What do you prefer?

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• steve229

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  13 years ago

  Poll tricks or not? Pole tricks are good (just be careful not to get rough hands from all the pole work) Booty dancing or slow and sensual? Slow and sensual Talkative dancers or straight to the point? Like 'em chatty Is drinking or smoking a turn off? Drink up, baby! (but put that cig out please) Lingere or bikinis or costumes? Ah, do you have a cheerleader uniform?
• runrdude

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  13 years ago

  ^ What he said, except put on the lingerie. I love to have a good chat with half naked hottie, but if you are not much of a conversationalist, then let your body do the talking.
• farmerart

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  13 years ago

  Welcome to tuscl, bodaniels26. To be honest and blunt, I (and most of the older regular posters here) want as much mileage in the VIP as we can get from the dancers who appeal to us. Answering your specific questions: 1. Pole tricks? Not for me. I appreciate the effort and will give a small courtesy tip but this is not a part of my personal SC fantasy. 2. Slow and sensual IS part of my fantasy. If you've got the moves, you've got me! 3. Talkative or direct? I am a self-confident, hard ass oil man. Blunt is better with me, though I am a bit of a softy in SCs. 4. Drinking or smoking? Smoking is a major turn-off, even smelling the residue on a dancer's body or hair. I am a drinking man myself so I am cool with anything up to the falling down, puking stage. 5. Lingerie, bikinis, etc.? All are good. Whatever makes YOU feel sexy and up to dealing with horndogs like me is just fine. But, since you ask......... Short hair or long hair done up, exposing your neck, Black velvet choker around your throat. The classic black cocktail dress: decolletee, mid-calf length, slit up one thigh almost to waist Black fuck-me shoes, open toe or showing nice toe cleavage. High heels and strappy but not stilettos and not those ridiculous stripper platforms. Show up on stage rigged out like that and I would throw you over my shoulder and take you back to my man cave !!
• CCRiderm

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  13 years ago

  Poll tricks or not? Some pole work is sexy Booty dancing or slow and sensual? Definitely Slowwwwww and sensual Talkative dancers or straight to the point? Need to get to know us a bit first Is drinking or smoking a turn off? Do NOT smoke. Nothing worse than a pretty girl that smells like an ashtray. Lingere or bikinis or costumes? Costumes are always appreciated, and lingerie counts as a costume. I agree with Art, ditch the silly stripper shoes. Black FMS is where it's at.
• Clubber

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  13 years ago

  Poll tricks or not? Assuming you meant Pole, I go with not. Booty dancing or slow and sensual? S&S Talkative dancers or straight to the point? Middle ground. Is drinking or smoking a turn off? Drinking no, but smoking can be. Lingere or bikinis or costumes? Something original, if possible.
• Dudester

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  13 years ago

  Pole tricks or not? Take the stage in shoes you can move with. First song, fast upbeat song-and dance-really dance. Second song-slow. Booty dancing or slow and sensual? Slow and sensual. Talkative dancers or straight to the point? Let's talk. Is drinking or smoking a turn off? Smoking yes. Drink not a problem, unless you're tipsy or drunk. Lingere or bikinis or costumes? Lingerie. Let me undress you.
• rickdugan

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  13 years ago

  "I am a dancer..." Sure you are, bo. ;) Poll tricks or not? Doesn't matter. Booty dancing or slow and sensual? Doesn't matter so long as you are naked, look good and have a good attitude. Talkative dancers or straight to the point? Depends on what you have to say. Is drinking or smoking a turn off? No and no. Guys who get turned off that easily are pussies. Lingere or bikinis or costumes. Is there a naked option? Otherwise, the less clothes the better.
• Otto22

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  13 years ago

  IMHO pole tricks are a waste of your energy. Save your strength for satisfying me in the VIP.
• Dougster

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  13 years ago

  The modern customer does not care about any of the fluff. We just want strippers to suck our dicks.
• Prim0

