Do you ever get a massage?
FONDL
I've mentioned massage on several other threads here. I'm curious to know how many of you have had any experience with massages of any kind? Personally I'm getting to the point where I enjoy getting a good massage more than going to a strip club and it's a whole lot cheaper too. And there are a lot of similarities: I get to spend time alone with an attractive young woman, there's conversation before and after, there's nudity, and a whole lot of touching. I get the legitimate kind from a licensed therapist, but I'm only interested if she's an attractive young woman. I'd never want a massage from a guy, so I guess for me there's a sexual component. What kind of massage experiences have you had?
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Chitown, try getting one from an attractive woman, it's a whole higher level of relaxation. And Mrs. Chitown wouldn't mind. Maybe. Get one for her too. A gift certificate to a fancy spa is a great gift.
T-water, I've never had one at my house but the therapist I go to regularly is only about a mile away so it's almost the same. And her room is set up so nice that I'd rather go there anyway. I've had several at waterfront condos overlooking the Gulf from my ATF. Perfect.
AMPs spring up in the my area all the time, usually for thirty to forty five days, before the boys catch up with them. I have a colleague who recently got hired, via large cash payments, to get some solicitation charges dismissed against some young Asian women. As soon as the charges were dismissed, they were said to be on the next plane to a different hemisphere.
<< Or look under "massage" in the yellow pages -- the ones that keep normal business hours and require an appointment are likely to be legitimate. (If they say "no appointment necessary" or "open to 11 pm" or such they aren't.) >>
Hmmmmmmm...
The one I visited most recently posts hours of 10 AM to 10 PM. She was the only one there and I had to wait because I just walked into the place and she had another customer. She gave me a regular massage and even spoke disparagingly of the illegitimate places in the area. But it was the middle of a Saturday afternoon.
What do you think?
I had to look up FBSM, couldn't find it, then figured it out. The massage Yoda describes sounds perfect. I never even knew about a manual release until a fellow massage therapist guy told me about it and said, "they didn't teach you this in school?" He used to massage me but then he'd try to go down on me and sometimes I just wanted a massage and I didn't want to feel like he was "going to swoop at any moment".
I've had lots of fun massaging different people. I massaged twin actors. They told me that they wanted a massage the next day too so that they could learn how to massage each other (it never happened). At the time they were appearing in a car commercial. I massaged someone who owned the most expensive house in La Jolla at the time (4 years ago). I had an 82 year old lady try to come onto me. She told me that she wanted a bikini wax. I was in nursing school at the time and thought, great she'll have a reaction to the chemical and I'll end up in the ER with her facing one of my instructors or classmates. I never did it, but she had more $$$ than God and left it to strangers.
I really love massage because it's a way of expressing and connecting with people through touch and nuturing that we often don't get in our hectic, technical. hurry up, faster, drive-through society.
If I ever totaly understand women I will have nothing left to live for....
ps. I think you may have misinterpreted my post as well....I got the massage in VIP after we had sex, not before.
The nudity is fine with me as I am a nudist. I just don't want my nudity to distract the person receiving (massage) because I want him/her to fully enjoy the experience without anticipation of anything else. I guess that's why there are only a few people I can massage nude. I'm told that a bare nipple traced along a body during massage is erotic (my teasing is alive!). In summary, if I can massage nude, perfect, but I want to be able to concentrate on the massage.
I never thought about rearranging the draping as being stimaluating. FONDL, would you be able to relax and fully receive a massage if you and your beautiful, spiritual friend were both nude? In your ideal massage would there be foreplay; if so you would need to have your MT comfortable with that. I have a feeling that it wouldn't be difficult to put you in the "boyfriend category".
AN, I've been to public places where many people were nude and it wasn't sexy at all. I've also seen lots of really sexy women who were fully dressed. Nudity and sex don't necessarily go together. And whether you regard something as clean or dirty is all in your mind. Like so many other things, sexuality is in the eye of the beer holder.
FONDL: The key to your outside, post dancing relationship with your ATF being successful is trust. The same holds true for me. You mentioned the nudity issue and I agree. That's something that both parties have to get past for a post dancer/customer friendship to work. It's been 3 years now since my ATF quite dancing and, to her it's like it was a lifetime ago. We talk less and less about those days and more about our current lives and our futures. I would never expect either of our ATF's to tell us that, when they where dancing it was all about the money. Never the less, it WAS partly about the money weather we like it or not. If that where not true our ATF's would have told us to stop coming to see them dance naked and meet them for coffee instead.
I like playing with energy. In the club, if I like the guy I'm with I can get off. In the massage, I have a completely different kind of energy.
One way I can try to help you understand the energy focus is as follows (and this may not work because it's a sexual analogy). I don't like 69 ing because it's difficult for me to fully experience pleasure while I'm concentrating on giving my lover pleasure. I love him doing me or visa-versa but it gets complicated and distracting when in a 69. Massage is sometimes almost a spiritual experience if your therapist can really focus in on you in a healing way and you can let go and really recieve the massage. If you're going to do something sexual, perhaps it should be after the massage or just be sex. I know that this probably is difficult for you to follow.
As far as the raid goes. It involved alleged city council corruption, bribery and crimes committed across state lines (California and Nevada).
So how come the FBI was involved in a raid? There's nothing federal about what goes on in the typical strip club. They must have been after more than just the typical strip club stuff.
Yoda, as you well know, all relationships are base on you scratch my back I'll scratch yours. Having money and/or sex involved doesn't change anything, it's still tit for tat. Or something like that.
