Being married to a stripper
For the last two years my wife has been dancing at a full nude club. This has been a great experience for us as a couple. I remember hating to see her go but now we trust each other so much more. It can be a little odd seeing customers or managers of her's in public but the excitement is still worth it. Anyone else have relationships like this? I appreciate all comments and feedback so feel free to ask questions.
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If it works for you then good for you.
When you say "excitement" I'm not sure I understand what you mean, as in what is exciting about it for you. I mean I have normal girls dress like strippers and give me lap dances in my home... Is that the same excitement you're talking about?
I "dated" a stripper once. Dated as in I had sex with her and she thought she was my girlfriend. I let her believe anything she wanted because the sex was free. It made me think could I have a serious relationship with a stripper? I would seriously lean towards "no." It really wouldnt bother me if my girlfriend/wife was giving lap dances. I would never want to see that or go into the club. I don't think ANY strippers can be trusted so that's where I couldn't hold a serious relationship. I mean some guys gonna fuck that stripper eventually.
It seems like in a lot of places a girl can dance clean and make more money per hour (with more flexible hours) than she could as an office temp or working at Starbucks. Clean dancers will rarely take home more than $100-200 a shift, depending on the market (unless she's a 9 in a club full of 7s, where her earning will be higher). So there certainly are dancers out there who dance clean and net $20/hr rather than netting $7-8/hr with less flexible hours.
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That's what they all tell their SOs. ;)
Yankee, given this particular audience, which is generally a group of mongers who routinely stick things in the various orifices of their favorite strippers, your story about love in a field of daisies with your stripper wife is going to be viewed with a certain level of cynicism and humor. Go ye forth and all if things are working for you, but the overall message might get a better reception over on the pink site. After all, a dancer support site will invariably be populated by girls who are used to stories about broke SOs who can't earn enough to prevent their wives from climbing into other guys laps - or worse - just to earn a decent living.
May God have mercy on your soul.
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But I know there are some, though rare, that have their act together. I think it takes a special breed: Someone who either didn't live in a family where draconian religious or moral negatives were assigned to sex or sexuality or was able to overcome and set aside such digs, someone with an ability to understand lust and love are separate and such feelings don't necessarily have to be limited to one person, and someone with an ability to separate good, constructive feelings (helping people feel better about themselves, feel better about others and just feel good, period) from destructive ones (the addictiveness and harm some drugs can cause, actions that make others feel bad, etc.).
Sounds like your wife might fall into that "rare breed" category, and rarer still is the man who can accept what she does and even enjoy it.
Good for you. If only there were more like you out there. I've often said I'd be more than OK if my SO would ever decide to have a physical relationship with others and might even like the idea. It would make me feel more at ease with my feeling of wanting to have physicality with others myself. She's not that way, but your wife is and you are, so ... good for you.
As you can see from this thread, the really bad thing about being a dancer is having to deal with lots of misogynist jerks. Do your best to bring some money in, and keep your bills down. This will help to make sure she feels no financial pressure to tolerate mega-asshole customers. Like the ones who are gratuitously insulting her, even though they don't know shit about her. Because of the many dirtbags, your wife may get burned out by dancing sooner than you expect. If that should happen, be supportive, you would not want your disappointment to pressure her to stay in a job that was eating away at her self-esteem.