Property
Papi_Chulo
Miami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
The following statement was made by one of our dancer contributors in the thread:
https://www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=2…
“… i get it but i still get jealous sometimes, especially if i genuinely enjoy his company. it's pretty annoying when a fav comes in, and i'm up on stage, and then some claim jumper swoops in and i have to watch them getting all friendly in the corner, or heading to the vip …â€
Just like men and women often have different views on many things, often sex; dancers and customers often seem to have different views w.r.t. particular SC things.
I personally like variety when I am in a SC – I hardly ever kick it w/ just once dancer for most of the night (or visit). Sometimes I will pay more attention ($$$) to a dancer on a particular visit.
So it is a bit frustrating to me when a dancer feels like somehow you/I are their property and that no other dancer can offer you their services. If a customer says yes to another dancer is b/c *he* wants to not b/c the other dancer stole him or held a gun to his head (well her vagina can be considered a “weapon†and a virtual gun to one's head :)).
Anyone else has been frustrated by this or you just take it as your average SS and don't give a thought?
https://www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=2…
“… i get it but i still get jealous sometimes, especially if i genuinely enjoy his company. it's pretty annoying when a fav comes in, and i'm up on stage, and then some claim jumper swoops in and i have to watch them getting all friendly in the corner, or heading to the vip …â€
Just like men and women often have different views on many things, often sex; dancers and customers often seem to have different views w.r.t. particular SC things.
I personally like variety when I am in a SC – I hardly ever kick it w/ just once dancer for most of the night (or visit). Sometimes I will pay more attention ($$$) to a dancer on a particular visit.
So it is a bit frustrating to me when a dancer feels like somehow you/I are their property and that no other dancer can offer you their services. If a customer says yes to another dancer is b/c *he* wants to not b/c the other dancer stole him or held a gun to his head (well her vagina can be considered a “weapon†and a virtual gun to one's head :)).
Anyone else has been frustrated by this or you just take it as your average SS and don't give a thought?
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I can clearly recall two different situations when a dancer actually broken in while I was with a dancer b/c the original dancer though I would only want or prefer to be with her, or some shit like that.
The dancers can work out between them any "Claims" to me and my $$$. I tell a dancer when I am going to be a continuing customer. BUT an ATF won't remain one if she doesn't continue to be consistent in behavior and performance and engaged and enthusiastic.
Relationships need to have boundaries or so they say – and this also needs to be so with dancer “relationshipsâ€. It is crossing the PL line when a dancer will dictate how or with whom you are going to spend *your* money with :)
First of all, once you are pegged as someone's regular, the variety is GONE. None of the other dancers will come to you because they don't want to disrespect the other dancer. Or maybe they are afraid to possibly piss her off. Whatever. And as far as "letting them work it out ". Really? Have you ever BEEN in a strip club? It's cut throat and the big loser would no doubt be the poor customer who never wanted any part of it to begin with.
Are you a Patron who WAITS to be approached by dancers and doesn't go up to a dancer to inquire about possible dances. If you are the type who ALWAYS waits for the dancer to approach, you may be negatively impacted if the dancers shy away from cumming up to you due to jealousy issues. Be proactive. Approach them. I believe there is going to be dancers who want your $$$.
Yes Sir I have been in clubs for 20 yrs.
The time we have in the clubs should be defined by us, not the dancers. If it falls upon us to seek out what we want, then so be it. It's not so bad being the hunter, sometimes.
I tend to return to particular dancers because:
1. She is my type.
2. We establish a connection.
3. The longer we know each other, the more "favors" I get.
4. She tends to lower the cost for repeat and loyal customers.
5. She becomes "dependable".
If I want variety from time to time, then I visit other clubs.
I can't tell you how many times I have been peed on (figuratively) by a dancer, and I get so fed up with it that I finally approach someone else, and the new dancer will say "Oh - but I thought you were Dancer XYZ's customer?" ARGH! No I'm NOT! But the good thing is that once I make one dancer aware that I am NOT Dancer XYZ's customer, she'll usually go tell the other dancers and things often lighten up abit. But then sometimes that new dancer will balk at dancing for me, afraid of repercussions from Dancer XYZ. It's worse than a fucking soap opera.
You could use Art's approach and not return for months on end.
End result: Neither dancer is still working there.
@sclvr5005 - a bit kinky, eh?
Agree with dracula...$$$ talk.
I think the girls talk about their customers a lot among themselves, and it only makes sense for dancers to try to establish an exclusive claim over a customer. Strippers hesitate to dance for another girl's customer because they fear drama or a smack down.
A veteran dancer who refused to be intimidated by my ATF told me the story.
When their kid's milk money is on the line - dancers become Tony Soprano.
"The Hunter chooses her/his PRIZE. Not the reverse."
Isn't that one of the MAIN reasons we go to strip clubs. In normal social settings its the woman who controls the speed governor on a sexual relationship. In a strip club the customer is in control, right?
The only thing that I respectfully disagree w/ is having to get cock-blocked from a club. Like I mentioned earlier, I tend to handle the situation but I just find it annoying to have to deal with. I don’t think I should have to completely stop patronizing a particular club in order to avoid psycho dancer drama.
If you answer lopaw I promise to stop thinking about a stripper peeing on you :)
The dynamics are different for me for sure. But I just adjust as best I can and usually let the dancer lead, unless she starts leading me down a path that I don't like. Then I take the reins.
You're experience differs from mine, though the comment about being cutthroat is spot on, only in the other direction from your implication. When clubbing regularly, I've had numerous dancers try to "claim" me as theirs, but when I approach another dancer and offer her money, I've detected hesitation in only a few instances. If the "possessive" one interferes, I offer her the choice of sharing my money, or getting none of it at all. Seems to have worked for me.
If it *does* get cutthroat, I know who *won't* be the loser, and I'm certainly not going to forgo patronizing a club simply to avoid somebody there who thinks she owns me. If my *wife* can handle me fucking other women, so can a stripper.