it seems as if none of them have actually ever been in a strip club, since no strip club I've ever been to works the way they describe things, I think they're right on.
And where her tongue might have been earlier is just something that I choose not to think about.
DS III is the best kisser of all. Unbelievably giving and permissive, genuine and erotic. It's worth the search for a great kisser. S cat is right, it's really not a GFE without some awesome kissing.
One technique I've found works is doing a tequila shot and taking the lime from their mouth. They often agree to that. It breaks the ice as far as kissing.
A few years ago I found spitting worked as a way to get strippers to do it. I'd say success is about 65%. But of course that has to be in the context of a dommy style lapdance where they are slapping you, digging their nails in, putting pressure (or more) on your cock with their knee... Then you ask them to spit. There usually isn't much reason for a girl to object hygiene wise to spitting in your mouth. But it as soon as they start doing it feels more intimate than kissing, even for them. When you then ask to kiss they usually agree.
If you cannot do that, then you will have to be satisfied with watching and/or dry humping (not that there is anything wrong with that - to each his or her own).
With another dancer (looks like CF's twin sister), she started some mechanical LDs, (literally the dance was a computer program, which rotated the same moves every 2 songs, boring) for which I stopped her. We took a break, offered her some feedback, told her if she's switch up the visual variety, give some 2 way HM/VHM, rub herself all over me, including that gorgeous ass all over my face & nose, and I mean grind it baby, that I'd make it worth her while. The 'rub' and 'gorgeous ass' comments got a rise out of her. She got pretty eager and gave a nice set of erotic dances. Seriously, I think dancers smell money like PLs smell pussy juice. So I made good and paid her and tipped her, made it worth her while, like I said I would.
I go to leave the club. She hugs me then, sits me down, says I should come back and see her (Sun and Mon), then starts kissing. After the uncompensated kissing session (lip only, no tongue) she says, I should definitely come back to see her. Except I haven't been back. (!!) Man, I need to learn to take a hint!
I wish I had something to offer other than (1) spend a lot, (2) respect her boundaries, and (3) tell her if she ups her mileage you'll make it worth her while. I don't make a lot but I don't have time for games either. But I'm still learning.
Dont get an unhealthy fantasy she is some kind of virgin. She isn't and neither are you (I hope, but this is the internet.....).
I'll write more about it in the future, but IME, the kissing ratio is 7%. You must try atleast 14 unique dancers in the VIP room or LD area to find 1 that GFE kisses.
Then if you want to kiss her, when the time is right, just kiss her.
Getting into a discussion about it with her is only a very last resort.
I learned this decades ago in AMPs. It makes all the difference. If she goes for it, then usually it will not be just GFE, it will be mind blowing. She will turn it into a GFA ( Girl Friend Audition ).
Good Luck,
SJG
i'm a little confused about what you're trying to say here. was your asylum co-ed? did they allow you out of isolation once in a while to mingle with your fellow lunatics or something? was it more than an hour a week? or are you saying all you crazies had to take group showers? or were these ""women" the same ones who are going to join your organization and exist only in your head?
i'll take your answer off line with another of your psycho PMs please.
No, this is what is so great about strip clubs, front room fraternizing. This is why it beats out other venues. Play with them in the front room, get to know them, feed them some money, and turn on so charm.
SJG
Better not to have a discussion about it. That is only a worst case fall back.
And you do need to approach it in a completely civilian manner. The more nuzzling and nose rubbing she can be induced into, the better.
I have found that sometimes they go for open tongue kissing, and that is a good way to start.
But when it comes down to it, you just kiss her. No explanation is ever necessary. But she has got to like you. Clean smelling, clean breath, nice clothes, open and honest with her in you communications, just like making it into your first date with her.
Once you kiss her though, you own her. She is your GF. So when you kiss her, do it like you really mean it.
SJG
So with most of them, that is giong way outside of the normal club doings. And if she lets you kiss her, she wants you to do it well.
Women are sticky, like the stuff inside the Roach Motels. That it is a pay 4 play venue does not change any of this.
SJG