Pushing her limits...
shadowcat
Atlanta suburb
The glossary defines mileage as "How much shit you can get away with". But how do you know unless you try? Her limits may change from day to day and customer to customer. I say go for it. Yes, I have had my hand removed and heard NO, etc but that does not stop me. If I get rebuffed, I stop and move on to the next dancer. If her hand goes into my pants, I take that as a signal to go under her thong. Most of them will guide you along and let you know what their limits are. I some times ask "Am I pushing your limits". I have heard a little, which I take to mean proceed with caution.I have heard from favorite, "Not this week". Translation- I am on the rag. Sometimes a NO changes to Yes when they get to know you better or you spend a lot more money. Too much money is too much money. I am there to rent. Not buy. And so it goes...
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First, I'm not just looking for any dancer that will let me do what I want. There's a dancer at HH that wants to take me into the "love corner" and fuck, but she just doesn't do it for me. (actually, I find her to be a turn off - mostly because she has ratty hair)
Second, I, like someone else said in another thread, look at the dances as an interview process for OTC. And that goes BOTH ways. I've always felt that I need to gain HER confidence and prove that I'm not Doug Bundy that is going to drop her body off somewhere. Also, I think it's important that she knows if she decides not to fuck and says "no", that I will stop. I've found that the type of girl that I'm interested in, responds to me NOT pushing her limits. I've had several girls say that they can give a better dance when they aren't worrying about where the guy's hands are and where they are going next. She can then relax and go as far as she wants.
Admittedly, this takes longer and a lot of times probably doesn't get me as far, either.
BUT, when I start talking OTC with her, I always am able to point out that she can trust me, and that I have proven that we will only go as far as SHE wants to go.
I HAVE had a lot of success employing this philosophy, and even though they don't always agree to the initial OTC proposition, eventually they have ALL agreed. Most of the OTC arrangements have been long-term that were very rewarding - in more ways than one (though that ONE way was good, too! [wink])
My recent three-ish year absence from the clubs was because I had two OTC "relationships" that I was involved in. (no reason to spend time in the clubs, when you can OTC with them) Eventually both of those relatiionships ran their course, but I was lucky enough after a visit to Industrial Strip (Hammond) to score another OTC arrangement that lasted until recently. Currently since returning, I've been working on two girls at my fav club, and I THINK I am nearing that first OTC meeting with at least one of them - maybe both.
It's a simple process: interview, test the limits, revisit or never again.
DougS, I don't entirely disagree with you. Mind, I don't have the *patience* you seem to, but your individual tactics aren't too far off from what I'm doing, even if my progress is somewhat accelerated.
Really, the key I think, is that we all need to have our own style; what feels comfortable and enjoyable to each of us. The beauty of it is there are no "set rules", and as we learn things along the way, we are free to employ new tactics and techniques. With that said, I think I've learned something from this post and may modify my plan of attack - just slightly - to add a LITTLE pushing of limits.