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  13 years ago

  I think there's truth in what all of you guys say. The pole dancing isn't a big deal to us but you have to do something to get our attention in the first place. Movements or dancing or body language that radiates SEX is usually successful on me. Talkative can be good unless the girl is bitching about how little money she's making. Make the customer the focus of your conversation and throw in lots of sexiness. Some drunk girls are fun, some are annoying...it really depends. I smoke so I don't mind if you do. Non smokers seem to hate us smokers though. Outfits...I'd say that you need to wear what shows off your highlights and hides your faults. Each guy finds something different sexy but the dancer can overcome this by wearing her outfit with confidence. Personally I like playful costumy outfits...the classics like chearleader, nurse, school uniform, sports gear all do it for me.
• how

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  13 years ago

  Your choice on all except one: smoking is nasty. Otherwise, appear to enjoy yourself, and that will enhance your money-making. As for the type of dancing, it actually is irrelevant for those who seek extras. Many have no interest in being teased.
• looneylarry

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  13 years ago

  "Poll tricks or not?" I'd say that if you have practiced some good pole work and it sets you off from the other girls, it can be a real asset for you. If it looks like you are just messing around, then don't do it. But if it is a way to continue to show your grace and balance, do it. Gymnast? No. Slow, sensual, graceful, flexible, stylish. "Booty dancing or slow and sensual?" I'm not sure that I have actually seen real booty dancing, but if it is merely shaking your ass like a bowl of jello or uncontrolled spasms, count me out. Slow and sensual is the way to go, especially for the lapper. A hard, grinding, aggressive lapper may be good for a few seconds, but can leave a guy bruised and battered. "Talkative dancers or straight to the point?" Chatty Cathy is just filling up time and gets annoying. But a girl who actually listens to you and there is an honest-to-God two-way conversation going, that is rare and special. A girl doesn't have to be blunt, but it is best if she matches your mood and senses what you want before you say it. "Is drinking or smoking a turn off?" Drinking in and of itself isn't bad, unless it is part of the drink hustle at some clubs. A girl who has had a couple and is a little giggly and flirty is good. A sloppy, slurring, staggering girl doesn't seem like much of an accomplishment. I know most dancers probably smoke, but don't smoke at my table. "Lingere or bikinis or costumes?" Bikinis just seem like all other girls and sometimes the dancers suffer from the comparison. A tasteful piece of lingerie can be very sexy, a corset and choker, a garter, fishnet, garter belts, pearls can be very nice. Even doing something with your hair: up in a bun, long braided pony tail, even a silky wig. Costumes can get a little hokey, but a Catholic school girl or librarian or secretary can look good. A look you rarely see but can be very sexy is the long evening gown, with gloves, and slits up the side. Farmerart has the right idea.
• CTQWERTY

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  13 years ago

  Where are Bo's pictures?!
• georgmicrodong

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  13 years ago

  Poll tricks or not? If you're good at 'em, go for it. If not, don't waste your time. Mix it up, though, I like variety. Booty dancing or slow and sensual? S&S, by all means. Talkative dancers or straight to the point? Conversationists, yes. Chatters filling up time with gossip, no. Is drinking or smoking a turn off? I'm not a drinker, in the club, but as long as you're coherent, I don't care. I'm not a smoker, but I don't really care, as long as you aren't blowing it in my face. Like rick says, being turned off by either of those in general means you should prolly find another hobby. Lingere or bikinis or costumes? Yes. Naked is good, too.
• DFFECHSWU

