For those without restrictions?
Lone_Wolf
Arizona
Due to my familial and career situation, I have to restrict how much of my personal life I can share as well as the amount of contact I can spend with these honey's. If I had no such restrictions (thank goodness I do), I could see myself getting pulled very deep into the mongering lifestyle. Dudes that have been doing this for awhile will know what I'm talking about.
So, for those of you that have no family, career or other situations that would restrict you from diving in as deep as you want, what are the upsides and downsides of the lifestyle?
So, for those of you that have no family, career or other situations that would restrict you from diving in as deep as you want, what are the upsides and downsides of the lifestyle?
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For me personally; I don’t have an S.O. nor kids and I’m pretty flexible.
For me personally:
Upsides:
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+ FREEDOM – can usually go whenever I want to the club (within reason); but pretty much any day I want (4:00 pm or later) and sometimes even on Su afternoons when bored or just horny
+ scratching the itch – whether I’m bored or just feeling horny and want to see and fondle some titties; can just go ahead and do so
+ variety – SCs are like a candy store one can often get to choose the flavor the PL wants – kinda like a PL’s dream to see a hot chick (or 5) in a SC and feel he has a very good shot at having her w/ minimal effort
Downsides:
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+ can burn thru a lot of cash – like anything else that one enjoys and does often; it can become habit forming and one can fairly easily burn thru all their savings
+ can affect one’s interactions with female civvies – may start to think why date and put up w/ her shit and take her to dinner etc so I can hopefully get some pussy (and forget about a BBBJ) – of course this is relative – if one is with a person they really want to be with then it’s all good; but more often we end up w/ whom we can get
+ as with other habits; it can become something of “it’s never enough†and one is often searching for that high
Also, I think any use of P4P, if taken too far, is perverted. "LDK" HJ BJ, are not really sex, they are just an endorphin rush. Even FS, is often doing to far less than one would think. Get money, insert tab A into slot B, churn until completed. It is not much more than "LDK".
Even longer freer sessions still can be encumbered with so much fake romance, that they become oppressive.
It all just becomes and exercise in despondency.
On the other hand, just going to look at a bunch of pretty girls and getting to interact with them can be life changing. It can make you re-evaluate your own life experiences and make you hand situations differently.
Sometimes, when you can interact with the women more freely, it is possible to set up explosive jungle sex situations which most definitely do change both parties.
So SC and P4P give one some tools and perspective. But the project of making life better on a daily basis remains a work on going.
SJG
I'm only limited by the amount of cash I want to spend. No wife. No kids.
A lot of these baby-dolls are in need and will latch on to any seemingly structure they come into contact with.
I tried the hanging w/ a stripper thing but it was not for me – many of these girls’ lives are somewhat upside down and unfortunately I am the type to try and make it better (does not work I know) – so often times it ends up with the dancer kinda messing up my structure and her continuing w/ her issues.
So for me – the drama is not worth it – one can still get pretty much what they want w/o getting involved or getting the drama.
But everyone’s personality is different – some PLs like; or can handle; walking on the wild side.
I would say the hanging w/ a stripper thing can work as long as one does not get emotionally or personally involved and take for what it is.
But he is also bringing out another dimension. Even if you say you have no limits, hanging around with some of these girls, and with the people they associate with, could be a disaster. So you still would have to maintain protective barriers. With some of them, FS-ITC, with the club's bouncers nearby and the tight time limit of the VIP room session, is still about as far as it should go.
SJG
I think about you. I imagine that it is no appointments and no dates, as that would just slow it down. It changes the dynamics of it too. So it's just see, want, get. Maybe once in a while it's the same girl, but you wouldn't even notice this until after the fact.
SJG
I've been at this long enough to not get too involved in the strippers private lives and so far I have never gotten taken advantage of. I think I can keep it that way.
While I've joined in some crazy situations with dancers it has never infringed on my family or social position. Being semi-retired has allowed me to have sufficient money to see a dancer once or twice weekly but it's getting very difficult to travel and still have my wife at home so the income is decreasing and while my pension allows us to maintain our lifestyle, I can't keep the club life going at the same time. If I'd invested all the money I blew on my ATF I'd be all set, but hindsight's always 20-20.
My strip club visits are far flung and infrequent these days.
I have an immense amount of respect for you. Married 45 years? Taking care of her?
You deserve whatever joy life brings you. I stand and salute you.
I kinda feel the same way but the two SC trips I took this year (Atlanta; Detroit) were a nice shot in the arm.
The plus side is sex is now just the cost of the date, the minus side is the dancers are way hotter than she is and I love hot women, but she's not my G/F because of looks. I genuinely enjoy her company.
I understand the negatives most people are citing, but I honestly don't treat civilian women any differently, and while it CAN be a financial disaster if you go too often, I find myself SCing within my means.
For me, the clear downside is that it can get very easy for SCing to get me coasting in my personal life. I want to be in a serious relationship again, but I find SCing meeting a lot of my personal needs, so I don't work as hard at relationships. It is not hard for me to get civilian dates, but I sometimes catch myself going a few weeks in between dates, and like the characters on Seinfeld, I break up with women for the most trivial reasons -- why put up with anything when I can get many of my needs met by a younger prettier stripper who will indulge most of my weird sexual fantasies? In other words, instead of serving as an outlet, SCing can serve as a distraction. For this reason, I tend to try not to SC as often when I am completely unattached, which serves as motivation to put more energy into developing a civilian relationship. If I at least have a civilian or two I see casually, or more seriously, then SCing can again serve as an outlet for me, rather than a relationship inhibitor.
We all have to take responsibility for the lives we have set up, and then deal with that. Noting strippers can offer you is worth destroying a good marriage. But on the other hand, nothing they can offer you will fix a bad one.
SJG