So why do dancers REALLY want my number?

Sorry, but most want an avenue of direct marketing. This isn't bad or anything, you just have to admit how it is.

It's easy to understand why one is drawn to them - they are naked! And easily naked! And they give you attention for money.

You already know how it is by answering your own question. Keep off the PL ledge.

"Is their something that I could do to get one of them to really want to see me OTC?"

Sure. Ask them. That works for me.

Of course, if you're not as handsome as me, you might have to give them some money.

Pretending to be interested in contacting you is part of a dancer's marketing plan. Her only interest in you number is to have it to call you in to buy dances, especially on a slow day.

They need your number to bug you for money

Yeah - I just got a girl's number last night. She's fucking gorgeous, sweet as can be, no tats and totally natural, seems to confide in me, and suggests she'd enjoy getting together with me for boating sometime. I'm like WTF - may as well follow through with an invitation. Even though I have little expectation she'll actually join me anytime soon, it doesn't cost anything to put it out there and ya neva know unless you try.

The phone number is to get you back to the club to spend money on them. Nothing more.

It's so easy to be seduced by a dancer asking for your number. It's is usually just a ruse to get your money. There have been 3 times where the dancer wanted to see me OTC in more of what I thought was a relationship on some level. I was never charged for sex, and we had great times initially....... However, then come the requests for a new transmission, late rent fees, doctors fees, etc. I always knew then it was time to bail. No matter how you cut it, there's money involved sooner or later. There's a reason they do this for a living. The drama you will see is beyond anything I've ever dealt with civilian women. Take my advice, don't be a PL. just say no. Many of us have been there before.

I give them my number all the time

313-867-5309

Is your name JENNY

Ask yourself this- If this girl saw you on the street, a restaurant, a club, etc in the real world and you two had never met before and there was no money involved for her, would she want your number? Are you the guy who she sees across the room at a crowded restaurant and thinks " oh he's cute, I wouldn't mind getting to know him "? Remember no money involved, just two people interested in eachother in the real world.

If the answer is " No, she wouldn't want me", whether the reason is that youre not close in age, she wouldn't find you attractive, shes involved with someone else, etc.., chances are that she wants your number for MONEY ONLY! Thats it.

What you described is really common. Lots of girls try to use text messages as a way of marketing themselves. I know a girl who got a blackberry just for that and had many of her clients on BBM. She'd mass BBM her regulars every couple of days but she'd personalize the messages in ways to make it seem like it's not sent to everybody. Really smart girl and did extremely well for himself for the time she was stripping. I can't blame it as a business practice, but it does suck to be a guy that's caught up in this. Just don't take it seriously when you exchange numbers with a stripper, it very frequently has nothing to do with OTC (but you can get lucky at times).

I have wondered about this myself. I have met a lot of traveling dancers in Vegas. They know I'm from out of town and will probably never see me again but still exchanged numbers with me anyways. It doesn't really make any sense.

i would say of the numbers, i have gotten, about 25% of the time something has come of it, as in a genuine meet up OTC, dates and/or friends etc.

i have never (yet) had the full works without any money being involved tho, so it looks like will always come back to that, it's their job after all.

if you like the girl, take the number and enjoy if you can, but keep your head screwed on.

best one i've had was 'you like phone sex ?'... er, ok ... 3 years later, i'm still into that girl !!

I am sure she just likes you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, and if you believe that, I've got several bridges for sale that you'll like. :)