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  13 years ago

  Poll tricks or not? Some dancers have a tendency to stay on the pole the entire time and not walk around to the customers. Plus, poles put the dancers further away from me, so I'm not really for them. Booty dancing or slow and sensual? Easy one ... slow and sensual. Keep the booty dancing for the hip-hop vids. Talkative dancers or straight to the point? Straight to the point but one that actually listens, becuase believe it or not, I listen. Not only is it just respectful, but it may pay off somewhere down the road. Think of how refreshing it is when someone remembers you, your name (stage or real) the next time they see you. Is drinking or smoking a turn off? Drinking, not an issue ... provided you're not sloshed or incoherent. There are few things worse than putting up with a drunk ... and a woman at that!!! ha ha (don't read too much into that statement). Smoking ... big issue. If you're going to do that slow and sensual VIP dance I like, you'd better not smell like the bottom of an ash tray. I actually try to select dancers that I don't see smoking throughout the night just for this reason. Likewise, I tend not to get hammered or stink of booze and try to freshen up a bit before going into a VIP room. To each his/her own, though. I'm sure some just don't care either way. Lingere or bikinis or costumes? Lingerie or bikinis. Lingerie is probably better in the VIP for all the reasons stated in other posts. Costumes only on certain nights and/or events. A secretary or professional woman costume topped off with glasses is a turn on for sure.
• scatterbrain

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  13 years ago

  Poll tricks or not? Not exactly sure what a 'poll trick' is, but if you're referring to the tall shiny cylinder on stage, why not show us you're in fine shape. (otherwise, insert your own 'pole joke' here) Booty dancing or slow and sensual? No question, slow and sensual for me, thank you. Too much energy, bouncing up and down and you'll get cut off rather quickly. Talkative dancers or straight to the point? Talk all you want but you better be able to hold a decent conversation. Tell me interesting things and I'll listen as long as you'll stay. But there comes a time in the conversation where you better cut to the chase or you might never get a dance from me. And, STFU when you're dancing for/on me. Is drinking or smoking a turn off? Imbibe as long as you can keep up with me. Any lady that can stay with me on tequila shots will be able to drain my wallet quickly. I'm tolerant of smoking but honestly, if you'll smoke a cigar with me, you're a definite keeper. Lingere or bikinis or costumes? Lingerie...yes. Bikinis...only if they come off quickly. Costumes...typically no, unless it's Christmas or Halloween; otherwise, too juvenile.
• rickdugan

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  13 years ago

  If she's hot and friendly I don't care what she does. She can fel free to put that smokey mouth around my cock. Hell, do a line or two as well before you start sucking - fuck if I care.
• WetWilly

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  13 years ago

  What men like? Well, there are some 3.5 billion of us, so any answer is going to be a huge generalization. The answers for " men " are going to vary. The only meaningful answer I can give is: Poll tricks or not? It depends. Booty dancing or slow and sensual? More times than not, slow and sensual. It takes talent and patience to do that, and fast dancing is not as tough, nor attractive, as slow dancing to me. Talkative dancers or straight to the point? It depends, usually in between. Is drinking or smoking a turn off? Smokng is, drinking is not unless they are drunk beyond recognition. Lingere or bikinis or costumes? For me, most times lingerie. It is classier than a bikini. Costumes get in my way.
• GoVikings

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  13 years ago

  - Pole tricks can be great at times, it all depends on how good the dancer is at executing them. - Slow and sensual, I guess, but I've never really had an aggresive/booty dance type of lap dance. - Talkative dancers. - Smoking is a HUGE turn off, drinking is not. - Lingerie. Costumers at times can be great though, especially if she's wearing a cheerleader uniform.
• joker44

