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Are you at risk of sex addiction?

deogol
Michigan
Monday, December 3, 2012 1:05 PM
From [view link] Paula Hall identifies six factors that make people more vulnerable to sex addiction: * Early sexualisation: it's known that early alcohol use changes the chemistry of the brain in ways that make alcoholism more likely, and it's possible that something similar could happen to a brain that is exposed to sexual images and behaviour before it is ready to react to them. * Adolescent isolation: experiencing trauma between the ages of nine and 13, or feeling isolated as a teenager for any reason, can increase the chances of becoming addicted to sex. * Over-controlling parenting: people who have been too controlled as children are less able to handle risk-taking, and this could predispose them to sex addiction. * Limited modelling of emotional regulation: growing up without good role-models for emotional regulation can leave people dependent on external factors to manage their emotions, because they can't handle them for themselves. * Childhood shame: thinking of sex as shameful leads people to think of sex as secretive, and makes it harder to normalise it as a healthy part of ordinary life. * Family secrets: a hidden issue in a family can set a person up for a situation where having two separate parts to life is normal, even attractive.

17 comments

  • Dougster
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    12 years ago
    I got an official diagnosis as a sex addict. A very proud day of my life!
  • Doc_Holliday
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    12 years ago
    1 and 3 are checks. I found my teenage cousin's nudie mags at age 7, been a pervert since. My mother is overbearing but not specifically prudish. I don't get the privacy thing. I'm pretty public about my love of tits and ass.
  • Papi_Chulo
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    12 years ago
    Good article IMO. A little less known factor is “not getting any”. I’ve noticed the less access I have to sex the more I want it and the more compulsive and “addicted” I seem to get :)
  • georgmicrodong
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    12 years ago
    What a crock of shit. There's no such thing as sex addiction. Sex is a *requirement* for a normal, healthy life. It's like saying one has an air addiction, or water addiction. Sexual addiction is a "condition" invented out of whole cloth by people what want yet another vector of control over other people's lives. If they can get behavior classed as addictive, it loses any protection it has under our Constitution, and can be limited. Fucking self-righteous prick bastards.
  • Dougster
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    12 years ago
    I just figured, well if you're gonna be addicted to something, what else would be better than a sex addiction?
  • steve3003
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    12 years ago
    microdong has a point. But, yea, there are folks (incl. me) with stronger libido than others. Gambling doesn't do much for me. Same with alcohol. I sometimes gamble, drink with the best of them (talking about them Fins), but can do without. Attraction to hot babes? Nah, that's different. Can't stay with the same woman for too long. Whether she's super hot, smart, or I love her, doesn't matter in the end. I tire of her. Even my older pals at 70+; they fucking got that restlessness that drives them to do stupid things. SCs provide eye candy but tire of that too. Dougie is young and thinks it's a good affliction. Nah, it's a curse.
  • Estafador
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    12 years ago
    Its invalid and doesn't really work well. I have 3 of those six factors and I KNOW I'm not addicted to sex. Hell, I went to a strip club where pussy was flaring, booty was shaking in my face and everything, and I was bored. Yeah I'm pretty sure I'm not addicted since I'm SUPER picky.
  • rh48hr
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    12 years ago
    If loving sex is an addiction; I'm guilty as charged! But in reality, I do love sex, but I'm not gonna go bonkers if I don't have it everyday or even every week. I think an addiction is one where everything in your life revolves around the addiction. Your normal life changes because of it. So am I addicted, no.
  • Dain
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    12 years ago
    deogol, that's one of the best summaries (of any book) that I've ever read--and I've read thousands.
  • vincemichaels
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    12 years ago
    Great comment, naturals74. That says it all. :)
  • Dougster
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    12 years ago
    After I got my diagnosis I didn't really take it seriously enough to an SA meeting, I probably should have, though, since I hear it is a good place to meet chicks/hook up. One girl at Honey's told me she was also a confirmed SA and did actually go to the meetings. Man those were fun times!
  • jabthehut
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    12 years ago
    How can a person be addicted to something that is necessary for the continuation of the species? Also, addiction is defined as "compulsive need for AND use of a habit-forming SUBSTANCE." Since a pussy is not a substance but a living thing, one can not become addicted to it.
  • deogol
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    12 years ago
    " Since a pussy is not a substance but a living thing, one can not become addicted to it." Porn certainly is not alive. People may be giving up important stuff just look at chick's va-jay-jays. I knew a guy who would have bukkake pictures as screen backgrounds... on his work computer! Yea, that caught up to him. Even the guys were like "ah, there are three dicks spewing spunk on that chicks face... wtf is that all about?" Yea, he was the talk of the office.
  • Dougster
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    12 years ago
    That's great logic, jab. I guess since gambling is not a substance people cannot become addicted to it, huh? You sure are a clever one, jab.
  • carolynne
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    12 years ago
    this subject is near and dear to me. I do believe you can be addicted to sex... and yes, it really is a substance. chemicals are released in the brain during sex which have similar effects to external drugs. but, i also think you can have a pyschological addiction. the real question to ask yourself is not "do i crave sex when i'm horny" but "do i feel some kind of pain or lack just because i'm not having sex? do i feel bad, even though it's a beautiful day and i'm walking my dog, just because i'm not having sex, even though i had sex 1/2 hr ago? is when i'm having sex the only time i don't feel some pain bearing down on me?" or, do i pursue sex even when i don't feel any need? with a partner who repulses me? when doing it is hurting someone important to me in some way? am i doing it even though i keep telling myself i want to stop and i have to stop? these are the signs of addiction. when i was in college there was a girl in my dorm who had sex with a different guy every night. it was not the best for her in terms of them being skilled lovers; in fact, she said some of them were virgins and a lot of them were clueless and came in their shorts before they could even get undressed (fortunately at that age there's no down time).
  • carolynne
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    12 years ago
    she would have been a lot better off sexually if she had picked the best 1/2 dozen and then stayed with them; but something about being with a new guy every night just got her off psychologically. i think she was addicted to that need, not just cumming. i have also been thru times when i never wanted sex to end. i would dread it ending, and when it did, i wanted it to start up right away again. that's one of the reasons i have a hard time maintaining any serious relationships. a lot of guys think being with a sex addict would be great, but unless you're 18-21 don't count on it. you'll get used up, drained, and cast aside for a new, full tube of stud.
  • Dougster
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    12 years ago
    Yeah, I'm not buying the logic here. As carolynne says there are psychological addictions. Many people can get addicted to work and not have proper balance in their lives. Not spend enough time with their families, or maybe never start them to begin with. Yes, work is necessary to survive but that doesn't mean it can be pursued to unhealthy extremes which people regret later (one thing you don't get back is time).
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