The Grandma Factor

jackslash
Detroit strip clubs
My friend Frank, who's in his late 50's, recently got divorced. I invited him to go to a strip club with me. I thought it would cheer him up.

Frank said that he thought strip clubs were disgusting and that he was too old to be looking at half-naked girls in their 20's and 30's. He said he wanted to meet a woman of his own age.

I don't understand this at all. Women of my age look like my grandma (or what I remember my grandma looked like). I couldn't get it up for a woman in her late 50's or early 60's. About the only woman of my age that I would be interested in is Christie Brinkley, and she won't return my calls.

Do any of you older guys feel an interest in 50 or 60-year-old women, or do you feel repulsed by these grandma-looking women?


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Clubber
12 years ago
I could go for a nearly 80 year old if her name was Sophia Loren. :)
motorhead
12 years ago
Well NOT the 50-year olds eating at Taco Bell, but, sure there are some.

Sharon Stone
Sela Ward
Meredith Vieria

Just for a start

I would take any of the 3 over MOST dancers I see
Alucard
12 years ago
I think Frank may be looking for a longer term emotional relationship, NOT a occasional fuck or suck with a dancer who mis a 20's something or a 30's something.

"Do any of you older guys feel an interest in 50 or 60-year-old women, or do you feel repulsed by these grandma-looking women?'

IMHO, not the best attitude to hold about this age group.

VERY good point motorhead!!
Papi_Chulo
12 years ago
I am actually more attracted to older women than younger women, always have been even as a young boy. Currently 43 and never “been” w/ anyone older than early 40s, but have seen some 50 year olds w/ good bodies and curves and I would hit if I got the chance.
Papi_Chulo
12 years ago
w.r.t. your “disgruntled” friend LOL - let him get a taste for 20-something firm boobies in his face grabbing his dick and he may change his tune!!!
Alucard
12 years ago
"w.r.t. your “disgruntled” friend LOL - let him get a taste for 20-something firm boobies in his face grabbing his dick and he may change his tune!!!"

:) ;)
gawker
12 years ago
I'm like you Jack. To the point where I've wondered if there's something wrong with me. My 27 year old ATF says she's spoiled me and I'll never get it up for anyone my own age. My best friend is single, a lawyer in his early 60's and he has no interest in younger women. His current gf is 68 and has a good figure, and they have a very active sex life. I just spend time with strippers and can't imagine enjoying doing the horizontal mambo with "oldies, but goodies".
vincemichaels
12 years ago
There are plenty of attractive sexy women in their 50's and 60's. I've seen a few in their 70's that you would guess to be a lot younger. Now if they are wrinkled crones, no.
rockie
12 years ago
There are women in their 50's and 60's who defy their age physically, but they are not the majority. Frank wants a companion and not a trophy!
sclvr5005
12 years ago
Works both ways. I'm sure if a 50 - 60 yo woman could afford to have a 20-30yo sugar baby to satisfy her cougar needs, she would go for it.
pabloantonio
12 years ago
To everybody who thinks 50 somethings are like your grandmother:

In 20 or 30 years we will all be old too, then you will beg women to give you the time of day, yes even the 50 somethings.
jester214
12 years ago
It's rare that I see someone 25 or 30 years older than me that I find attractive. Will that change down the road? I dunno but that's what strip clubs are for.
lopaw
12 years ago
"Frank said that he thought strip clubs were disgusting and that he was too old to be looking at half-naked girls in their 20's and 30's. He said he wanted to meet a woman of his own age."