I'm a professional teaser, so I tease. I actually really hate it when guys think that my massages are sexual or push me for it. My massages are professional and therapeutic. I guess that the best advice I can give is to find someone who isn't a licensed therapist. Do not bother with an escort for massage because they are lousy.
The difference is in having a boyfriend, these massages are sensual. After massaging my last boyfriend, I asked him how the massage was. He said it's great, but you neglected a muscle. Off of my table then and into a more comfortable environ.
I was working at Cheetahs when it got raided by the FBI. All of the customers had to pull out their wallets, put there hands in plain view and were ordered not to use their cell phones. This was a big time raid because it was conducted by Federal Officials, as opposed to local vice cops. None of the patrons were isssued a citation but the cops did take information from their driver's licenses and work information, as well. Pretty intimidating. The dancers are the ones who get ticketed or given a warning in the club, the guys never do, but sometimes the manager gets a citation as well. Soliticing a prostitute is a completely different story though, the guy will prabably get arrested.
What about having an orgasm inside your pants that makes the outside appear damp?
Chitown, your daughter is wise beyond her years.
T, how do I find a therapist who will work in the nude? I'd enjoy that.
I guess the point I am trying to make is you never completely know someone that you have a business arrangement with until the money is taken out of the equation.
I know several massage therapists and we do trades with one another, all of these friends are very sensual people. When I was just getting my training, one lady taught me how to massage women's breasts and she has natural beautiful, large mother earth breasts. She also wanted me to do Reiki which I had never done before. She had me run my hands slowly down her body about 2 to 3 inches above the skin's surface, when I got to her hips my hands were "buzzing and felt hot" - I told her what I felt and she said, "right on, I have chronic hip trouble - you don't need any further training you have it!"
Many massage therapists will massage in the nude, I will for friends because I'm a nudist and as long as it doesn't interfere with giving a good therapeutic massage I'm more comfortable, but then I'm not charging them a set fee (if I find a tip later, so be it). MTs have to be very careful, though. Having a friendship with someone does change the relationship and allow the rules to bend to be more inclusive. My massages are really therapeutic though and I don't want to be thinking about sex; I want to give the client really good body work.
Sometimes I think, I could have sex with you mister but let's not involve my massage table 'cause I have to answer to the vice cops. -T
T, what I find amusing is that massage girls who operate without a license can often get away with more than those who are licensed, plus as you point out they have a lot less to lose. For example, massage parlors seem to operate freely even in states that require a license. They just call it something different, like health spas or something similar rather than massage parlors or studios. Seems to me that sort of defeats the whole purpose of licensing.
In CA is it OK to give a massage in the nude if there are no sex acts involved? I've been told there are very upscale health spas in CA where everyone is nude.
Chitown, did the kid caught urinating in public have his conviction reduced to littering or impersonating a dog? -T
You would have to pay a lot of money to the right lawyer, and perhaps a heavy fine, but it would be worth it if you would ever want to go to an open house at the school attended by your kids/grandkids--and not to have to explain why you can't set foot in a schoolhouse.
I have a colleague who just plead out a kid who pissed in public (shielded, he thought, by his car...the state wanted to charge him with public indecency, which also would have put this 19 year old with an overactive bladder in the "sex offender" category.
Different people approach massage differently. At one end of the spectrum it's treated primarily as a medical procedure, which it is. At the other end of the spectrum it's a very intimate and spiritual experience given and received with a loving attitude. That's what I like and I think you have to know each other well to get there. It's kind alike the discussion we've had of having sex vs. making love. Massage at it's best can closely resemble making love but without the sex.
There are also in my area aromatherapy places offering massage & "stress relief". Some of these offer FS, BJ & HJ. Drawback is no shower in most of them. They giver a perfunctory massage & will get nude & allow touching.
Price at Korean massage parlors is $80/hour for HJ. Tip of $20 is expected. The one offering everything, the massage /body shampoo charge is $60. FS is $140. Aromatherapy places charge $175-$250 for FS with lesser prices for BJ & HJ.
There was an attendant at one of the Korean places that would get you off during the body shampoo portion & then again during the massage portion. She would not give up until you came that 2nd time either!
I feel pretty much the same about massage as I do strippers - I'm not rally interested in being that intimate unless I know the girl and really like her. I need to feel a personal connection to really enjoy it. I'd rather have a legitimate massage from someone I know and like than an erotic massage from a stranger. Much as I'd rather have a lower-contact dance from a girl I really like than higher contact from a stranger. For me my 2 therapists are better than either a health spa or a massage parlor could ever be.
The first came because I overstepped my workout limits and got unbelievably sore. I didn't care who or what did the massage -- I just needed some RELIEF! My entire neck and shoulder area felt like they had turned to marble from all the lactic acid. So I took the first therapist available -- a man. He got me fixed and back in business.
The second came because I had a lot of emotional stress from dealing with hurricane damage to my house. A lovely lady near my house had a clinic so I booked an appointment. That made a difference.
Interestingly, she warned me about some of the other clinics in the area of the kind others here have described. So if I ever want an erotic massage, I guess I know where to go!
Seems to me there are primarily 2 types of massage: the legitimate kind given by a trained therapist, and what you get in a massage parlor (and from some independents.) I wish I knew someone who combines the best features of both - I'm sure they're out there but how do you find one?
Incidently, I've never tried a massage parlor. What's it like, and are they all similar or are there different types?
Don't know if you can "get off" during a massage though so it may not be everyone's cup of tea.
Hmmm... Strategies for picking up massage therapists. That might be a good avenue for future research. Don't think ANYONE has studied that one yet.