Purpose of a Lap Dance
jerikson40
New York
Some comments made be a few folks here have me wondering about some of the core foundation principles of strip clubs. Honestly, I'm scratching my head and having to re-examine some of the fundamentals.
For example, lap dances. Now, I've always though lap dances were pretty straight forward. A girl dances on you, and the purpose is to sexually excite you. And if she does a good enough job of dancing on you, you splooge. And if she doesn't, you just get all horny and excited and go back to your seat with blue balls. Which, I always figured, was not a desirable outcome. Which is why guys are usually looking for the highest mileage, and generally frown on air dances.
That always seemed pretty clear and pretty obvious. But apparently not everyone here feels the same way. Some seem to look down on those who go for the "splooge in your pants" mileage, and figure the only really useful high mileage lap dance is some sort of penetration. But since that generally costs a lot more, and is far more difficult to find in the US as a whole, and really isn't a lap dance but something you can just as easily get outside the club, it seems to me that the whole issue of sex in a club is not a lap dance issue, it's a separate issue.
Now I realize that some guys freak at the thought of splooging in their pants, and apparently don't like any less messy alternatives, but I think one thing is pretty clear (correct me if I'm wrong):
Lap dances where you don't cum are just a lot of frustration, which really isn't generally desirable. Which means that there are no useful lap dances unless they include FS or BJ.
Now, maybe there are a large group of guys out there who really like getting blue balls, and therefore lap dance without cum (LDWC) are worth the $20 or so you pay for them. I'd be surprised if that's the case, but maybe it's true....
For example, lap dances. Now, I've always though lap dances were pretty straight forward. A girl dances on you, and the purpose is to sexually excite you. And if she does a good enough job of dancing on you, you splooge. And if she doesn't, you just get all horny and excited and go back to your seat with blue balls. Which, I always figured, was not a desirable outcome. Which is why guys are usually looking for the highest mileage, and generally frown on air dances.
That always seemed pretty clear and pretty obvious. But apparently not everyone here feels the same way. Some seem to look down on those who go for the "splooge in your pants" mileage, and figure the only really useful high mileage lap dance is some sort of penetration. But since that generally costs a lot more, and is far more difficult to find in the US as a whole, and really isn't a lap dance but something you can just as easily get outside the club, it seems to me that the whole issue of sex in a club is not a lap dance issue, it's a separate issue.
Now I realize that some guys freak at the thought of splooging in their pants, and apparently don't like any less messy alternatives, but I think one thing is pretty clear (correct me if I'm wrong):
Lap dances where you don't cum are just a lot of frustration, which really isn't generally desirable. Which means that there are no useful lap dances unless they include FS or BJ.
Now, maybe there are a large group of guys out there who really like getting blue balls, and therefore lap dance without cum (LDWC) are worth the $20 or so you pay for them. I'd be surprised if that's the case, but maybe it's true....
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As Latinalover said, the purpose of dances is for entertainment and to warm you up for the main event; either at home, or in the VIP, or outside the club with either a dancer or some other girl who wants to fuck you.
Lap dances are for mind sex primarily.
Hmmm...now that presents a bit of a problem for me. I'm clearly not a 14 year old boy, and I've had quite a few women. But on the other hand I LOVE getting high mileage lap dances where the dancers give me a HJ or whatever to make me cum.
So should I stop doing that?
Your original post was discussing lap dances.
Do whatever feels good and what the dancer will consent to. That's what the whole stripclub experience is about.
But coming in your pants without sex is juvenile.
Bummer. I wonder if there's any chance I'll ever be a real man, a true macho man, like Pablo Antonio.
Or maybe it will just have to remain a dream....
I say to each his own. For me, a cum with someone else's assist is always good. And I may have reason(s) at any given time why I don't want to engage in a BBBJ or FS in the VIP. The splooge-in-the-pants approach allows me to enjoy dances from a number of girls and if one hits the ol' groove, I sort of, er, flow with it.
Y'all ain't no Ken Jennings wannabes.
The "purpose of a lap dance" is $20 easy money for strippers of course
Your last few sentences are idiotic, the vast majority of all strip club customers don't cum at all during their visit. For the ones that do, most of them do it through extras.
If my intuition is correct you're a college student who started on this site before you were old enough to go to strip clubs.
This is an overgeneralization IMO. Very few guys/studs can get pussy from whomever they want whenever they want – no matter if they are young and single. Plus often times sex with civilians may come w/ undesired strings attached.