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  13 years ago

  Welcome bodaniels26 Farmerart & similar posts sum it up well. As posted elsewhere on this site, your stage dance is an audition to answer my question: Do I want to pursue a VIP with you? You should strive to be memorable & different from your sister dancers. Slow, sensuous, and seductive wins the race. You create a fantasy moving from flirting to seduction to entice us to get LDs. Unlike the real world where women must be safety conscious first and not break society’s rule that nice girls don’t initiate first contact, the club offers some protection and your role as stripper releases you from being a passive reactor. Yeah, you have jerks and losers but that’s no different than real life. Just like in real life, eye contact and non-verbal flirting signals are important. If you can integrate some sensual or interesting pole work [read = differentiates you from other dancers] or up tempo music and stay seductive -- do it. Anything that breaks the seductive mood is a No, No. Here’s a link to another board discussion = Cheerleaders, Nurses, Secretaries ...& Strippers referring to favorite stage get up. [view link] As in my post there, my favorite is the business woman undressing to beautiful lingerie and thigh-highs and then nude. High heels or pumps but not stripper platforms. Any “uniform” [schoolgirl, nurse etc] shouldn’t be the cheap, plastic-looking stripper specials. Maybe one dance set an evening in a special get up is enough to make you stand out from other dancers and insure much attention. Also, vary your routine over the evening, if possible. Again farmerart has put it best in describing an ideal costume. Most men love lingerie, sexy but not garish. Ask any successful high-class escort. Initially, being sexily dressed or hiding your assets and slowly revealing is arousing. Those men who are jaded or otherwise looking for a fast VIP extras partner want to see you nude quickly and any dance routine or costume won’t matter to them, anyway. You’re performing for the majority who want to be seduced into a VIP by you. Off stage you may want to switch to something more comfortable and convenient for VIPs. Good, smart conversation, yes. Part of the fantasy and like the real world much is communicated non-verbally and indirectly during seemingly innocuous talk. Non-sexual touching and eye contact are important. Again, ask any well-paid escort. This aspect is often as or more important than the actual sex in that setting. Most but not all nude or topless clubs in my area are no-alcohol. I don’t mind you drinking but not to the point where you’re garrulous and distractible, obviously unable to pay attention. Don’t like to catch a whiff of cigs or your last meal on your breath. I take care to be clean, well-groomed and smell nice; I expect the same from you. But don’t use to much scent or one that is cloying or clings to our clothing way after we leave the club. Big No,No for those with SOs. You work lots of hours barely dressed in sometimes unpleasant circumstances. You sometimes deal with jerks, both customers and fellow employees. Difficult to feel and act sexy all the time. Most of us understand that, when we think about it. You work up a sweat at dancing and doing LDs but good hygiene is important to us. No one wants a dancer who smells like she just stepped out of a jazzercise class sitting on their lap.
• inno123

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  13 years ago

  Sexy pole tricks rather than simply gymnastics. Definitly slow and sensual I don't mind conversation, but at a flirty level. I don't want to hear about all your problems. I am here to get away from problems and worries. lingere and bikini's are costume. Would you normally be wearing a bikini in a bar? Don't go with an outfit that might be complex to get off. One further hint that a lot of performers miss...exit the stage gracefully and sexily. The performance may be over but you are still being watched by the customers who are evaluating your personality. Smoking absolutely not although that is not a problem here as there is a no-smoking law. Don't be so soused as to be unable to dance well.
• dallas702

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  13 years ago

  Poll tricks or not? Welcome bodaniels. I'm glad you chose to join us. My answers - and these are just mine - to your questions are: Pole tricks or not? Stage dancing is your chance to sell - Pole tricks are fun to watch and demonstrate certain skills, but too much fancy pole work might make me think you are less interested in intimate lap dances (my experience is that dancers with elaborate stage routines are working for stage tips and too often gave "fancy" lap dances that are mostly air and show) Booty dancing or slow and sensual? Mostly slow and sensual and very "hands ON" I admit I am a lecher, I want to touch and be touched. Bouncing on my lap is OK once in a while but stick shifting and mutual groping are much more fun. Talkative dancers or straight to the point? Well . . . both! I do enjoy conversation and a little interaction first and I am a little put off by dancers who wank up and ask, "wanna dance?). So, to a point, I do want some talk - BUT - I do NOT want to listen to a litany of complaints, or how broke you are or about your boyfriend problems or catty comments about other dancers... I do want to know how hot your dances really are (before I fork over the money) and I do want to know about any "rules" (read - limits, restrictions) you have. Is drinking or smoking a turn off? No and No. A staggering drunk dancer is NOT interesting to me but if you are a little lit up (or seem that way) it might encourage me to hope that you will be a little wild in vip. A dancer who asks if I'm OK with her smoking will always get a "yes" from me and if she doesn't blow smoke in my face, or smell like an ashtray, it doesn't bother me. Lingere or bikinis or costumes? For me costume/clubwear just isn't that important. If your stage routine is a real striptease it's nice to see a costume come off. I have seen some otherwise attractive dancers wearing outfits that really detracted from their appearance. I suggest wearing something that shows a lot, hides any flaws and leaves something to be revealed later! Several of the prior responses had some similar points but more important than the specifics of our separate responses is that you actually pay attention to the guy you are with. You don't have to be a brilliant conversationalist to get and keep a man's attention (double meaning included). A lot of eye contact, a nice smile, your hand on shoulder or knee (or elsewhere) and - for most of us - you got us hooked. The same kind of attention will be successful when you give private dances.
• Dougster

