Things that you should be cautious of doing

One you you should never do is give a dancer too much information about yourself. Back when I went ou twith the first dacner I ever got to know I was free with info about me because at the time I was rather naive in general about a lot of these girls and it to a degree came back to haunt me. THis POS started using the info she did have and since she was a pthological liar added her little touches to it and did her level best to break me up with the dancer I was currently seeing. This all happened bacasue the night I was leaving to go home I stopped in her club to see her before I headed to the airport and unfortunately ran into this girl who minues later saw me with the current one.

I don't know, SuperDude, I find a lot of what's posted here quite worthy of quoting. I do think we should be cautious about taking it seriously.

Quoting this board.

I think that two things you should avoid doing are spending too much and spending too little. If you throw money around or are really cheap, the girls will think you're a jerk and will treat you accordingly. My approach is to be generous enough to reward good performance but prudent enough to look for good value. The value of money doesn't change just because you're in a strip club. I treat dancers the same as I do bartenders or waitresses: good service gets a bigger reward than does indifferent service, and truly bad service gets nothing at all.

It's called advice. It is kind of what the board and site are for as opposed to trading insults.

What most of you should watch out for is catching your dicks in your zippers. Most of you don't seem to smart about this whole buying a drink thing. Don't you know that in a bar who a man buys a drink for, or dosen't as well as what he spends is no one else's business. wHY DON'T YOU ALL MAN UP AND MIND YOUR BUSINESS?

I personally consider drinking beers an integral part of my stripclub experience. I just think the normal hazzards of excessive drinking are amplified in a stripclub.

I'm not afraid to drink and have fun. However I'm also not afraid to piss a dancer off if she doesn't take subtle hints I'm not interested in her. I don't usually get rude but step things up a bit if I want a dancer to leave and she refuses. I have rarely gotten a dancer angry since it happens more often to me than to her. Usually I just have fun. If a dancer sits with me and immediately asks for a drink I will typically tell her no thanks. If she immediately comes back with a rude comment, well I don't believe she is going to be working in that club for very long because I will spread the message about her if she did get me angry.

I agree with the general tone of this discussion but I think you need to be somewhat flexible depending on the situation. For example, I agree with Superdude's first comment to never buy a dance as soon as you walk in the door. But one time I did exaclty that and had one of the best dances I've ever had. I walked into this club that has private rooms in back with cameras in them. A girl immediately grabbed me before I even sat down and said something like, "quick, if we go in back right now we can do anything we want because nobody's watching the cameras yet" (it was early and the place had just opened.) The girl was attractive so I though, what the heck, let's do it. And was I ever glad that I did. So yes, guidelines can keep you out of trouble, but be flexible enough to take advantage of unique opportunities. The only rule I'm not flexible about is I never have much to drink in a club. If drinking is my objective, there are better places to do it than strip clubs. Two beers is my club limit, and I rarely finish the second one.

I think the biggest things to wory about are drinking too much and being afraid to say no or to "offend" a dancer if you need to. I learned that one the hard way when one of the worlds ugliest strippers wouldn't leave me alone. I'd given a courtesy tip, and despite the fact that I would not give her another, buy her a drink, or even talk to her, she would not leave me alone.

Superdude: Your first post happened to me last week. I knew the dancer was up for a bunch of bullsshit when she told me to save her a seat(The club was pretty much empty and no one was sitting with me). Sure enough she came back and sat down and asked for a drink after about 2 or 3minutes of conversation. I flat out told her that I didn't come into the club to buy drinks. She replied you must be on a budget? I said yeah you can say that if you want. She went on to try imply that I wasn't being a gentleman and what not, she soon got up and left after she got the point I wasn't going to spend any money on her. There was a guy at the table next to me whom said he didn't like her as well. She had hit him up for a drink before I got to the club. I just don't like lound & aggressive dancers.

Never discuss the details of your business and give a dancer a card. I hear about offices being broken into by dancers' boyfriends, stealing equipment, money and files to sell stuff to feed drug habits.

Accepting extras you didn't ask for. She will hassle you for all of your money and the scene could get ugly.

Never get a dance from a dancer who picks you two seconds after you get in the club and haven't even ordered a drink. She is looking for you to buy drinks, lunch and dances only from her. Unless she is an 11, send her packing and take your time to survey the whole array. These days dancers grab a guy as soon as walks into an empty or slow club and will not let go.

SC: You're right. I was being a little facetious. You've got to admit, though, it could bug you a bit to give a dancer a smoke and then see her go over and give it to another customer.

Jpac: In your 2nd post, are you seriously suggesting we should order a shot for a dancer, then get another glass and split it with her? I don't know, I think you'd do just as well to flip a coin for it. I'm with Shadowcat in saying you shouldn't sweat small stuff like this too much - save your caution for the big burns. I do agree with the thrust of your first post, that you should go slow in being generous to a dancer who's new to you if you expect to see her more in future visits.

Another tip: Don't give away cigarettes to dancers who see you smoking and come over and ask for one. I've noticed when I ask a dancer if I can bum a smoke, she says sure and gets up and goes over to whichever guy she sees with cigarettes and bums one off him. So don't let her do it! Chances are she's not even going to smoke it.

Shadowcat: I don't worry about over spending because I already have a budget limit before I go in the club. I also don't go to the ritzy gentlemans club so I can have a good time without spending a alot of money. There also might be some guys who might feel intimadated or feel guilty if they say no to a dancer therefore I was stating it so they wouldn't get anything started. If I was a dancer I would rather a customer offer me a drink than for me to ask for one because it's show that they like you but I guess some strippers don't care as long as they are getting what they want out of the deal.

I also have another tip as far as the drinks. I remember one time I had bought this dancer a shot of liquor. I asked her how did it taste? She said "Do you want to taste some of it?" I said yeah I'll give it a try. She ended up getting another shot glass and pouring half of the shot in my glass. I didn't think about it then but later I thought to myself that I had just gotten back some of my money. So this is a strategy you can try as well if you think the dancer is being too pushy and trying to make you spend money on her when you don't want to do so.