What would you do? NO this is not me!
shadowcat
Atlanta suburb
Published: 05 Jan 2012
I'VE been having sex up to 10 times a day with a stripper. Now she says she's pregnant and I feel like she's trying to trap me.
I'm 26. I was in a long-term relationship but split up with my girlfriend recently and went off the rails. One night a few of us decided to go to a local strip club.
There was one girl in particular I thought was really cute. She had a great body and she seriously turned me on. A few days later I saw her in town - I recognised her straight away.
I plucked up the courage to talk to her. We hit it off immediately and had a few drinks together, which ended up going on till late. She said I could stay over at her place, which suited me just fine.
When we got back to her place, she said she hadn't had sex for a while and was up for it. Then she got hold of my hand and led me upstairs.
She was absolutely awesome in bed and we had amazing sex. She's just turned 20. I kept on seeing her and she could never have enough sex. We had a great time but stupidly I didn't use any protection. I trusted that she was on the pill but after a month or so I found out she was sleeping with another guy.
I stopped seeing her all together. Two weeks later she contacted me telling me she was pregnant and knew it was mine. Can she be sure? I really don't want anything to do with her. It feels like she is using the pregnancy to trap me. She's really messed up my head.
She told me she wants me back, but there's no way I'd go back after what she did. I've started a new relationship anyway. I really like this new girl but think it may be too early to tell her anything like this. It may scare her off.
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That's right Stiletto25! We men all too often "Think" with the "Small Head" when a woman has excited us & the "Small Head". Basic Nature at work...Perhaps. Good decision making in this scenario is a MUST! Also the woman bears some responsibility in the decision to have Sex.
Sex up to 10 times a day? Are they both unemployed?
By all means, strap up before you have sex with any woman in the future, or you'll be looking like Mr. Brady from the Brady Bunch soon! LOL
You've had a horrible shock but if she is pregnant and you're the father, you can't put all the blame on her. Common sense should have told you to use protection even if you couldn't resist the sex on offer.
She might have got pregnant from having sex with you but you might have been set up. Spell it out to her that you're not ready for the commitment and would demand paternity tests. Suggest she think carefully about the reality of being a single parent and talk it over with Brook who help under-25s with sex-related issues (0808 802 1234, www.brook.org.uk).
If she does go ahead with the pregnancy and it turns out you are the father, please remember it's not your baby's fault. He or she deserves a loving, involved dad – and has a legal right to your financial support.
Best to be honest with your new girlfriend now than add deception to the problems you're bringing to the relationship. Which reminds me – you'd better have a sexual health check too.
If he finds out he the father, he needs to step up and do the right thing and take care of the kid not only through financial means, but with time as well. Too many children are being raised without a father figure and that is unforgivable if the father is alive and aware of the child. This problem is even more pronounced in the inner cities.