My return to the life has been fruitful

Damn! After a week like that it's gotta be all down hill. Congrats and good hunting!

Potheadpl - I'm curious why you left. You profile says something about your trying to be domestic - I guess with a girlfriend, fiance, or wife? Couple questions:

1. Could you just not find satisfaction "fitting in" to the social outlets supposedly available to a guy in a relationship? I mean sure, you and your SO can go to dinner with other couples, take vacations, watch movies, etc. But unless she's a very special woman and you have a very open relationship (unlike nearly every girl I've known), you're not going to hit SCs with any frequency (and when/if you do go, it'll be as a rare "night out" with the boys after which you'll get the distant look and the cold shoulder from your SO for a couple days). And on those occasions you might go, you probably won't do any more than an air dance, or a light lap dance, lest you come home with stripper evidence (glitter, makeup, snail trails, etc) on your clothes.

2. Do you think you can ever have an honest and committed SO relationship AND still indulge in your SC and OTC activities? I agree with you that the secret to life is hot young pussy. That being the case, don't you think you'll still find yourself yearning for that deeper and longer-lasting connection with woman, at least on occasion? And if so, how do you solve the dilemma?

I'm not sure what the answer is. As I've aged, I've realized that after several long-term relationships with trying to "fit in" each time into the couples world (one that doesn't include SCs on a regular basis), I always build up a deprivation pressure that over time becomes almost all-consuming. After we break up (and there's always a reason other than SCs and the like), I make a beeline for the SCs and "go on a tear" as you put it.

Lately I've been going a couple/three times a week, and loving every minute of it. I never seem to get tired of it, and from what I can tell, all the married guys I know are dying to have a life like mine because their marriages are so goddamn dull and their wives are for the most part, atrocious specimens of womanhood. And even if they weren't, after 20 or 30 years of grinding sameness/dullness, it seems every sexual urge (outside their desire to fuck hotties like I do whenever they want) has vanished. It frankly scares the hell out of me.

I'm at the point now wondering which of three paths I should take:

a) Just say, "Fuck it, this is how it's going to be going forward," and indulge fully in the SC "lifestyle" like I am today without remorse, regret, or delusions I'm ever going to change down the road?

b) Maybe attempt to find the "right woman" again - one who'll be my intellectual, physical, and social match - who'll I'll feel satisfied fucking the rest of my life, and will find whatever social outlets the couples' world has to be satisfying and perhaps ultimately more enriching than anything I could do as a single?

c) Perhaps go down a whole different path and try to build an "open" relationship with a former stripper, model, or at least a swinger who'll allow me a certain intimacy and social constancy, while I indulge to my heart's content in SC, OTC, and other assorted sextracurricular activities?

Thoughts?

Rod---I had a girlfriend for a while. She had two kids. I thought she was cool but it turns out she was crazy. I know all women are crazy, but this chick was certifiable. Low self-esteem, needy, bad childhood, bipolar---basically it was like trying to date a stripper without the hotness of an actual stripper. She was decent looking but not great, and I think that bothered me a lot. If I'm going to deal with craziness, the woman is going to have to be hot. Shallow, yes, but that's how it is. She dumped ME, which is the real ball buster of the whole deal. It turns out she has a pattern of behaviour---she's cool with guys for four months then bails. Unfortunately she likes to push her cute little kids on guys to lure them in. Sucks.

Strippers are fun. They tend to be young, good looking, have tight bodies, and are sexually adventurous. Plus, I don't have to worry about "being compatible" because all they want is fun.

If I found a woman with whom I was compatible, both intellectually and physically, I would walk away from strippers. Absolutely. Until then, it's all about hot young pussy. I do have a type---I like fit girls with fake tits. The ones IRL are high maintenance. Strippers who fit that description are easy targets, because they're strippers. LOL

pothead: "Unfortunately she likes to push her cute little kids on guys to lure them in. "

Think already having kids scares away most guys.

Seems like Florida is the perfect spot for you chosen lifestyle. Have fun!

Rod: With regard to your number 2, I know it's possible.

The secret to life is hot young pussy. LOL

^^ BINGO!

Enjoy it while you are young.

gmd - Are you saying you're in an SO situation, AND you openly go to your favorite SC, indulge in VIP activities, do the occasional OTC, etc? Does your SO join you, or do you just tell her, "Honey, I'm off to see Sparkles at the SC tonight; don't wait up."

In all seriousness, I'm interested in your situation/choices because this has been a tough nut to crack for me.

Read back to some of my prior posts for more detail, but the bottom line is that my wife knows what I'm doing, and doesn't have a problem with it. She doesn't want it more than very occasionally any more, and that's not nearly enough for me, so I go out, indulge, and come back.

I don't usually tell her much in the way of specifics, I'm not going to go out of my way to rub her face in it, but she knows I'm fucking around. The only rules are: rubbers for everything and no pussy eating without a dam.

gmd - Yes, I went back thru some of your reviews and posts, and remember you sometimes mention situations involving your wife.

Question: Did your mutual indulgence and/or her tolerance figure into your relationship at the beginning, or did it develop over the years from a more traditional monogamous couple to what you have now? And was it mutually agreeable, or did she sort of begrudgingly get into it over time as a way of not "losing" you (whether she learned to like it later, or not).

In either case, my perception is that what you have is rare. Less rare perhaps would be a 'swinging' couple, which usually involves the couple sharing while together only, and not the guy going out when he feels like it for VIP/OTC action. I could be wrong, but this perception is what drives me to consider seeking either a woman already involved in an alternative lifestyle (already working at an SC, a swinger/nudist, etc.) or making it clear up front my desires/expectations before the bud of a new relationship takes root.

Last question: Is your wife somewhat "bi?" and if so, is that what makes the SC lifestyle more palatable for her? I see a lot of women in SCs these days and wonder whether that quality would make her more open to my being there.

Welcome back, potheadpl

There is no way that you use a dam when eating pussy!

Does anyone?

pothead, you're not reporting, you're bragging. But who can blame you?

jackslash: at least he is transparent about it, unlike sharkhunter who will try and sneak it in some long winded manner, oblique manner, usually in a subject that doesn't seem at all related.

Rod: It's been there from the beginning, though only in the last 10 years or so has it been more than an occasional thing. As for whether her tolerance is genuine or begrudging, you'd have to ask her, but she still kisses me good night, and says "I love you".

She is not overtly bisexual, but I know what kind of porn she watches, and it doesn't have dicks in it. She accompanies me occasionally, and has a bit of a frolic after she's had a couple of beers, but so far has not let anyone go any further than playing with and sucking on her boobs, and rubbing her through her panties. I know that she has gotten off a time or two, though.

I'm sure not gonna push the issue, as much as I'd like to see it. :)

StrongSilentttt: Yes, I do, though admittedly not very often. The odor of most girls who've been working all night puts me off, but when we've met at a hotel, I've sometimes done it after we both get out of the shower.

" Low self-esteem, needy, bad childhood, bipolar.."

aka "My Dream Girl".