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sofaking87
I know most gents have their own bank account,but for those who have joint accounts, how do you set aside "fun money". I know one dude who always buys the groceries, and takes an extra twenty or so with cash back to spend when he goes clubbing with the boys.
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Fuckin' fuck everything!
Esta is right.
On one hand, keeping an "in case she tries to leave me and take all the money" emergency account can't be good for a relationship's health. On the other hand, it seems pretty illogical to me for anyone to be 100% financially at the mercy of another person, even if it's your wife.
Having another bank account on the side is about the only way I can see it working. Since I own a business, I have a full operation (mailing address, banking, cell phone, etc.) away from the house. If I were in your shoes, I would probably try to keep a separate account on the side, but even that is complicated because it is hard to keep hidden if you do not also have a separate mailing address outside of the home, at least as a place for debit cards to be mailed. Maybe a PO box would help with this, but i don't really know.
But even if you could do this now, the problem that you have is that she knows how much is supposed to be deposited into the joint account. As others have said, the time to maintain some freedom would have been early on. Even if you opened up a side account now and you diverted a piece of it to another account, it is likely that she would notice the shortfall and ask questions. Maybe you could do that when you get if/when you get a raise.
So in the meantime, I guess you will be putting aside 20s as you can. ;)
No shared account at all. We keep a monthly spreadsheet where we input our "shared" expenses (rent, groceries, etc.) and also all our monthly income.
At the end of the month, we take our income ratio, apply it to our net expenses to see what we would have contributed if we did have a shared account and figure out who owes who what to balance it out. Because I pay the rent, usually she owes me. Sure, the more we earn in a given month, the larger fraction we pay, but we never earn less than our expenses, so it still pays to make more.
She loves it because she knows she can use her own cash to shop for whatever she wants. I love it because, yeah, the club.
Finding the time to get to the club is more of a concern than where the money comes from.
I am going to assume your SO is not your wife. Am I correct?
FWIW, she's been divorced once already and her ex royally F'd her credit, so she's all about being in complete control of her own finances. I'm OK with that, as I have great credit (got a mortgage on my own) and she's done a great job of doing everything she can to repair hers.
OK. I wonder about those that ARE married and keep money separate. An old ex-friend of mine got a divorce. One main reason, to her there was our money and her money.
There isn't a huge disparity in our income -- the monthly ratio is usually about 60/40 in my favor. But I also incur more costs to get to and from work and pay in more, too. If the disparity was wider, a different model where some of mine ends up being hers might be in order.
We've both agreed it really works well and we have no plans on changing it if we step things up a notch or two.
It helps when your wife already knows what you're doing and you don't have to hide it.