So, Carolynne asked a question in the comments on my S&M article:
"how come u guys seem to think that bbbjcim is humiliating for the woman, but you always want us to do it? what does that say? and u wonder why we get testy"
My answer to her was this:
...that's not the deal for me. Letting me cum in her mouth is more about not stopping and changing the sensation than it is about humiliation. When I'm getting a blowjob, I like that same wet, tongue swirling, sucking, compression sensation to continue all the way through orgasm. Changing that just as I'm about to cum reduces my enjoyment.
To that I'll add, without a doubt, if she finds it humiliating, and she likes that sort of thing, I'll get a further kick out of making her do it, but it's not the primary motivation. And on the flip side, if she doesn't want me cumming in her mouth, irrespective of the reason, I won't. To be fair to me, I'll do almost anything that feeds her kink, because her positive reactions, of whatever type, tend to feed my pleasure as well. I do have my limits, no scat, blood or permanent marks or injuries, but if she enjoys it, I probably will.
One of the reasons I don't mind a cover, even for blowjobs, is that most girls who don't want you cumming in their mouths don't have any problem with not stopping if there's no danger of jizz in the mouth.
