So about pursuing a Dancer
ChasingTheDancers
I am new here,
Ive done a ton of reading, I know you never fall in love with a stripper, they are what they are and they dont give a fu** about you. You're a walking ATM and nothing more. I'd be lieing if I said this one was different, but I find myself oddly attracted to her, only gotten one dance from this one dont know a lot about her. I'm enfatuated not even close to love, but ill be honest I've developed feelings. Nothing I can't handle but I want to pursue her.
I'm no tool In the shed I know I'm playing with fire if I do this, often dancers come from broken childhoods and with a relationship comes all of their baggage and drama too. But it's weird. Its like knowing you're going to die if you keep going but you do it anyway. I want to date her knowing full well that I'm entering a world of shi*.
Look ill get to the point. Idgaf if she rejects me, I know she might one up it though and play the emotion game then try to drain me dryer than an 80 year old pu**y.
How do you know it's real? How do I know she's playing me?
I don't plan on spending a lot more money on her and ill drop her the second I think somethings up, but people I want her.
How do I proceed?
Thoughts?
Ive done a ton of reading, I know you never fall in love with a stripper, they are what they are and they dont give a fu** about you. You're a walking ATM and nothing more. I'd be lieing if I said this one was different, but I find myself oddly attracted to her, only gotten one dance from this one dont know a lot about her. I'm enfatuated not even close to love, but ill be honest I've developed feelings. Nothing I can't handle but I want to pursue her.
I'm no tool In the shed I know I'm playing with fire if I do this, often dancers come from broken childhoods and with a relationship comes all of their baggage and drama too. But it's weird. Its like knowing you're going to die if you keep going but you do it anyway. I want to date her knowing full well that I'm entering a world of shi*.
Look ill get to the point. Idgaf if she rejects me, I know she might one up it though and play the emotion game then try to drain me dryer than an 80 year old pu**y.
How do you know it's real? How do I know she's playing me?
I don't plan on spending a lot more money on her and ill drop her the second I think somethings up, but people I want her.
How do I proceed?
Thoughts?
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Always remember though, never treat dancers, strippers, hookers, any differently that you would treat other women. Never ever treat them like prostitutes. Never talk to them like they are selling sex for money.
SJG
I don't want to encourage it, as I don't like the female thinking which underlys it.
It works in strip clubs, AMPs, retail stores, and walking across the Stanford campus.
SJG
@SJG I wont treat her badly, I'm a gentlemen and I treat women well. I know I shouldn't ask these questions an SC isn't the place for love, hell im crazy but not stupid.
@MrBigGuy
We didn't speak very much but she gave me 2 dances for the price of one. She was nice bot sure what made her feel so generous anyway I wont be back for a few weeks and I'm sure she wont remember me at all, it will be like starting from ground 0 again not sure if thats good or bad though. To answer you though I have no idea how long shes been in and we didn't speak about meeting again.
@SJG and twentyfive
Damn I'm cheap do I really need to fork out the money for a sexy 3 piece whiter?
Good luck!
If you stop dropping a lot of cash, then her mind will move to less stripper mode.
Get your pimp game going, if you're not pimp'n you're hoe'n . Smile smile smile a lot.
At twenty-three a stripper will get you mad cred.
Don't fall in love with the pussy, fall in love with your confidence.
Good luck
Rockstar and Chasing,
Yes, when I have worn suits, it has usually been for work. I don't like it. And I agree that it can be creepy looking. I like your alternative, the stage outfit.
Chasing, a girl you meet in a strip club is just like any other girl. You can steer it with her anyway you want.
SJG
30 Seconds Over Winterland
Jorma Kaukonen singing lead
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=izuKKcJe…
I found the entire post cringe-worthy, but this might have been the highlight :)
---> "How do you know it's real? How do I know she's playing me?"
In 100% of the times I've moved past a stripper/customer relationship:
1. She did not charge me for our time. If she charges you, you're a customer, period.
2. She pursued me as much as I pursued her. People who like each other, seek to spend time with each other, and having studied this topic very carefully, I can say that strippers are people (!!!).
