I think the article is basically correct. Now sure most of us do all the things listed, but we know that we are being disloyal to our spouses.
I have done all the things there, and lots more, but I knew I was being disloyal. I don't know if it is possible to make a marriage work. I tried and I failed.
Beyond a point, I was just trying to stay alive, that I might someday have a new life after marriage. So I used our local no touching strip clubs to talk to women and to flirt with them, and to learn. I also used amps to learn how to fuck them much more nicely than I had learned to before.
But I always knew that these things were just temporary remedies to keep me sane, while I held out an olive branch to my spouse. I kept holding that olive branch out, while at the same time I was telling her that things as they are cannot continue, and that unless there is real change, she cannot continue. During the last months I was telling her continually, "You cannot continue."
I was not a pretty picture, but I wanted it to come to conclusion with my integrity intact. So I basically agree with the article, except that I know that the people who are engaging in the listed behaviors most definitely do know that they are being unfaithful.
Many crocks in this list. The notion that our spouse is to have not only exclusivity as to committed intimacy, but a veto power as to any and all human interaction, is an unreasonable expectation that ruins more marriages than it saves. You have to be loyal and bear true faith to your spouse, but as partners, not as mutual bound hostages. Then again fundamentalists do tend to believe in it as a form of bondage to a higher power...
This seems to be a fundamentalist Christian site. But the emphasis on loving one's spouse above all others is not particularly Christian. It's more of a 19th century romantic notion. Early Christianity does not exalt married love. See I Corinthians 7: 1-16.
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What are you doing reading that? Did your wife give it to you?
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A dancer with whom I, and no doubt many others, have dallied in the past posted it on her Facebook page.
I think that's called irony.
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I think the article is basically correct. Now sure most of us do all the things listed, but we know that we are being disloyal to our spouses.
I have done all the things there, and lots more, but I knew I was being disloyal. I don't know if it is possible to make a marriage work. I tried and I failed.
Beyond a point, I was just trying to stay alive, that I might someday have a new life after marriage. So I used our local no touching strip clubs to talk to women and to flirt with them, and to learn. I also used amps to learn how to fuck them much more nicely than I had learned to before.
But I always knew that these things were just temporary remedies to keep me sane, while I held out an olive branch to my spouse. I kept holding that olive branch out, while at the same time I was telling her that things as they are cannot continue, and that unless there is real change, she cannot continue. During the last months I was telling her continually, "You cannot continue."
I was not a pretty picture, but I wanted it to come to conclusion with my integrity intact. So I basically agree with the article, except that I know that the people who are engaging in the listed behaviors most definitely do know that they are being unfaithful.
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@SJG: "Now sure most of us do all the things listed, but we know that we are being disloyal to our spouses."
Oddly, I do some of those things, and I'm not disloyal.
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Using "most of us" in a statement is rarely correct
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Many crocks in this list. The notion that our spouse is to have not only exclusivity as to committed intimacy, but a veto power as to any and all human interaction, is an unreasonable expectation that ruins more marriages than it saves. You have to be loyal and bear true faith to your spouse, but as partners, not as mutual bound hostages. Then again fundamentalists do tend to believe in it as a form of bondage to a higher power...
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This seems to be a fundamentalist Christian site. But the emphasis on loving one's spouse above all others is not particularly Christian. It's more of a 19th century romantic notion. Early Christianity does not exalt married love. See I Corinthians 7: 1-16.
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Agreed.
It's a crock 'o shit.
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If I hadn't put my kids before my wife, I'd have been divorced and happier 10 years earlier.
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