Ever thought what exactly it is that makes one girl a lot more attractive?
Ever thought what exactly makes a girl attractive to you? Is it something in your genes or was it your views and experiences as you grew up? Some things seem easy to understand like smooth tone legs and a tone body. I read or heard that beauty we perceive lies in the symmetry in the face we see. Then I noticed if a girl has blonde hair, she seems a whole lot more attractive to me than if she has brunette hair. The same girl too if she dyed her hair. I haven't figured that one out yet except I know all my sisters are brunette.
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No, seriously, here's an interesting article
http://www.domai.com/news/articles/july0…
about why the female form cannot be dissected. It's comprisement of units is exactly its beauty. Proportion (hips that match tits is the most obvious example) is much more important than size (big tits alone; or big or small hips, alone).
And I thought it was "beauty is in the eye of the beerholder."
I have two sons, one married a girl so much like his mother that it's scary, the second married a girl very unlike his mother. So I guess that proves nothing. Bottom line, who knows what the hell attracts us?
Her head in my lap? The list is endless.
It's pretty widely accepted that what we find generally attractive in women (full breasts, shiny hair, bright eyes, curves indicating some, but not too much body fat, etc, etc) are all associated with health and fecundity. As far as individual tastes I've heard everything from symetry to features resembling our own, but in a more feminine way.
I personally find that I am attracted to women who seem mixed race (similar to Chitown's latitudinal preference, but a little more subtle) or fair skinned redheads. I have no idea why I have the redhead preference, but much as I'm attracted to them I've never dated one despite knowing several attractive ones. All my girlfriends have been dark haired dark eyed spinners with somewhat athletic bodies and decent sized breasts. None of those traits (nor redhead) describes my mother or any female relative I can think of. I think the whole mary mom thing is another Freudian scam, but will allow the possibility that we look for personality traits our mothers have as opposed to physical traits.
No, I've never been married. I look at (most) married chumps as ... well ... chumps.
Umm, BookGuy--not to be critical or anything, but....are you (or have you ever been) married?
I've given this so much thought that I think I even know why this is. It's a fetish of mine, and I believe it can be traced back to kindergarten. In kindergarten, I sat behind twin girls that had long hair. I, to this day, can still remember playing with their hair during class (don't remember either twin objecting, nor getting in trouble with the teacher, so I guess there was no negative feelings assoctiated with it, either). [later in I dated one of the twins in highschool <g>]
For me, however, and for Chitownlawyer, we prefer women UNlike our mothers. But I think that's because "our" women are NOT for commitment but instead of recreational or even extra-marital sexual stimuli (whether or not literally coitus).
I prefer "girlish." People have pointed out that this might have something to do with my other life and lifestyle dysfunctions and "issues." Need for immaturity, inability to communicate or participate with mature responsible humans, etc. The body-type I like the most, is lithe and supple, marginally athletic, but marginally skinny as well. I appreciate being able to (barely) see her ab muscles, for example. Her breasts must be perky. Once in a while, dangly breasts appeal to me, but only if they're ALSO naturally perky in a circular rounded way. I don't necessarily like LARGE breasts AT ALL. And my mom is STACKED. She's one of those women whom people look at and say, "geez, she should get a breast reduction." About a 99 FFFFF or so ...
On the other other hand (I was an economics major in college...thus, all the hands), my favorite dancers at strip clubs tend to be of the type that I described above. The dancer I see most regularly is of Portuguese descent.
2. possessing physical characteristics that, at some subliminal level, remind us of our mothers. I recently read an article in the local newspaper in which some social scientists gave the opinion that this is why black men tend to like their women bigger than do white men...because black men had bigger women as mothers than did white men (See, for example, Sir Mix-A-Lot, "Baby Got Back, c. 1994). I am not endorsing this theory (or repudiating it, either), just reporting it.
I do have to say, however, that theory #2 kind of falls apart in my case. My mother's ancestry is traditional All-American NW European Anglo-Saxon/German/Celtic. However, the women to whom I am most attracted come from about a thirty degree latitudinal band from Central America, through southern Europe and North Africa, through the Middle East, and winding up in India/Pakistan. I am most sexually attracted to Latins (Old World or New); Arabs and Middle Eastern Jews; Persians; and Southwest Asians--Indians and Pakistanis. These people, however, have no place in my mother's gene pool. So maybe part 2 of the theory above is bullshit.
I wish we weren't so predictable, but there you are.
I've thought that some of the features many females do to make themselves look better may actually slightly arouse guys and that is why they look better to us. For instance red lipstick looks a lot better and makes a female look better than say green lipstick. I think red glossy lipstick looks even sexier. It looks sexy but I just don't want it all over my clothes.