Obviously, in all cases is started out as classic stripper/customer with me paying her and me seeking her out. But if 1 & 2 aren't present, you know exactly where you stand -- strippers are beautifully transparent that way.
At least you seem to not be going in blind.
First of all you have to be honest w/ yourself – are you in-love or in-lust – if it's the latter; P4P may be the most efficient way to go – but if you insist on dancing with the devil:
+ are you compatible – i.e. are you into the same things – e..g. she may be into drugs and you are not – if this is the case; then even less of a chance of it “working-out”
+ are you ok with her being a dancer while she's your GF – the only 2 choices I see are 1) be 100% ok w/ it 2) she quits dancing while she's with you and you take care of her finances
+ don't show your hand – i.e. don't let her know if you are pretty well-off financially or don't try to impress her with your finances – she may expect you to take care of her financial issues if she feels you can
+ it takes two to tango – it's not just about you and what you want – what does *she* want/need/expect – believe me; plenty of guys want to bang her
Conclusion:
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You seem to know the potential pitfalls – as long as you know it can blow up in your face and it's not what you thought it would be (or anywhere near); then go for it preparing for the worst and hoping for the best
Report back to us.
How to determine if she is your GF, did she ever get your a physical birthday gift or a physical gift? Sports jersey, a rose, a fav DVD you talked about, something that took a $10 or a $20 to buy. Does she pay her own cost or some of the bill for a restaurant? Has she met your family, or you met her family? Her family doesn't need to know what exactly you are, escort/john, BF/GF, "just friends", coworker, fiancee, it doesn't matter. The question is, would you recognize her family by face, or her family recognize you by face?
Have you ever been at her house, not her incall motel room, but at her house? Does her house have mail envelopes with her name lying around?
There are certain rules and walls that strippers and custies have. The personas are fake. The stage names are fake. You dont mix your private life and your job. All strippers keep provisions for retiring or disappearing from sex work when college/baby/their drug addiction is over. A stripper wont have have custies as facebook friends unless her FB profile is her stage name and she tweets nude mirror selfies every day to her fans.
SJG
But, then, why does it matter to you if she's true or not true?
Just like what I'm doing to my CF2, I learned not to know more about her life, not ask questions that show her true colors.
I just learned how to play her game the hard way.
I have a number of stripper Facebook friends, all with their real names and their families, and the relationship is still stripper/customer -- although maybe stripper/one-of-her-favorite-customers. Since you use the term "custie", i'm guessing you're stripperweb-ified, and the sw girls would never admit that this happens, but it hasn't been terribly uncommon for me, I know the real names and have some sort of social media contact with many of my atfs. I also think notions like "All strippers keep provisions for retiring or disappearing from sex work when college/baby/their drug addiction is over" are also sw fantasies more than anything, but that's a whole 'nother topic.
I think it was GACA(?) (or may have been lopaw?) whom used to say “if you gotta ask; then you are being hustled”
Few questions
1. What does CF2 mean?
2. Whats the best way to get her attention at the club?
3. Pepsi or Coke?
Ill update yall in a few weeks keep an eye out for my new discussion post.
2: Money. Maybe going down on her with asking for anything in return. The latter actually worked for me not too long ago.
3: The Glenlivet. Double. Neat.
Becoming fixated on one pussy is a chump move. No matter if your goal is harem building or finding Ms. Right, you need to chase the girls who are receptive to your advances.
By all means work this one, but diversify your portfolio, because she seems.like a long shot.
Dropping lots of $$$ over time to try and shock and awe her into being your sugarbaby is also a longshot. Golddiggers are smarter than fish, much better at nibbling the worm without taking the hook.
If she's up for P4P, you have to convince her you meet her minimum standards for safe and non-annoying. You will not get a lower fee by badgering her. If you get a lower fee because she has a bill due, expect a depressing fuck.