Need Some Advice on a B-Day Plan.
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I'm nearing the big 30 and I'm ready to finally lose my V-card in a special way. Over the past seven months, I have visited several clubs in the DMV area and amassed a list of favorites. I'm a workaholic who tried relationships with normal ladies, but watched each attempt go down like the Hindenburg or Ava Devine on Shane Diesel. Anyway, I don't know how to approach my ATF dancers about it, and as you know, dancers can sometimes throw mixed signals,no-show, or bring their handler with them to mug you or worst. So to all the experts on the board (patrons, dancers, ex-dancers, etc), what should I do? Should I go down my list of ATFs and cautiously engage them with the standard fee that runs with this arrangement, rely on my contact who has connections to hook me up with someone, or should I bite the bullet and hire an escort? I'm just worried about the day of my B-day that it's going to be me in a hotel room by myself. I want to avoid that and have some fun. What would you do?
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For your first time you might want to pay a little more than the average just to make sure you get a girl. After you've done OTC once, it becomes a lot easier.
I don't think any advice on here is gonna help you.
Also keep in mind that strippers aren't the most reliable people. So you must be prepared for the chance that she won't show. To deal with this see her a few times itc before the big date so she gets to know you better. And always have a backup plan. In case she doesn't show I would plan an evening at a nearby club that offers extras.
For your BD it would be tempting to overpay. Just remember, if you want to keep seeing her she'll expect the same amount on future visits.
Good luck.
No offense intended but you should honestly take a close look at yourself and figure out why you're not getting anywhere with women, what you're doing wrong. No matter how much you work a guy your age should be able to hook up without paying unless there are some serious flaws in your game. Take a step back and access yourself or discuss it with a couple close friends.
Hire an escort dude. Strippers aren't for a guy like you, at least not yet. They'll smell your pathetic desperation, secretly despise you for it while outwardly playing to it, and then fuck with you in every way but the one you are seeking.
Hire an escort and a well reviewed one at that. Get hammered first if you need the liquid courage to dial one up.
After you finally find someone willing to let your dick into her, you may want to think about dealing with whatever it is that is keeping you from getting laid. If you are fat, then go to the damned gym already and lose some weight. If you look like the elephant man, then explore some plastic surgery. If you are crippled, find some support groups with other people in similar circumstances. If you are simply unable to deal with people, then pm Dougster for a referral to a shrink - he's no doubt has seen several by now and anyone who could help that socially retarded and sociopathic Asperger's sufferer, even if just a little, can probably help anyone.
You should have gotten laid almost by accident by 30 without some serious problem(s). You need (1) a hooker and (2) some other help, either in that order or in the reverse.
Good luck!
Don't make it too big a deal about it being your bday and having to “score”- as others have said dancers are often flakes and not every OTC is a “banging” success especially if you and the dancer don't know each other very well – and don't be surprised if it does not happen – OTC is not as easy as it sometimes appears on here; many dancers don't do it and many are apprehensive about meeting a man OTC they don't know very well (and understandably so).
For everyone giving you a hard-time about it; fuck them – “he who is without PLness cast the first stone” - dumping on others seems to be in vogue in today's society and it seems sorta a guilty pleasure sorta like watching reality-TV (Jerry Springer) for some – based on this and some of the feedback you've gotten on-here; best to not disclose your V-card too openly especially with people not close to you b/c as you can see you'll get treated “as if something *is* wrong with you”.
Having said all this – in my professional PL opinion a man needs to get laid/fucked at least every-once in a while if not w/ certain regularity – it's really a biological *need* more than a “want” - I don't think a man can really function normally and to his best not having this need met; especially a young-man b/c it's a biological need in a man's makeup (especially a young virile man) – and IMO often times sexually-inexperienced guys make wrong decisions in a mate just b/c they are so hard-up.
We grow and mature w/ every decade in life – in our 20s we often don't know what we are doing or supposed to do – in our 30s we start figuring it out and getting better at it – and by 40+ we can get to know who we are and not live by what other say we are or should be (of course some mature quicker than others) – don't worry about the past – IMO it's more important how one finishes than how/where one starts.
Now go on and get laith.
Anyway I originally thought op was legit because he had some reviews but now he says he was way too involved in some relationships yet he's still a virgin.
Doesn't add up to me, I smell a troll.
Either way, Papi is right, it's probably not a good idea to let the strippers know that. Even if you do tell them, they probably won't believe you and just consider it customer shit.
Sadly, I can't give you any advice for losing it at that late age, other than to not think too much on the emotional significance. That way lies danger.
I think the V-card should be kept to one's self more so in the outside (non-SC) world – IMO most-people/society do/does not need to know one's personal sexuality no-more than people in general need to know what goes on b/w S.O.s; one's sexuality is a personal thing and should be kept that away except with some select people in one's inner circle; IMO.