But he's usually a really great guy
Lone_Wolf
Arizona
I heard a lot of stripper BF drama from a few of the dancers on my last couple of SC visits. The drama they describe is about as dysfunctional as it gets. Drug abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, not working, fights, jail etc....
Funny thing is, while listening, if I ever say anything bad about the loser boyfriend, they've all responded with something like "but, he's a really good guy" Really? The meth head that has no job and constantly berates you by calling you a whore is a really good guy? wtf? I'll never understand it.
Each one of the honey's is sweet, beautiful, funny and sexy. I'll never understand why they put up with such BS.
Funny thing is, while listening, if I ever say anything bad about the loser boyfriend, they've all responded with something like "but, he's a really good guy" Really? The meth head that has no job and constantly berates you by calling you a whore is a really good guy? wtf? I'll never understand it.
Each one of the honey's is sweet, beautiful, funny and sexy. I'll never understand why they put up with such BS.
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Do you live with a stripper?If not,do me a favor and STFU.We have enough white knights on this board.
PS. Doug what is a SNAG?
Sensitive New Age Guy (S.N.A.G). Similar to the Metrosexual, but more timid and sensitive. Dense clusters of Snag's can be found at woman's issues rallies. Extreme examples have been known to experience regular menstrual cramps.
Phil Donahue (extreme example)
Conventional societal wisdom tells us that sex is more important to men than women. By observing the behavior of strippers, can we conclude that a good fuck is more important to females than we traditionally think? Or are strippers, by nature, just more sexual beings?
I think the best approach is as many of the guys above said: just don't put yourself in a position with the stripper feels comfortable telling you these kinds of things.
If you're already past the point of no return, or you've chosen the somewhat-masochistic path of continuing to listen to her, then as you've already figured out, if you say anything bad about the piece-of-shit boyfriend, she'll come to his defense. Your job is very simply: you are to support her and try to make her feel good, while she vents (and yes, that means not telling her what a piece of shit her BF is, and ignoring the fact that the poor choices she's making in the relationship guarantee that things will just get work). Or, in other words, it's not about the nail. This video will explain to you better what you're supposed to do: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAH…
Personally – I don’t think it’s the sex thing primarily; although it may be for some but not most IMO.
Women are about relationships much more than men IMO – most women want and need a guy (sorta like an accessory they gotta have) – so they get what they can.
For a lot of guys; they are just content getting laid and many would not be in relationships if they can get routinely laid – most women are not satisfied w/ just getting laid; “they want somebody there”; sorta for the companionship more than the sex.
If they are tormented in the inside they want to manifest that on the outside period.
Women stay in abusive relationships for a lot of sad reasons.
For some of those whores, that is exactly what they deserve.
On the other hand though, there are reasons why a large portion of the population is marginalized. Chalking it up to individual inadequacies goes nowhere.
I don't engage with people who talk about drug and alcohol related stuff, whether they be men or women. And then once they find out that I am like that, they usually get pissed at me.
What was it a while back, @Shailynn called me a Buzz Kill. I had to look that up in the Urban Dictionary myself. I am honored by that.
There are people out and about who call me the Anti-Christ, who say that I am Satan, and that I am going "straight to hell". There are others who shout the Hitler Salute at me.
This does not mean that I judge people by social conformity and the self-reliance ethic, nothing of the sort.
I reject passive conformity, the doing what you are supposed to do. And I also reject cultural conformity, the alcohol and the drugs.
I don't go along with any of it. It is going to take a consciousness change for our society to move forwards. Its going to take a revolution. We all need all of our wits. Again, there are reasons why so many people are alienated, and then also why so many people can't face life with chemical mood alterants. Some of these chemicals are doctor prescribed to keep people in line, and some the people prescribe for themselves. I don't go along with any of it.
SJG
Humble Pie
30 Days in the Hole
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sdXjm8pZ…
These days, I don't let that happen. I'd rather they not talk at all during dances, even my ATF and I don't talk during dances. I save conversation for when I'm back at my seat. And I steer the conversation away from personal details with new girls.
You take her back conditionally. Maybe be indecisive. Make her "win" you back. Get her to do all the sexual things she was unwilling or reluctant to try when you were "dating". Then dump her when you get bored.
Some of my best fuck buddies were ex gfs who called me when they were drunk or lonely and it turned into fucking.
Same thing happens to a lot of men too but men can cut loose a bad relationship easier. Women want the security of a relationship even if it's bad because they think they can change it for the better. Men just say fuck it and don't mind being alone while they look for a better one.
3. You think they're good girls cause you don't know them that well and when you see them they are naked stroking your cock. Most of them if you got to know them are emotionally just as f'ed up as the boyfriend.
Every woman won't do it, but the point is women staying in abusive relationships ain't un-common.
*shrugs shoulders* I don't get it either Lone Wolf