That says it all. He's looking for a mate, not a plaything. Playing with 20-somethings in the club is one thing, but they are not GF material for a 50-60 year old. And not everyone enjoys SC's the way we pervs do (as unsettling as that thought is).
ilbbaicnl
12 years ago
I would rather jerk off to porn than be with an old-looking woman, even though I am in my 50s. I guess there's something wrong with me. Seems like most guys my age prefer to have a steady thing with a woman their own age, and keep anything they do with younger women purely recreational. The really stupid thing is I've gotten MORE picky about women as I've gotten older. I know an escort who's got a great face, great b-cups, sweet, no drama, but then it bugs me that her ass is a little flat.
gawker
12 years ago
I differentiate between attractive and sexy. Just about anyone who takes care of themselves can be attractive. Being sexy is an attitude as well as an appearance. Being sexy includes one's appearance but also includes proportion of ones body, the walk, the angle of a hip, the feeling that a woman puts forth. A Supreme Court justice was once asked to define pornography. He said, " I may not be able to define it, but I know it when I see it." I feel much the same about sexiness. It definitely is not pornographic; I however it is what turns me on. And with a few exceptions like those listed above most women are not sexy as they age.
Not that men are. My ATF has been painfully honest with me about her struggles trying to be all I'm paying her to be. I'm 6 foot 1 inch tall, weigh 213 and have always felt I was fairly attractive. But looking through a beautiful young woman's eyes I understand that that's why I pay and many young studs don't. When I was 30 I don't know if I could have been a gigalo for women in their 60's.
JacksonEsskay
12 years ago
My wife is 50 and looks nothing like my grandmother . . . that having been said, I would not want to go to a SC to see the average 50+ year old woman dance. My current ATF is 38 and, while attractive, keeps me coming back more for her personality than her looks, whereas her predecessor was 18 and did not last for the same reason.
shadowcat
12 years ago
It's no secret that I am 71. What most of you don't know is that I am prime meat for 50-60 year old women. I'm not fat,still have my hair,am financially sound and my health is good. I could even date civilian women in their 40's but I don't want their baggage and I can't see myself climbing into bed with a grandmother.

Friday I took a 19 yo to VIP and she provided me with all GFE that I could take.
Corvus
12 years ago
I've met some relatively young grandmothers, ranging from late 30s to late 40s who look great -- very attractive and sexy. They are blessed with good genetics, are talented with make up, or work hard at the gym. Saw a recent picture of Raquel Welch last week. I sure wouldn't throw her out of bed.

Older women are more attractive to me if they are good looking and smart. Younger women are more attractive to me if they are good looking and smart. Hell, it doesn't matter to me what age they are. She just has to be good looking and smart to catch my long term attention.

In the short term, such as in the SC, she just has to be good looking. Think renting vs. buying. Your friend Frank seems like he is looking to buy and not interested in renting at all. I love renting so I'll keep going to SCs.
Clubber
12 years ago
sc = DOG!
latinalover69
12 years ago
Shadowcat nice to know that as a man of 51 I've got a least 20 or so years left to hobby! By the way, although I do like the fresh young gals, I had an some spectacular OTC with a 47 YO latina cougar that rocked my world so you just never know. And of course YMMV.
canny
12 years ago
I've met Shadowcat and he's better looking than he says he is.
georgmicrodong
12 years ago
My wife is 50ish. She still looks good, even if there's a couple of extra pounds. If she was still into it, so would I be. Since I can't have it with her, I'm going to go after the young ones. Like I say, shallow.
tenisbum1776
12 years ago
At my club The Harem in Dayton, the absolute best DFK sessions I've ever had anywhere came from a 46 year old stripper. She's thin, in good shape, very friendly with a pleasant face but shows the physical and emotional mileage of having 5 kids and numerous grandkids in her lifetime.

Tried to establish an OTC relationship but things just didn't work out.
tenisbum1776
12 years ago
@georgmicrodong

Same with me. My wife is early 50's Russian, looks great and turns heads at the country club. Virtually all of my friends, business associates and customers are jealous of me. Yet there I sit at strip clubs with 20-29 year old strippers. Screw loose in the head - probably.
Player11
12 years ago
Once I started doing strippers in their 20's and 30's I had no interest in women around my age or slightly younger. I mainly prefer gals in the 28-35 age groups whether strippers or providers.

I had tried the Zoosk personals and found the women ugly and did not play or return emails for the most part. It was a waste of time compared to strip clubs or Sugar Dating sites. I would not do a 55 yo woman even if it were free.

If you start doing young stripper gals, women your age will no longer be of interest to you. Its sorta like gravity.....