The “beauty†of the SC is that one can potentially have sex w/ any girl (that is willing to give it – which is often not too hard to find) almost any time and no strings attached. It can be considered like any other service – sure one can cut their own grass, change their own oil, etc., and save $$$, but most like the convenience of using a service provider.
Is the cumming in your pants as a result of “manual†assistance from a dancer or just a straight up LD?
I’ve had some pretty hot LDs in my time and I would say that I can only recall maybe 2 or 3 times at most when I thought I might cum – but I actually never have.
I can cum pretty quickly w/ intercourse but very difficult to do so via a LD.
Personally I'm with juice. LDs are for playing with tits, getting BJs, putting a finger or two in the kitty, and whatever else you can convince the stripper to do for you.
That's NOT what I'm talking about.
I'm also not talking about inserting your dick into a dancer, either thru BJ or FS. Because everyone here knows what that is, it's very clear, no clarification needed.
What I'm talking about is lap dances, which, as I described in the other thread on Mileage, vary from air dances to dances where the dancer is doing everything she can (other than insertion) to make you cum.
Again, keep in mind the whole purpose of these discussions is to clarify what we mean when we describe to others our strip club trips. If we don't discuss with others, you can call it whatever you want. But if you do, you should describe it in a way that provides some useful information.
And whether you personally cum during a lap dance is totally irrelevant. What matters is what the DANCER does to you, and allows you to do to her. That's what varies, and that's what's important to describe when you're describing lap dances.
The fact is this:
Some dancers, in some clubs around the world, try to make you cum during a lap dance OTHER than insertion. It happens. A lot.
How do they do it? Well, here's some examples:
Hand jobs over the shorts
Hand jobs inside the shorts (skin to skin)
Hand jobs inside the shorts with lotion
Butt jobs over the shorts (she grinds her butt into your dick)
Butt jobs nude (skin to skin contact between her butt and your dick)
Butt jobs with lotion
Titty fuck over the shorts
Titty fuck nude (skin to skin contact between her butt and your dick)
Titty fuck with lotion
Combinations of the above, which is usually the case
And THAT is how guys like me, and others, cum during lap dances. If a hot girl, trying really hard using one or more of those methods, can't make you cum, then that's fine, but it's all part of the lap dance experience for many, many guys around the world.
Call it what you want, call it sex, call it anything, but none of that matters. What matters is that everyone who is going to describe a lap dance experience to someone else should at least use a common language so that the discussion is meaningful.
By the way, on the topic of 14 year old boys who cum in their pants just because a hot girl winked at them, there's a hilarious video from a few years back (I think it was Saturday Night Live or something) called "I Jizzed in my Pants". Search for it, it's hilarious.
Alright alright – point taken – no need to SCREAM :)
Sure, mike, you got money but just choose to live in a very modest apartment (as evidence by your profile pictures) because you are a modest guy. Got it. And I could care less if my strip club activities/MO make me look cool to dumb blue collar guys like you. In fact, until you demonstrate in even a single post that your IQ I'd higher than the mid-70's like I'm guessing it's all written off as "oh, man with the GED powered brain is trying to sound tough again".
Before my xATF thing went sour, I was getting LD/VIP to spend time with her. Low mileage LDs, no extras. Yeh, I was total PL/RIL by that's what I was after.
Lately, I've been commuting to clubs further away from where I live where hand roaming seems to be acceptable. IMO the goal is grabbing and petting not finishing.
In other cases the LD is an audition for something else.
IMO it is not frustration in these cases because finishing is not the objective. These LDs have a different purpose. Plus, finish outside the pants is arguably better than inside the pants.
On the other-hand... I can think of at least one club where finishing in pants has to be common/even the objective based on what I've seen there.
Here is the link to The Lonely Island's song "Jizz in my Pants"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4pXfHLUlZ…
Hilarious.
Not farfetched is Meadow causing instant wood/uncontrollable jizz....
Now why don't you share with us how the job market is for middle-aged guys with only a GED such as yourself? Wish you would have planned ahead better when you were younger? Got anything in your 401k mike? What's your plan there? System gonna have to help you out at that point? Job market ain't gonna get no easier for dummies such as yourself. Good luck!
Instead of polluting every freakin' thread here with moronic tit-for-tat comments to each other, why not do it via private message? Just set the guys you hate the most up as your PM buddies, and rip each other a new a-hole anytime you want, without getting everyone else involved.
Does that work for you?
Jestie on the other hand needs to direct his bleakness outward because he thinks by being the bleakest one he is showing he is tough enough to handle it, unlike the rest if us who couldn't.