Each time I visit a club, I try to ask a girl if she wants to meet for take out. Whether or not I'm actually interested in spending the money, I still try to ask, because I think these things become easier with practice. I feel that I've gotten better at identifying which girls are down and which aren't.
I've only actually been successful at it twice, but I have a lot of 'almosts.' What I mean is, the girl will say something like 'Okay...let's talk about this later' or 'I'll come talk to you about it.'
The first time I heard this, I waited around in the club until closing time, and the dancer remained glued to another customer. The DJ announced that it was time for everyone to go home and people slowly made their way to the door. I waited as the club emptied out, but she still sat with him -- I got the feeling that she was waiting for me to leave, so I did.
The next time was a similar story, only I didn't wait. I just left when I normally would have.
Then, most recently, the dancer was quite enthusiastic about the idea and said something like 'Yeah, let's definitely do this...I'll come talk to you later.' But once we were back on the main floor it seemed like she was avoiding me, even avoiding eye contact if she walked by.
On my two successes, the girl either gave her phone number in the VIP or told me to write down an email address for her. This brings me to wonder -- Is 'I'll talk to you later' just a nice way of saying no?
you said each time you visit a club, you try to get a girl to meet you for take out.
but don't you think seeing them 2 or 3 times, AND THEN asking them would increase your chances of the girl saying yes? rather than just asking a girl after the first time you've met her?