I know this sounds kinda pathetic. Has anyone ever had a 1 on 1 show with a dancer OTC? I'm not necessarily looking for sex but I would love to have a nice long lap dance with a girl in a comfortable place with no worries of bouncers interrupting or worrying about song counts.
Hell...I just wish my wife would give me this treatment....but she's to insecure about her body! Bah!
Hey Prim0 check around on the columbus craigslist escort/adult page and you will occasionally see girls offering lap dances OTC. The prices are lower than the strip clubs but there is the risk that she might be a rip off and a chance she'll bring her own personal bouncer over (guy friend or boyfriend, etc). You never know if they will rob you so I have not done it yet.
lol.. did someone put you up to this question prim0?
(nevermind, private joke)
well yeah i've dated a couple dancers at times and i used to get freebie laps from them at home. always enjoyed those times and lately i've been trying to find the right girl to do it again (paid of course) but it seems that various circumstances have prevented it from happening so far.
I don't know if I'd call it pathetic, but it's not something id be interested in. Formme, the lapdance is the interview, not the end result. That said, if you're happy with what you're getting, and not paying more than you think it's worth, then good for you.
Someday, when an especially hot young thing is grinding away on your lap, you'll realize you want more. :)
i don't know who your question is directed at gator but in my case when i got laps from my former stripper girlfriends they always led to sex, free i might add.
a private lapdance is just a different form of foreplay and i find some of the above comments amusing from guys that think nothing of paying hundreds of dollars to get laid (something i have not yet done) but think paying for private dances which very possibly could lead to getting laid is bodering on pathetic or a waste of time.
we're all different and we all have our way of doing things whatever they may be.. screwing, stripclubbing, washing the car, whatever.
troop: I hope you didn't get that impression from my post, that wasn't the intent. If he just wants lappers, then that's what he should get, and nobody here really has any business telling him he's wrong. On the other hand, as one for whom that is definitely *not* what I want to get out of the deal, at least not *all* of what I want, I have to admit to bit of curiosity as to why that's all he wants?
Satisfaction with what he's got at home, but a little curious?
Fear of being caught by the SO or LE?
Something else?
well i think he said he just wants some privacy without the prying eyes and not having to worry about song counts.
personally i can totally relate to both of those especially the privacy part.
really nothing there to analyze imo.
if he wants to comment further i imagine he will.
Well, as the old saying goes, it's his money and he can spend it how he chooses. I will admit that I am a little baffled about spending it for lap dances when he could be spending it on BJ, FS, etc., but to each his own.
Last Friday according to dancer atf was bikini day. We had met for lunch day before for 5 lappers and lunch but no sex. At this club she dancing at (she got fired from home one where I am ViP and could do her in vip) it is $120 to go to upstairs CR and she says anything goes there. Since I have been fucking her for $125 avg I won't pay that just to go up there. We met at motel Friday around 9am. She came out in bik and she did a dance as foreplay. Just seeing her in bik made me really hard and seeing how my hardon she decided during second dance lets go to the bed. After some HJ foreplay / tease (this turns her on she says) she put condom on me and then got on top, leaning forward and fucked me (she likes it like that). It was relaxing and I got off really good with her. She smiled and kissed me and commented on how good week it had been. She got $100 for the sex and $20 for two dances. Been seeing her 2 years. Got her again this last Tue (after she got off work at club) at $120 and Friday she wants to meet for bik day.
The few times I've explored the "private lapdance show" in someplace OTC it has always ended in some type of sexual activity or other. I always made it a point beforehand to mention that "sexual activity is not the goal here - just nude lapdances, please". But when that train starts hurtling down that track at full speed, ain't nothin' gonna slow it down. You might find yourself with more than you bargained for.
Clubber,
I do know several of the girls in some of the pix. Most are either dancers or porn actresses (I do indeed know some porn actresses...woo hoo!). Lovely women and quite...ahem....photogenic.
I will post a nice pic of me & a dancer friend that was taken recently at a club promo event. I just gotta get the friend who snapped the shot to email me a copy.
Guys guys guys...we all have our own goals. Persoally, I just love a good lap dance. I'm married with a child and really wouldn't feel right about taking it further. My wife knew I liked SCs and lapdances before we hooked up do I don't feel to bad about doing that. HJ, BJ and FS just feel wrong to me. That is why I posted as such.
Gator...sex is the name of your game and I wish you luck with it...I just happen to look for something else.
Just like I don't want people telling me that SCs are a sin and should be shut down, I also don't want people telling me what MY game or goals should be.
Cool, PrimO, I don't doubt you'll do what you feel is right. Personally, I'd like Melon Girl,(my avatar) to come to my place and do whatever she wanted. I'm sure a few of the guys here would enjoy the same thing. Good luck to you.
