Dancer Dichotomy

Its been hit and miss 4 me.......50/50

They are like most people - there are talkers and then there are doers.

I've seen it too. The most ones that most aggressively promise a good time are usually the worst.

Is dancer dichotomy when they remove a dich from a dancer? :)

Good one, Shadow!

Being the liars that they are the external image they try to project is usually the opposite of their true nature (they are not happy with the true nature and are trying to hide it). Actually that's true of most people in the world, not just dancers.

I've experienced the "over commit, under deliver" phenomenon a lot. If it's the first time I've met the girl and she's all talk with some physical hints of whey she'll do, it's been easily 50/50 whether she delivers. I've found when I've gotten to know a girl over a few LD sessions during a couple or more visits, then my chances go way up, if I still like her by that time.

The more they talk about it the more they aren't using their mouth to do it

"The more they talk about it the more they aren't using their mouth to do it"

That makes a good deal of sense gatorfan. LOL

Ahhh, the bait and switch

"Ahhh, the bait and switch"

Stiletto25 I presume you have seen this occur before.

I think that one of the initial generalizations is usually true, but I think the other one of the initial generalizations isn't so reliable.

So, yes, I do think that the talkers are usually not do-ers. The girls who yammer yammer all the time about what a big deal they are, or how high the level of service that they'll give is, or simply aggressively hard-sell, are likely to be very bad at what they do or are deliberately planning to up-sell and mislead. Mostly, more noise is less service, and I think that's a fair generalization, maybe 80% accurate?

But I don't think you can 100% generalize the opposite, that the demure quiet or new girls are necessarily going to give more or better service. I think it's more 50/50 on the quiet ones, as to whether their back-room demeanor mirrors or contradicts their front-room demeanor. Some new girls are demure everywhere, or intimidated, or grossed out by touching the customer, or simply mislead that air-dancing is somehow for some goddamned reason expected or enjoyed or appreciated (IT ISN'T! EVER! just thought I'd get that off my chest). Some quiet girls are tepid and drab, and just lie across you and kind of mush themselves a little bit and think "this is interpersonal" when what it is, is uninspired and over-paid. On the other hand, some quiet demure girls are real fire-crackers in the VIP, and it's a pleasant surprise when there turns out to be a difference, a change-over that effects itself somewhere along that walk from the main-room table to the back-room booth, as though walking past the little curtained off threshold somehow triggered a brand new character. I enjoy the change, and I of course enjoy the firecracker regardless of whether it's a changed or a consistent modus operandi, but I don't think you can be very sure that the mere fact that she's quiet on the main floor means she'll change into a firecracker when she hits the back room.

For me, when I'm in the position of judging whether or not I'll enjoy a lapper from a girl, the most reliable indicators available on the main floor seem to be fairly consistent, girl to girl:

1. level of experience and "comfort" at the fact that she's a dancer (indicates capacity to bring to bear a certain "skill level" necessary);

2. level of "click" between dancer and me (whether or not she's "faking" that we have a good rapport is beside the point; my own feeling of rapport during conversation is usually parallel to my own feeling of enjoyment during lap-dance);

3. firmness and perkiness of body, with the "right" degree of femininity (whether large or small, someone who is waggly is unpleasant to get a lapper from because she feels diseased or decaying under the hands, while someone who is muscular feels masculine);

4. sobriety (this has something to do with indicators 1 and 2, skill and rapport) (a drunk or stoned girl gives a shit-crap lapper, end of story);

5. nuzzles (if on the main floor she kisses my ear, licks my neck, gently scratches my scalp or crotch with her fingernails, and, ideally, gets her lips close to mine and instigates that stomach-sinking feeling of impending make-out, and I like it there ((i.e. she isn't sloppy, doesn't have garlic-breath, isn't ugly, etc.)), then she is likely good at lappers and I'm on my way to the VIP right NOW!).

It has been my limited experience that dancers who see you for the first time and promise to "fuck your brains out" rarely will.

However, a few dancers that have approached me this way made me believe they could. But normally they are not my type. Go figure.

I had a girl in Houston go so far as to try to change the agree price of a lap dance when we got to the booth. She pushed "anything you want if we go to the champagne room" I always get a regular lap dance to see how she is and she wanted $$ over the agreed price to go nude even though it was a nude club and she had already agreed. I did not pay her and left her standing in the room. There are places that the offers are legit because that is the type place it is, but you usually know that going in.
Arnies in Chicago.