I dislike lap dances.
rickdugan
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At this risk of posting blasphemy around these parts, I really don't get much from lap dances. Most of the time they do nothing for me. And in the rare instances where they do get a reaction, now what? Hope that she jerks me off through or in my pants? Just walk away with a goofy grin?
Oh, and I also hate when girls do that do pseudo-intimacy crap where they "look deeply" in my eyes or purr in my ear.
No thank you, I'll leave that nonsense for others. I'm not searching for intimacy and have no really interest in being crawled on while I'm clothed. I also have 0 interest in blowing a load in my pants, even if a girl could get me to do so (not likely since I'm not a big fan of hand jobs).
I go to a club to: 1. see hot chicks; 2. be entertained by one of those hot chicks; and 3. source my OTC fun. And in a few special clubs my night ends with some great ITC action, but those are the exception rather than the norm.
And how do I build my OTC connections without lap dances? I tip for time, though I am always careful not to pay her too much ITC. IME it is a balancing act where I need to give her enough to be interested, but not so much that she is fat and happy before she leaves. Usually something in the area of $120-150 in tips, a few drinks, a view of the bankroll (subtly done of course) and a good chat gets me to the right place if there is an opportunity to be had.
I have been in over 50 clubs this year, but can count the times I've done lap dances on one hand. IMO lap dances are nothing but time and money wasters.
Oh, and I also hate when girls do that do pseudo-intimacy crap where they "look deeply" in my eyes or purr in my ear.
No thank you, I'll leave that nonsense for others. I'm not searching for intimacy and have no really interest in being crawled on while I'm clothed. I also have 0 interest in blowing a load in my pants, even if a girl could get me to do so (not likely since I'm not a big fan of hand jobs).
I go to a club to: 1. see hot chicks; 2. be entertained by one of those hot chicks; and 3. source my OTC fun. And in a few special clubs my night ends with some great ITC action, but those are the exception rather than the norm.
And how do I build my OTC connections without lap dances? I tip for time, though I am always careful not to pay her too much ITC. IME it is a balancing act where I need to give her enough to be interested, but not so much that she is fat and happy before she leaves. Usually something in the area of $120-150 in tips, a few drinks, a view of the bankroll (subtly done of course) and a good chat gets me to the right place if there is an opportunity to be had.
I have been in over 50 clubs this year, but can count the times I've done lap dances on one hand. IMO lap dances are nothing but time and money wasters.
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For me, lap dances are an audition, not an end unto themselves.
Besides, the more time I spend in a club having lap dances the less time I spend drinking. With me and excess booze in a SC my poor entertainment fund takes some vicious hits.
But, as GMD, I like the lap dance so I too can grope, er, I mean explore the fine features of her beautiful body, find interesting places and maybe a place that excites her too...all while finding where her limits are--with my ultimate goal being to get her to exceed those limits. I may not do it on the first dance, but I will eventually if there is followup. And she better know how to drive or I'm not coming back (see other discussion).
And Rick, I still like to end up where you do, I just have different thrills in my journey.
What the hell...I like LDs when they're done right...even if there's no sex.
Before wifey caught me, I never had any intentions of fucking any stripper. After getting caught, I've been given the green light. I still have little desire to fuck these girls. I'm the grope master, I love those hot young titties. And to be sure, I don't mind some (ok, a lot of) hj or getting the stinky pinky.
I'm not trying to kid anyone, my time at the club drives me crazy later. I want to be in her bed. I want to fill her up. But then something kicks in and I say nope, thats for my marriage bed.
I don't know, fucked up, no?
It kinda reminds me of Rick's in Negril Jamaica. There's cliff dive there. The O/ITC guys are the ones that actual jump. The rest of us get our thrill just looking over the edge.
Different risks involved. Plus, the advantage to test drive, in a club, before you buy your "new" ride.
Everyone has their own reasons for visiting a SC. From RD's posts, it appears to me he likes to dress up in suits and flash his wad to impress the girls for OTC action. Me, I have always visited SC's for entertainment, there is much better OTC than dancers.
For those who point out that they have sex available at home, so do I, and with an attractive woman to boot. But it is fun to bang a younger girl every so often. I also don't feel the restraints that I do with the mother of my children. Ever had a girl who gets off on having her ass beat while getting fucked roughly from behind? I have, and she is currently in my rotation.
For those that say there are better places to get p4p pussy than a club, really? It is anonymous, deniable and the selection occurs in person. What's not to like? Years ago I used dial-a-hoe services a couple of times and just didn't like it. Nevermind the fact that nowadays these services are getting busted and, when they do, are eagerly coughing up customer names. IMO nothing beats getting to know a girl and discreetly taking her out of the club.
And the purpose of my gig is not to "impress" per se, but rather to entice a cash hungry girl to make the right decision. ;) This approach might not have worked so easily 4-5 years ago, but in today's world it is fairly effective.
Exactly.
"Ever had a girl who gets off on having her ass beat while getting fucked roughly from behind?"
Uh, how about an introduction? :)
And I agree with everyone who says there is nothing better than test driving in a club or making our choices there with the corresponding teasing and flirting vs. a remote service that may or may not be reliable, how much better can we tee this up? It beats the alternative every time for me as a total experience.
Re suits. I stopped wearing them to strip clubs several years ago as a way to set myself apart from certain types of customers who I knew the dancers were typecasting in a negative way (a one-time thing, not a universal observation). I didn't want that to happen to me and I've been happy with the results ever since.
Giving up the suit has also enabled me to avoid being perceived as a big spenders. I prefer to be perceived as a consistent spender so dancers know what they can expect from me and inversely me from them. Over time I build real relationships, make certain investments and get reliable interest on those investments. Not that this is best for everybody, it's just working well for me right now.
The problem with all of this though is my insatiable quest for someone new. The repeated need for new investment in the club to achieve the OTC goal can be a drain on time and money. But the hunt is half the fun!
gk, I understand where you are coming from and agree that we all do what works for us. A lot of my club visits happen during travel, so the suit lets the girls know that I'm a traveling businessman - which in some places actually hastens the OTC offer. Also, I agree that the suit approach has its drawbacks in that it can bring out the vultures. However, I've become pretty good at working through the girls that are enticed by the sizzle to find those willing to work for the steak/stake.
i like a hands on and mouth/tongue experience with a clean dancer that i know has good hygine habits early on her shift before the dregs get their hands on her. air dances and ass bouncing on my lap are not in the realm of good lapdances btw.