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  13 years ago

  joker44: "You sometimes deal with jerks, both customers " Like txtittyfan and georgemicrobrain.
• AnonymousJim

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  13 years ago

  Pole tricks or not? - It doesn't matter all that much what you do on stage to me, but the better you dance, the more intrigued I'll be. So if you consider pole tricks to be better dancing, go with it. Plus, a trick means you're not half-assing it. If you're half-assing it on stage trying to get 20 guys' attention, you're probably going to half-ass it when you have only one guy's attention pre-assured for three minutes. Booty dancing or slow and sensual? - If you're talking LDs, a little of both. I like a little tease to start, but after a while, I want you to get with the grinding. Talkative dancers or straight to the point? - In the beginning, straight to the point. After we've gotten some dances and I clearly think you're good enough to warrant multiple dances, then yes, I want to get to know you. Is drinking or smoking a turn off? - Drinking no, at least if you're not sloppy drunk. Smoking yes. I take the time to dress nice and smell nice at the club so your job isn't so difficult. If you smell like an ashtray, I'm turned off. Plus, I'd like you to be in my face giving me flirty eyes and light kisses, but not if I can't stand your breath. Lingere or bikinis or costumes? - I make a point to go out on Halloween because I love cosplay. The sexy nurse, the sexy maid, the sexy cowgirl, all of it. Then I like a nice evening gown and sexy lingerie (make it smooth so you slide real nice when you grind). Then bikini.
• sharkhunter

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  13 years ago

  I probably prefer a sexy red bikini but some lingerie may be close. I don't care for a lot of fancy lingerie that takes long to take off but some guys may. I'm not clear on the definition of booty dancing. If that is just shaking your rear end and not grinding on me, then I typically don't care for it too much. I don't have tits and I'd rather see boobs than someone's rear. If it looks really good and fit, I might like looking at it for a couple of seconds but that's usually it. Most dancers I see shaking their ass tend to turn me off. Your ass has to be a 10 on a scale of 1 to 10 to make me want to watch someone shaking it. The boobs look good across a wide range of girls. The only ones that didn't look that great were either barely there or had a very bad plastic surgeon where she should have sued for damages. One sexy outfit other than traditional sexy dancer outfits was worn by a female customer. Her blouse was unbuttoned and I could see her nipples at the angle she was sitting at. Guys can't help but look at some cleavage that is visible at a certain angle if they are sitting in the right spot. Some dancers change outfits based on what certain guys like.
• minnow