Prim0 sex might not be your game, but back to your original topic: my point is why else would you pay an exorbitant price a stripper will ask for OTC to simply have her give you a lap dance. If moneys no object for you, then have a ball having a $400 OTC lap dance in the comfort of your sofa. I think most here will say this girl and club should be offering quality lap dances and not making you wish the lap dances were better.
Prim0, I'll add to the "do what makes you happy" sentiments. Hell, for me, there's not even a consistent standard as to what makes me happy.
On one end: The first club I ever went to was a no-contact, no-how, nowhere club. But my fave there is breathtaking and (unlike 99% of strippers) actually knows how to dance seductively. A table dance at that club is literally that: the dancer gets up on a sturdy table and dances in front of you. And a VIP is just an extended, private table dance. But I really liked VIPs with my fave as she was so much fun to watch, even though that's all I could do.
On the other end: Before it closed down, I went to Tiffany's now and then. Really hit it off with this one dancer on a slow night. We talked a good while, and she gave me a couple LDs. Then I decided to pull the trigger on VIP. Apparently we had hit it off really well, as the VIP ended with a free HJ. I only managed to get one more VIP from her before the club closed, but with her, I'd have been disappointed if it *didn't* include a HJ.
Specific to your original question, once I started getting LDs at other clubs, I had considered what you described with that first dancer (since in addition to the privacy and lack of song count that you mentioned, she couldn't even do LDs in that club). About the time that I got up the guts to ask her, she was having a shitty week, and one of the things that she vented about was that a regular just disappeared on her when he asked for OTC and she turned him down. Her denial wasn't the sex, but her fear of the lack of security of OTC -- she's a fairly-responsible single mom with 2 kids whose father is a complete idiot. So I kept my mouth shut, and to this day, I wonder what a LD from her would be like.
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(nevermind, private joke)
well yeah i've dated a couple dancers at times and i used to get freebie laps from them at home. always enjoyed those times and lately i've been trying to find the right girl to do it again (paid of course) but it seems that various circumstances have prevented it from happening so far.
still looking...........
If I'm going to do something with a hot young girl I want the full meal, not just an appetizer.
Someday, when an especially hot young thing is grinding away on your lap, you'll realize you want more. :)
a private lapdance is just a different form of foreplay and i find some of the above comments amusing from guys that think nothing of paying hundreds of dollars to get laid (something i have not yet done) but think paying for private dances which very possibly could lead to getting laid is bodering on pathetic or a waste of time.
we're all different and we all have our way of doing things whatever they may be.. screwing, stripclubbing, washing the car, whatever.
Satisfaction with what he's got at home, but a little curious?
Fear of being caught by the SO or LE?
Something else?
Not judgmental, but definitely curious?
personally i can totally relate to both of those especially the privacy part.
really nothing there to analyze imo.
if he wants to comment further i imagine he will.
OK, I have to ask. Are any of your pictures you or at least friends of yours? Dancers perhaps?
I do know several of the girls in some of the pix. Most are either dancers or porn actresses (I do indeed know some porn actresses...woo hoo!). Lovely women and quite...ahem....photogenic.
I will post a nice pic of me & a dancer friend that was taken recently at a club promo event. I just gotta get the friend who snapped the shot to email me a copy.
I've been in lust with her since I saw her in a lesbian porn flick last year. I don't know her personally - sure wish I did!
"well, dance all night get real loose
you don't need no bad excuse
dance all night with anyone
don't let nobody pick your fun"
Gator...sex is the name of your game and I wish you luck with it...I just happen to look for something else.
Just like I don't want people telling me that SCs are a sin and should be shut down, I also don't want people telling me what MY game or goals should be.
On one end: The first club I ever went to was a no-contact, no-how, nowhere club. But my fave there is breathtaking and (unlike 99% of strippers) actually knows how to dance seductively. A table dance at that club is literally that: the dancer gets up on a sturdy table and dances in front of you. And a VIP is just an extended, private table dance. But I really liked VIPs with my fave as she was so much fun to watch, even though that's all I could do.
On the other end: Before it closed down, I went to Tiffany's now and then. Really hit it off with this one dancer on a slow night. We talked a good while, and she gave me a couple LDs. Then I decided to pull the trigger on VIP. Apparently we had hit it off really well, as the VIP ended with a free HJ. I only managed to get one more VIP from her before the club closed, but with her, I'd have been disappointed if it *didn't* include a HJ.
Specific to your original question, once I started getting LDs at other clubs, I had considered what you described with that first dancer (since in addition to the privacy and lack of song count that you mentioned, she couldn't even do LDs in that club). About the time that I got up the guts to ask her, she was having a shitty week, and one of the things that she vented about was that a regular just disappeared on her when he asked for OTC and she turned him down. Her denial wasn't the sex, but her fear of the lack of security of OTC -- she's a fairly-responsible single mom with 2 kids whose father is a complete idiot. So I kept my mouth shut, and to this day, I wonder what a LD from her would be like.