Weird, desperate, or not? I've read varying opinions about this on other sites, but I want to know from you guys. My work schedule seems to change based on the alignment of the stars and the direction of prevailing winds. That being said, when I want to go to the SC, my friends can't always go... So is going alone for those reasons a bad sign or am I just sweating it too much? I'm new to the SC scene and have been going like once every two weeks or so.
I travel alone a lot for work. Thus, I go to clubs by myself all the time. Not a big deal for me. When I go to the club I want to focus on girls not my friends.
I prefer going alone. With friends, you always have to impress them and yet there is always the possibility they may do something stupid. With my one friend, I find it hard to enjoy strip clubbing with him because he tends to tell me about how much better things were in Tampa way back when, plus he tends to just be critical of the dancers. The one time he came with me to one of my local clubs, he was critical of my favorite dancer. She was "fat". Thick, maybe, but not fat. Maybe not his cup of tea, but frankly, I just get sick of his opinions.
I think I can count the number of times I've gone with other people on one hand -- and still have change. The last time I went with a buddy in the Twin Cities, he wouldn't shut up and what he tended to spout off about just got under my skin, things like most of the dancers are lesbians or they were pre-ops. Yeah, I really didn't enjoy hanging out with him.
Except for my wife, who hasn't accompanied me in a few years, I've gone solo for about the past 30 years. Once, I met another monger at a local club to swap stories. Hasn't happened since.
Vincemichaels stayed at my house twice when passing through town. So we did go to Follies together in my car. Other than that I have never gone with any one else but about 50% of the time I run into TUSCL guys that I know once I get there. Sometimes several of them. I am getting close to having met 50 of my fellow mongers. They have never crimped my style or cock blocked me.
I am just as comfortable being by myself as long as there are plenty of good strippers there.
I have a small group of friends that "get it" about strip clubs. I enjoy going with them, they're someone to talk to and we have fun. Usually the drinks get flowing and we even buy each other lap dances. I feel we actually get more attention from dancers when we are together versus me by myself. The only problem is the clubs suck where we live so "us" together in a club doesn't happen often, just when we go on trips.
Therefore, 90% of the clubbing I do is alone, and a good chunk of that is while traveling for work. I think I understand your question and feelings, and for me - to this day I still feel a little awkward walking into a club alone and sitting at a table staring at dancers. You'd think I would have gotten used to it by now but I haven't even though it's perfectly normal. If I'm lucky I find a dancer to chat with which puts me a total ease.
There are many pros to clubbing solo versus clubbing with friends, so you might as well go out on your own and take advantage of them when you're by yourself.
Out of roughly 1000 visits to strip clubs over the past 20+ years, exactly 0 have been with someone else. None of my friends share my interest in the hobby (that I know of), and I like flying solo at SCs anyway. There is certainly nothing weird or desperate about it.
As you're discovering the vast majority of serious hobbyists go solo most of the time. I think that's cause we have a mission to accomplish (sex) and others just get in the way of that mission. Plus many have wives gf etc and need to keep it secret.
The people who go in groups tend to just be there for an occasional fun night with friends. For them, sex with a stripper is just a wild dream that they don't expect or know how to accomplish.
Like most here I go solo except on a few occasions where I'm meeting a fellow tuscler.
It's definitely acceptable to go alone. I used to think that no one went to strip clubs alone. Then I stumbled upon TUSCL and realized it was normal. I have been going alone ever since and there are always several other guys that are alone every time I go.
The way I see it, when you go alone the dancers, the dancers tend to flock to you. They realize that you are there for dances and there is a good chance you wanna spend some money and also they don't have to worry about interrupting a group of guys that might be there just to look at the girls and not spend any money.
If you are at an extras club I think it probably increases your chances of getting extras if you go alone.
That being said, I tend to avoid going alon on Friday and Saturday nights. That's usually when the groups are at the club and not as many going solo.
People who worry it might be weird to go solo are afraid of what their friends might think. If they go with friends, then they'll be safe from being mocked.
I always SC and AMP solo. It will be this way when I travel the country and visit Mexico too.
The girls are my companionship.
When guys go in groups it gets more like at the Sunnyvale Brass Rail, about male bonding, powered by alcohol, and where the women are secondary and other. Without the girls people might think a group of guys like that is gay.
