One of the issues that I've faced in on line dating are age issues. Basically I don't want 85% of the women my age because they are ugly. And often fat. Make that 95%. Turns out this is not a problem. In your on line dating profile, you set the age of the people you want to meet. I put women 35 to 55, which is more or less my age and back 20 years. It originally said 25 - 55 but I changed it. I've had tons of success going back about 10 -12 years, which is early to mid 40s age range. So many reasonably attractive women in this age range have messaged me that I haven't even had time to pursue the matches that the site regularly sends me.
It turns out that the vast majority of women identify an age range in their profile that is 10-15 years older than themselves. So the typical 50 yo woman says that she is looking for men aged 50-60 or maybe 50-65. The numbers range for women is incredibly consistent. They almost never say they are looking for a man younger than themselves, and they almost always say they want a guy who is up to 10 or 15 years older than themselves. It's like all of the women exchanged a memo and all agreed to seek only this category of older men.
These age ranges hold true in the women making contact with me. The average woman who messages me is about 42 - 47 years old. Only once has a woman older than me ever messaged me. That was kind of funny. I'll post the story maybe. But I've had a few dozen women in their 40s seek me out. And I've already got dates with three of them.
I realize that women could be lying about their ages but I think that's unlikely on any large scale. These women almost all want a relationship, they are all into authenticity, and they are very wary of men lying in their profiles. They are not the types to be blatantly lying about themselves. Sure their pics might be a little old or touched up, but I don't think most of them are blatantly lying about objectively verifiable facts like age.
I don't see guys profiles, but several women have told me that guys are always looking for younger women. No surprise there. No woman has ever acted surprised or upset that I'm seeking women so much younger than myself.bthey clearly expect and accept that.
So what I'm wondering is this. Why are women mostly seeking out guys 10-15 years older than themselves? I really didn't expect this. I know that strippers fuck older guys, but I wasn't aware that civies are apparently following this trend as well.
I'm wondering why are women almost universally going for older men on line? Is it some widespread daddy issues phenomenon, or are women just genuinely attracted to older men? Or have women just acquiesced to the fact that men want younger women so they go for older men because they've given up on getting a man their own age? This is clearly not just women coming after my money because their profiles almost uniformly state that they are looking for only older men. I can count on one hand the number of women's profiles in which they are seeking a man even a few years younger than themselves.
Its probably because women of all ages are seeking the safety and stability that their father provided, or if they had an abusive relationship with their dads, maybe they are seeking an idealized version of that.