Backing away from a favorite
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Atlanta
I've recently acquired a favorite at Follies, but am starting to get a little antsy for something different. What's the best way to pull back a little without doing any damage to the friendship?
So far, I find myself spending alot of time with her in the club. We haven't been to VIP, or even discussed it (though she has mentioned some things she would like to do to me). I get the sense she is just comfortable milking money out of me. Maybe it's time I take the VIP plunge. Thoughts?
So far, I find myself spending alot of time with her in the club. We haven't been to VIP, or even discussed it (though she has mentioned some things she would like to do to me). I get the sense she is just comfortable milking money out of me. Maybe it's time I take the VIP plunge. Thoughts?
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Since she's been spending time with you for peanuts, I think it's a decent bet that for real money, she'll show you a great time. Otherwise, if I've been hanging out with Porsche but now I want to see Candy, but don't want to completely blow things with Porsche, I find it's just easier to be transparent. I'll tell Porsche, "Hey, I have an appointment with Candy today, but I totally want to hang out with you next week, ok?". That's it. The way to get her pissed off at you is to sneak around, or ignore her, or make her think Candy stole you, or whatever. You have a fighting chance to keep Porsche happy -- and get her feeling like she should be on her toes a bit, in the process -- is by being matter-of-fact and transparent.
A dancer should treat a custy fairly and by the same token a custy should treat a dancer fairly – but you wanting to be w/ other dancers and spending $$$ on other dancers is not being “unfair” to her – 99% of dancers will drop you/me for a bigger fish and understandably so IMO.
Do what's best for you – most dancers will still want your $$$ in the future even if you brush them off today – IME the more accommodating and “nice” I try to be to dancers the less I often end up getting from them - “he who holds the gold makes the rules” (especially in a SC IMO) – I think it's a bad idea to give them the power on top of giving them the $$$.
And yeah subra is right, your post seems contradictory.
Sub - you are right. I think I'm in a hanging out rut, and since she hasn't expressed interest in VIP, I'm letting things happen organically. I think she will be okay with transparency.
Papi - you are one smart, white Hispanic. She will gladly take my money either way, and she gets how the game is played.
JS - I'll take the VIP plunge and let y'all know how it turns out. Thanks for the encouragement.
IMO/IME one's SC visits will often be much-more productive if one is proactive about what they want and don't leave it up to the dancer – dancer usually has her best-interest in-mind or just a different POV about things.
Still confused on your dilemma?!? Do you want to try new girls but afraid you'll offend her? If so just go on a shift that you know she's not working.
I have a similar issue with a stripper I adore - absolutely adore and I don't want to offend her by asking what I normally have no issue asking. I will see her again at the end of the month and I am prepared to ask her "what do I need to do to have the privilege of having sex with you?" It's the classiest way I can think of asking that question, maybe you should try something similar as well.
I'm okay with not having an IPhone. Much like a strippers legs, I prefer my operating system to be open.