Closest thing I do to that is just posting here on TUSCL. Otherwise it's all solo and enjoying female companionship.
A strip club is unlike most other establishments – it's a sex business – would you take your buds w/ you to go see an escort? – similarly applies to SCs – most hardcore SCers go b/c of the girls; not to hang out; and it's harder to pay attention to and interact w/ the dancers if your buds are there.
Personally – I choose b/w going alone or by myself.
I do everything alone (movies, regular club, SC) so it doesn't matter to me. I usually prefer going alone, but I'll make exceptions if I'm hanging out with people I probably wouldn't see otherwise. If SW is to be believed, the dancers prefer guys who SC alone "because they're there for dances rather than just being around their friends".
I'm a bit like IHearVoices -- I do pretty much everything alone. I prefer it because I don't have to coordinate or negotiate with anyone on what we're going to do. When I'm by myself, I can just go out and do it. Hell, one time that buddy in the aforementioned post and I planned on hitting a club, he changed his mind and wanted to go bowling instead. (I think his wife might've cock-blocked him, even though he kept the SCs a secret from her.) I went along with it because, even though I had some decent scratch in my pocket for the night, stupid mundane things I needed -- like gas and groceries -- came to mind.
^^^^lmao at "often". God forbid you're going to the club and you forget it at your house lol.. But anyways yeah you guys make a lot of sense. I used to be very social with going to different places to chill with friends. Nowadays if I'm not going somewhere with a girl, there's a high chance I'm going by myself. Everything is more likely to go as planned if there's only one party involved, myself. Going to the SC is definitely the same. My lifestyle definitely doesn't harmonize with 99 percent of my old friends, so apart from my cousin and best friend which are my partners in crime with everything, I ain't going with anyone. Plus I did notice an increase in mileage when I was solo, so I'll be doing that more often.
I think most of the time when you see a group of guys, it's a bunch of guys just partying, and the scene is more about them being together in the strip club, than about the strippers. Which is why most guys seem to go alone, except on the big party nights (friday and saturday night shift). I count myself lucky to have a small group of friends who all love strip clubbing, and I think it makes it far more fun, gets us more attention from the strippers, etc. I always pick SCing with those guys, over SCing alone, if any of them can make it. But I still SC alone and enjoy it.
Yea you are sweatin this too much. I always go to strip clubs alone. Daytime/Nighttime 24/7...........Your friends sometimes will have to work. Just go alone . You will not be bored with the pretty women keeping you company.
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I go solo all the time.
Usually go to the same clubs, so I know most of the people who work there. So, I'm not really solo as I find lots of people to talk to.
Other guys cramp my style
I prefer alone.
With my friends Jim and Johnny
Yeah, all by myself
I am just as comfortable being by myself as long as there are plenty of good strippers there.
Therefore, 90% of the clubbing I do is alone, and a good chunk of that is while traveling for work. I think I understand your question and feelings, and for me - to this day I still feel a little awkward walking into a club alone and sitting at a table staring at dancers. You'd think I would have gotten used to it by now but I haven't even though it's perfectly normal. If I'm lucky I find a dancer to chat with which puts me a total ease.
There are many pros to clubbing solo versus clubbing with friends, so you might as well go out on your own and take advantage of them when you're by yourself.
The people who go in groups tend to just be there for an occasional fun night with friends. For them, sex with a stripper is just a wild dream that they don't expect or know how to accomplish.
Like most here I go solo except on a few occasions where I'm meeting a fellow tuscler.
The way I see it, when you go alone the dancers, the dancers tend to flock to you. They realize that you are there for dances and there is a good chance you wanna spend some money and also they don't have to worry about interrupting a group of guys that might be there just to look at the girls and not spend any money.
If you are at an extras club I think it probably increases your chances of getting extras if you go alone.
That being said, I tend to avoid going alon on Friday and Saturday nights. That's usually when the groups are at the club and not as many going solo.
We who go solo don't tell our friends.
The girls are my companionship.
When guys go in groups it gets more like at the Sunnyvale Brass Rail, about male bonding, powered by alcohol, and where the women are secondary and other. Without the girls people might think a group of guys like that is gay.
Closest thing I do to that is just posting here on TUSCL. Otherwise it's all solo and enjoying female companionship.
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Personally – I choose b/w going alone or by myself.
I *always* go w/ my best friend – i.e. my dick.
Brilliant!