Half of these dancers aren't worth chasing after
I had posted a topic about a month ago about this one dancer that I had met named Sunny. I had found out that we both use to work in the same Profession in the past. I had said that I was going to try and see if I could make connections with her even though I didn't want a relationship just a fuck buddy. Well I found out last night from another dancer that she had quit after a incident with her so callled husband. The dancer told me that Sunny was getting her ass beat by her husband(He is only 20years old) out in the parking lot one night a few weeks ago. Babygirl stated she asked Sunny why she stayed with the guy and she said it is because they have 2 kids together. The bum left after security told him to leave. I was just thinking to myself that this girl wasn't even worth my time in the first place. She is married(even though the marriage is a joke), she has 2kids, and she obviously has issues to stay with a guy that beats her.
In final, what I am trying to say is that half(not necessarily all) of these dancers that we think or hot and want to bang have so much baggage that it is best not to hook up with them period. Be it for sex or whatever just leave it at the club. Time for me to take a break from the Stripclub/GoGo Bar scene. I will probably take the next 2 or 3months off. I was told by a new dancer that a old club of mine in Columbus, GA has gotten back to the way it use to be some 3 or 4years ago. Maybe some time in Febraury I will go up there.
In final, what I am trying to say is that half(not necessarily all) of these dancers that we think or hot and want to bang have so much baggage that it is best not to hook up with them period. Be it for sex or whatever just leave it at the club. Time for me to take a break from the Stripclub/GoGo Bar scene. I will probably take the next 2 or 3months off. I was told by a new dancer that a old club of mine in Columbus, GA has gotten back to the way it use to be some 3 or 4years ago. Maybe some time in Febraury I will go up there.
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"I'm not math guy, I'm not thermodynamics guy."
Indeed, I agree. You are plain and simple: loser guy.
Also what does it means to be "natural"? For example I read in a book on body language that if you sit with your arms crossed people will think you are "closed off" and will be less inclined to talk to you. Since I didn't know this before I read the book, I was careful not to do it afterward. Was that unethical? Is this a "trick" I am playing?
Is being consciously aware of bad body language and preventing it wrong for some reason? How about when I read women for their body language and interpret it based on information I have read but didn't know how to interpet before? Is that wrong? What if I gather the information through my own observations as opposed to read and testing it? Is that more ethical or cooler then?
If I notice that women like it more when my hair is gel'ed than when it is not and I gel it up before I go out (though I think it feels better w/o gel in it), is that a "trick" and hence there's something wrong with that?
Should I not read at all and disregard other people's insights (except for the fine geniuses and studs, here *wink* *wink*) so I can act more "natural"? (Note I do not take for granted things I read: they all get field tested.) What do you guys think?
Secondly, he accuses me of trying to "trick" them. But I am the one who only wants to date strippers who would fit my normal dating criteria. He, OTOH, seems to only be interested in one night stands. Is he the one who is playing the tricks? If they knew him long term would his personality bomb it for him?
As for AN: Fuck, what a fucking retard. I'll demonstrated my superior science knowledge when I blew him to smitherens in the debate over Godel's Theorem. You would think he would learn... Some people are just beyond I hope I guess.
I know how to make it a repeatable process that will work when I want it to (which is actually a small number of cases).
You two have to play a numbers game and hope to get lucky. Sorry, you lose. Loser.
Yep, you lose geek.
I'm the one getting laid science boy. You're the one reading the "how to" manual. You lose.
The posters you named aren't worthy of any courtesy or respect. Like you they have no logical skills, or ability to articulate anything, and can only resort to insults and name calling to pathetically try to further their positions.
Doesn't work though.
My trick is to take a scientific approach to things. If that is bad then so be it, but I certainly won't be ashamed of my inclination to learn, experiment, and improve. I also don't think there is anything wrong with trying to accelerate the process or make it conscious either. Too bad that you do.
Start treating other posters on this board with some level of courtesy and respect (most notably Yoda, SC, AN, FONDL and JC), and I'd consider it.
Until then - you're just the same young, inexperienced, pathetic, cocky for no reason, geek who is deperately trying to "learn" how to trick strippers into dating your insecure ass. Too bad you have to trick them...that sucks for you.
Grow up, for everyone's sake.
Essshhh... Pathetic.
Why not date strippers providing they meet your normal dating criteria (e.g. not crazy or losers or whatever it is)? Then you can have sex with them a whole bunch of times.
Do you ever have sex with the same strippers more than once? How long do these relationships typical last?
In fact, surprised a little, I've asked, "is your husband OK with this?" The reply was always, "well...he doesn't really like it, but he also doesn't know I fool around with anyone or this kinda thing can happen (FS, BBBJ)"
Coincidence? I don't think so.
In my experience I've found it disturbingly easier to lay married strippers vs. the single ones.
I'm not saying your wife strays, but let's not incorrectly assume that a wedding ring or SO relationship keeps strippers faithful.
We're no princes ourselves though.
We're the schleps who go to the clubs to see them strip, instead of doing something a little more productive or interesting with our lives. Some of us schmucks even spend an inordinate time in the angry verbal mosh pit known as the Internet pointlessly bickering and bantering about this wretched excuse of a hobby.
Every moment I spend here is one more moment I have something in common with a pathetic mentally deranged loser like RomanticLover. That doesn't sit too well with me. I think it's time for me to get out of here.
However, it is now clear from the posting here that many posters here think they are too much of losers too be worth dating. Yeah, fuck 'em if you can, but dating, bawk!
Hence the old cornerstone of your world view has been ripped out from under you. My position has won over yours. You are a pathetic defeated man. Go join AN for a drink at the bar and commiserate in your sorrows.
Once again Davids I am confused about whre you think I have ever written that all stripers are angels. Strip clubs are not bible school. Dancers make money by convincing guys that they want to be with them-on one level or another. This is something that a customer should understand walking through the door. ITC you spend money on them, OTC can go either way. The bottom line is that you as the customer make the decision and don't let your little head take control of your wallet or your emotions.
By the way....most dancers are married, particularly the dayshift girls. Night girls usually have SO's. What I love is the stories about customers who get sold the fantasy and keep trying to date the girls. Just a little advice guys, take your experience for what it is, and if you get offered something OTC, or think you are going to get anywhere, it is highly unlikely.
Okay for me thinking about my former ATF "Faith" I wouldn't say that she is a whore but the truth is she does or did lack morals being naked in front of strange guys.
Many strippers are nuts...but crazy girls are often great in the sack or the backseat of your car ;)
I think about 0.5% would clearly make good dating material. Another 1% are iffy. Another 2% would make good friends. Now these numbers are my estimates based mostly on the night girls I've interacted with at Rick's. Starting about Feb/05 Rick's was forced to drastically up the quality of the girls it hired due to a need to present a better face to the public due to legal pressures. Hence I actually estimate that these numbers are going to be HIGHER than for the overall stripper population of the US.
Ok, we got a number of people taking an anti-"Strippers are Angels" stance now. Time for Yoda to come in and do some Jedi level stripper ass-kissing to correct the problem.
The only thing that keep strippers doing what they do is that they can make a lot more money stripping than working some shitty minimum wage job. The profession attracts either shallow, materialistic women who will do almost anything to make a lot of money and don't want to work too hard for it or women who are desperate for money because of their circumstances (single mother, drug habit, shopaholics) but not so desperate that they're willing to try other less savory professions.
I didn't always follow her advice. However, I always regretted those occasions when I didn't follow the advice, so it must have been sound.
Don't worry this weakness in their character can be used to your advantage.