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  13 years ago

  Welcome, bd26, my answers: 1) Pole dancing not a deal maker (or breaker) for me. However, getting too wrapped up in it can be a turnoff. 2) For stage show, whatever you feel good at- for private dances, more slow/ sensual. FYI, I don't think this board has any gangbangers or gangstas, so you're getting a skewed audience here. 3) Enjoy a good conversationalist more than a "wanna dance robodancer". Having said that, depends on how tight my time is on visit. Either extreme- (Chatty Cathy on tight lunch break, or a straight on approach that virtually screams "so how about spending some $$ on me RIGHT NOW") can be a turnoff 4) Be observant and go with the flow. If you don't see a customer smoking, or his pack of cigs, assume that he is a non-smoker and that he would mind it if you smoked. As for drinking- note whether customer is drinking like a fish or nursing their drink along. In either case, let customer make the offer. One should not be made to feel "obligated" to buy overpriced dancer drinks, or feel like they're being tag teamed. 5) I'm more concerned with the dancer under the outfit than the outfit itself.
• Leonard313

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  13 years ago

  I am a dancer but I want to know what men prefer....so I have a few questions? Poll tricks or not? I love pole tricks! Whenever a gal shows that she actually has "talent", more than just walking around on the stage with her tits out, that makes me wanna tip her just for the effort. Booty dancing or slow and sensual? Slow and sensual. Any girl can get on a stage and wiggle her butt. The real trick is, can you be seductive and get into my head? Talkative dancers or straight to the point? I love to talk to the dancers. I want to feel like they are generally interested in me, and not just my wallet. I know that's naive, and stupid, but I guess if I'm gonna drop a ton of money...I'd like to at least "feel" like the girl wants me. Is drinking or smoking a turn off? Absolutely not. Of matter of fact, it's a turn on to see the girl drink. The drunker the better so I know that if I get a dance, there's a better chance that I might get more mileage than I would if she was sober. And, it puts us both on the same level, it's not a completely sober dancer taking money from a drunk guy. Lingere or bikinis or costumes? I nice cheerleader outfit or schoolgirl outfit is MEGA sexy! I'm not so much into the other stuff...I really just wanna see you naked.
• HootnHal

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  13 years ago

  Looks like a consensus to this ol boy, but perhaps that's cuz I tend to concur with the others. Some talented pole dancin' looks good but squeak & drop-plop not so good. Definately prefer slow n sensual too! Sometimes it's uncomfortable to bothersome if too much aggressive grinding is goin' on. I aint a big guy, & have gotten some bruises from some that are too hard at it-that for me makes it loose his attention, which is a big part of the fantasy. I enjoy some cuddling (did a guy really say that?) between dances, and like the rest some hands on to intimate hands on is cool too. I also find some conversation to be enjoyable. Once in a while I'm in enough of a hurry (but wanna go to club anyway) that the usual walk up & wanna dance vs actually talking first will actually score a dance with me , but usually prefer a little one on one first. Of course some drinking is fine, I'm usually in a bar, right? i'm a non-smoker so prefer that-but usually say it's ok when asked if smoking's alright with me. Another part of the reason I'm here is variety, so different outfits are good for me. Like cheerleader, skimpy-revealing wear, & GND look too.
• HootnHal

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  13 years ago

  Looks like a consensus to this ol boy, but perhaps that's cuz I tend to concur with the others. Some talented pole dancin' looks good but squeak & drop-plop not so good. Definately prefer slow n sensual too! Sometimes it's uncomfortable to bothersome if too much aggressive grinding is goin' on. I aint a big guy, & have gotten some bruises from some that are too hard at it-that for me makes it loose his attention, which is a big part of the fantasy. I enjoy some cuddling (did a guy really say that?) between dances, and like the rest some hands on to intimate hands on is cool too. I also find some conversation to be enjoyable. Once in a while I'm in enough of a hurry (but wanna go to club anyway) that the usual walk up & wanna dance vs actually talking first will actually score a dance with me , but usually prefer a little one on one first. Of course some drinking is fine, I'm usually in a bar, right? i'm a non-smoker so prefer that-but usually say it's ok when asked if smoking's alright with me. Another part of the reason I'm here is variety, so different outfits are good for me. Like cheerleader, skimpy-revealing wear, & GND look too.