Papi_Chulo
12 years ago
I want to be shawdocat’s apprentice!!!
Papi_Chulo
12 years ago
“… My wife is early 50's Russian, looks great and turns heads at the country club. Virtually all of my friends, business associates and customers are jealous of me. Yet there I sit at strip clubs with 20-29 year old strippers. Screw loose in the head – probably …”


As has been said before:

“A woman look for the *one* guy that can satisfy *all* her needs – a man looks for *all* women that can satisfy his *one* need” :)
sclvr5005
12 years ago
“A woman look for the *one* guy that can satisfy *all* her needs – a man looks for *all* women that can satisfy his *one* need” :)


Funny quote, but sadly far from true.
Papi_Chulo
12 years ago
@sclvr:

The quote is meant to say IMO that women want the perfect guy (singular) that has it all – i.e. money, looks, success, kind, funny, etc. – whereas as men just look for every woman they can fuck regardless of almost anything else.

A generality of course – but how do you see it in the context of your post “…sadly far from true”?
sclvr5005
12 years ago
@Papi

I've had real bad luck with past wives and girlfriends that cheated. And I'm not talking about them looking for the next "all in one" guy. They were doing it for the thrill and the sex. Guess I wasn't enough for them. Now I look at every woman as just the next one to cheat on me. No more " commitments" for me. Thank God for strip clubs.....no commitments.
Papi_Chulo
12 years ago
@sclvr:

Oh – sorry to hear that.

Sadly as you put it, it seems that at least now a days women cheat as often as men, or so those in the know (divorce attorneys, private investigators, etc) say.

Thanks for clarifying your remark.
rell
12 years ago
im 29 almost 30 and there are older women that drive me wild.. theres a 52 year old woman i work with and she has a body better than most women 20 years her junior. i think she knows i have the hots for her but she always tells me she thinks im joking and her.our christmas party she gave me a big hug and kiss and i was stiff for the next 20 mins.. so ill say yes
DandyDan
12 years ago
I could repeat the story of the oldest stripper I ever met, who also ended up the oldest stripper I ever banged, but that's a story I prefer not to rehash, mostly because it was disgusting in retrospect.

That said, there is one lady who's 50 at my favorite club who just drives me wild on the rare occasions she's there. My ATF and her will do lesbian stuff together, which is weird because my ATF is quite a bit younger and you'd think it'd be nasty to watch, especially since the older lady is also a bit on the heavy side while ATF is small but they really get into each other.
Tiredtraveler
12 years ago
It takes all kinds to make up the world. Some guys like 18yo spinners when they are 50. I worked with a guy that only like girls with very small butt's "little boy butts" . I tend toward dancrs that are more mature and body type does not matter as much as conditon. I like 25 to 35. The reason I don't look for older is because most dancrs that are still on the club at 45 are really plastic or scary. ALthoug there is a dancer at Landing Strip in Detroit that is 40, 4 or 5 kids, not body and bumper work and still looks good with long dancer legs and not to much sag. Her dances are good but her menu is very high priced.
jacobs.patrick7
12 years ago
Sounds like Frank is still in love with ex-wife.
Cheo_D
12 years ago
Yep, Frank's not interested in some young hottie who's just a passing thrill or plaything, and that's perfectly respectable for him.

Myself I have had good SC times with cuties half my age and with experienced ladies in their mid-40s who had taken good care of themselves and were well practiced in the arts of seduction. Each has their own strenghts and virtues and I'd like to have a little bit of each in my life.
berge1
12 years ago
I'm 61.... my current ATF is 21 (11 months together). I have two other regulars, one 35the other 26. I just like them young, firm and energetic. I keep being asked when we go out if she is my daughter..when I say she is my girlfriend...I usually get a hi 5 and a the comment "damn she is hotter"... I like that.
Clubber
12 years ago
berge,

As one much older than my ATF, the comments and "looks" that an old guy gets when with a young hottie are priceless.
shadowcat
12 years ago
Clubber - one dancer that you have met suggested that we go out dressed up for dinner. she said "I want to see the tongues wag when I kiss you and call you daddy".
Clubber
12 years ago
sc,

That would be interesting. :)

PS - I'd take her out in a second!!!
vincemichaels
12 years ago
sc, You dog !!
3LeggedMan
11 years ago
I recently noticed on Facebook that my 2nd ever ATF's daughter has a baby. So that makes my 40 year old ex-ATF a grandma. Certainly not the type I remember from childhood.
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