Do you give the time of day or do you dismiss ?
Papi_Chulo
Miami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
I normally go to strip clubs on a mission.
For the most part I don’t like dancers chatting me up too much especially dancers that I am not interested in.
I rather be scoping out the scene or making myself “available” rather than being “hit on” LOL by a dancer I’m not interested in.
Often I try to be polite and let the dancer do her pitch but often times I’m just not in the mood.
I sometimes let the dancer go on for a bit and if she just does not get the hint I‘m not interested; I’ll just tell her either “I’m not interested in getting any dances right now” or “I just want to chill by myself for a while”; or something else along those lines.
I try to say it in a nice way; but I just hate getting cock-blocked.
So my fellow PLs – does this happen to you more often than you like – and if so – how do you handle it:
+ let the dancer talk you up even if you are not interested
+ cut her off pretty quick
+ other
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If there is no chance I will spend $ on her, I usually say no to visiting up front. I say it nicely. Even if she acts hurt by being rejected I'm still doing her a favor by not wasting her time.
If I'm unsure whether I would spend $ on her, I ask her to sit. Once I decide it's a no go, I politely tell her no dances right now even if she hasn't asked yet. Again no need to waste her time once I've decided.
I only keep a girl more than 5 min or so if I want her body and am willing to pay her for it.
I was at Lexx a few weeks ago and I told the girl after she talked with me for a while that I would get a dance in 5 hours. She didn't get that that was me coming up with a creative no. Then she complained that I just didn't say no. I said 5 hours repeatedly, it was obvious.
I don't come right out and send them away b/c I've done that and a few have replied that they just wanted to talk and made me feel guility.
Of course when the one just sits next to me and won't leave I start to get pissed. My not even looking in her direction s/b clue enough.
If she sits down and starts chatting, I'll typically let her chat for a bit, but when the server asks if I want to buy a drink for the lady, I'll decline, unless I'm really enjoying her company.
And then there are those more persist dancers. My "No thanks" gets a bit firmer, and it could turn into an outright "No."
Steve – I think you are being a bit too literal :)
I personally don’t even mind the “wanna dance” thing since my M.O. in da clubs is just to get dances from multiple dancers – sometimes I like to hang w/ just one dancer but most of the time I rather do the grind and bye.
I just don’t like her chatting me up w/o getting to the point and kinda wasting my time if I’m not interested – I kinda feel bad about being this way but I guess that is the nature of the beast/SCs.
I guess it’s the SC bizarro effect – hot chicks in the civvie world probably hate being hit on by dudes they are not interested in and so do PLs in the SCs by dancers they are not interested in.
just politely say no,i'm waiting for so and so.
But only if she seems like she can hold a conversation and isn't constantly pestering me for drinks.
Other time tho, if I'm not in the mood or she is Definately not my type and no way in hell would I ever get a dance from her, I'll tell them I'm waiting on a girl. They usually don't push it any farther of you make it known that you are there to meet a specific girl, even if it's not the case.