STILL SEEING HOOKERS AND STRIPPERS AFTER MARRIAGE
rattdog
New York
I actually know way more guys that are married that don't do either than guys that are married that do either or both. my question is why bother getting married if you're going to wind up doing either or both behind your significant other's back? right before the time you do get married, or even way before then, you should know about yourself whether or not you will be visiting those girls. I've been tempted to ask a couple of my cheating friend's this question but didn't because that might piss them off.
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By the way, I bet a lot more of your friends are doing this than you realize. They just won't tell you. At the very least, some of them are very heavily into porn and have kept it at that because they haven't figured out yet how to get more.
I think your situation is the exception, George not the norm. I do know one co-worker whose wife is okay with him having sex with other women - so its a semi-open thing, but she does have to approve of them first.
I think the guy's who actually make their wife aware of what is going on are the real men, as opposed to the tough-talkers but my-action-aren't-consistent with it types.
I agree that we fall outside the mainstream, but I don't think what we have is particularly rare.
By my early 30s; I felt more strongly that I did not want to marry and by then I had enough life experience to be aware that there are def 2 sides to the marriage coin (i.e. it’s often not a happily ever after situation).
What JS69 said makes sense to me – but I also think many guys get married fairly young and with not a whole lot of life experience and go into marriage thinking it’s one thing when it’s often much more than that.
I’m a pretty conservative guy and I’m def not against marriage and personally I think marriage is a good thing; but as I have gotten older I feel I made the right decision w.r.t not getting married’ for me personally – the responsibilities of kids and a wife were not something I personally wanted.
Cheating on her if you are not, does not solve the problem.
SJG
Without actually saying it, it appears you are making the assumption that people marry ONLY for love...it's not.
SJG
All these stories I hear of men can't visit strip clubs anymore, or can't view porn or even look at other women is just not natural. It would be enough to make many men unhappily married with so many restrictions unless the wife was keeping him happy in other ways.
On the pink site, I once posted a thread about how SW pinks were not representative of the types of girls I see in clubs. The more I post on tuscl, the more I see that I could do the same type of thread here relating to club customers. It is a sad state of affairs when I read thread after thread with guys who believe that ,married men should put their balls in a jar, or blow their savings by falling in love with a stripper, or need to post over and over about cumming in their own pants, or burn large chunks of their day trolling on this site, or...
What's next, another discussion about dental dams? Shit, I didn't even know what a dental dam was until I started visiting this site. Seriously now, is this site really populated by men? Our resident purple, lopaw, has more balls than most of you [in the emotional sense lopaw, lol).
Seriously sad state of affairs around here.
Please replace Mickey with Ricky:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NW7VnHnX3…
Right, because seeking to protect one's spouse, who's done nothing wrong, from the potential consequences of one's own actions is unmanly.
Then I'm a pussy. And I'm ok with that.
Oh yeah, obviously your wife is priority number one when you are playing around with dancers. ;)
Someday, Dugan, when the sun finally sets and your time is come, they will lay you in the ground wearing the finest of fine white polyester. That way you can pay strippers for sex in your afterlife. Your headstone will also be the finest white marble and the inscription will say:
"Here lies Dugan. He was a bit of a douche, but he had 12,214,342 club reviews on TUSCL to his credit. And, as God be my witness, he was never a panty waist."
But what I actually find douchy is a handful of unmarried guys sermonizing to married guys about clubs and strippers, as if they are the norm rather than the other way around. If married guys actually subscribed to their theories, many clubs would simply cease to exist. Not all of us use clubs as some surrogate for real relationships, getting so caught up in these faux relationships that we do things like drive out and hand money to their BFs, or haul boxes out of another PLs house, or whisper endearments meant solely for SOs, or [fill in here with another recent example].
And if I am a douche, well, one person's "douchiness" is another person's discipline. I always treat my "friends" (as I call them) with kindness and I always pay them fairly, but discipline is what keeps the ridiculous amount of fun that I have, with dancers in clubs all over the country, from bleeding into my real life. It is also what keeps my annual spending on this hobby from detracting from my other obligations.
Good times.
Yep. And guess who knows all about both of those things? Not only that, but guess who saw the results of *both* sets of STD tests?
Can you say the same?
I'm a pussy, though, so pay no attention to me.
By the way, was the prostitute tested before each and every bareback session? I'm guessing not. So then were you relying upon her word that she wasn't fucking anyone else bareback for money? Boy, you sound like a trusting soul. ;)
I'm also curious about what your wife was doing when you were spending nights sharing that oh so special bareback love with the prostitute, cuddling up after a good round of raw sex and drifting off to sleep with "I love you" whispered in that low bedroom voice. No doubt your wife was trying to get to sleep in her cold empty bed with the Tonight Show on, or anything else to distract her from what her husband was doing with another woman at that moment.
Oh yeah, you're a hero alright. Perhaps you should spare us the sanctimony already. It is both tiresome and disingenuous.
If it helps you sleep at night to think of me that way, go for it. I've acknowledged my pathetic nature, but I can still look my wife in the eye every morning.
Look gmd, I'm not trying to troll you, but what I am doing is pointing out that none of us on this board are immune from criticism for the things that we do. We all pay strippers for sex. To people who don't do that sort of thing, we all fall into a contemptible designation. Sanctimony around these parts is misplaced, to say the least, and the "Noble John" act presented by some posting here is borderline ludicrous.