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Dancers / Stalkers / Murders

ididthisonce

North Carolina

I read the thread below of the dancer of the dancer murdered in Seattle. I have no knowledge of the situation beyond what has been printed, but do have some personal insight on dancers and stalkers. Don’t forget the club world is fantasy. Dancers are there to make money, take your money, lead you on that you are hot and under the right circumstances there could be a real relationship. I know because my S.O. was a dancer.

Every now and then a genuine relationship might develop in a club but those times are rare. Just because you are banging her and paying her bills (i.e. Sugardaddy ) doesn’t mean you have a real relationship. But the real part occasionally happens and I consider myself fortune to enjoyed such. She is still with me now well after a decade, but I am a shit person with a wandering eye who still feels the allure of exotic company outside the relationship. Why? I have reasons but would prefer to keep them private other than strip clubs + dancers + a once in a while escort offers me a momentary escape from the difficulties of life.

Now for my thoughts on the stalkers:

My S.O. and other dancers close to her had trouble with stalkers. I think that stalkers are pathetic losers (all of us are) that are lower than whale shit on the bottom of the ocean. But in their defense, I find that in every case I have knowledge of the dancer has to shoulder some of the blame for trying to manipulate the guy. It starts by having a decent time in the club (a so-called connection). He empties his wallet and then gets her phone number for an occasional call or text next time he is planning to visit the club because she wants to be there to have a good money night. She may even send him a pic or two to advertise.

The next part is the kicker. This has happened in every case that I have knowledge of. She accepts gifts or he begins to pay some of her personal bills (i.e..to help out). It could be feeding the kids, making a car payment or repair, rent or move to a more secure home place, etc. He is making an investment and wants something in return. He may also want to be a white knight and protect her. I think when gifts or money go past ITC lap dances or OTC quickies for cash, the girl is possibly setting herself up for a stalker. When she rides his gravy train a while, the guy gets confused because the boundaries are blurred. Most of us men are stupid and have a difficult time figuring things out because our blood flow has left the brain and settled in our peckers.

By the time that she is willing to give up the gravy train and say “No more” it’s too late and the stalker is obsessed. In the ten or so times I have witnessed stalking, it has not been because a hot dancer quickly “blew off” (pun not intended) a PL in a club, it’s because she blurred the lines and make him think there was something more. Each needs to shoulder their part of the blame.

Finally, when a PL becomes a stalker, not even a court restraining order is worth the paper it’s written on because they still stalk. Managers still let them in the club if they spend decent money. With the resources available on the internet one can find out just about anything on someone.

Just remember that everything is a two way street. Even a ROB doesn’t deserve to lose her life, but I betcha she has blame to shoulder as well for help create a dangerous situation.

It’s just a fantasy guys. Women fake orgasms & relationships all the time.