What to do about ATF?

It's time to move on. Any time a dancer does not treat you the way you want to be treated, DUMP HER. Don't try to figure her out. Thats useless. Plenty of more fish in the sea.

I see three possibilities:

A. You're a Dick Johnson wannabe. If so, you don't measure up.

B. She knows she's successfully transferred you from the hook to the net, or even right into the tank, and so no longer feels like she needs to expend the effort. If you're aching to see her, she's right. If you're contemplating using another dancer just to make her jealous, she's right.

C. She's tired of you, no longer wants to see you, thinks you're stalker, you're not as big a spender as she thought she might have landed, or any of a thousand other reasons a stripper loses interest in a customer.

For B or C, move on. If she's no longer providing the experience you want, she's wasting your time. And so are you.

Maybe it is Dick Johnson in disguise.

Whenever women pull this sort of stuff just remember what Dr. Dre said "bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks".

Dr. Dre knows what he's talking about, he must be pretty smart since he went to medical school.

Didn't we already talk to you about this?

While you sound like a RIL, I have to wonder why you even want to bother with worrying about her. Just go back to the club and find the fun you want whether she approaches you or someone else.

All it takes to have fun in a SC is money. Don't let a girl keep you from enjoying your fav SC. I am sure there are other gals there who knew you spent money and they will try to grab you first.

Move on. Best yet, don't text her to tell her it's over. If she texts or calls you, ignore the text and don't take the call.

SnakePlissken says:

Dr. Dre knows what he's talking about, he must be pretty smart since he went to medical school.
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LMAO! that's funny!

and yeah wasn't this just discussed?

i was sitting at the bar in a club and a dancer i knew and liked a little was sitting a couple seats down talking with another dancer and a female bartender. they were discussing boyfriend troubles and the 1st dancer said that the more you treat them like shit the more they hang around. i laughed at that and told her that it doesn't work like that with every guy and if i was treated that way i would walk. she said all guys were like that. i had seen her bf, young stupid guy that didn't even look like he was old enough to drink and told her that if she was basing her opinion from her experiences with him she had alot to learn.
a while later she asked me if i wanted a dance and i declined and told her that since she figured i was like her perception of all other guys this was lesson #1 in her new learning curve. never bought another dance from her again, never will.

so brotherhood's lesson here is move on, don't waste your time or money on that girl.

ahh ok.. i just checked..
brotherhood is the same dude that supposedly spent 3,700 on a girl in 4 days.

new advice.. go find another board to troll on.

I agree with others saying if a dancer is not calling you and you don't feel respected, then just move on. Chances are she does not give a shit about you or despises you. I have had a stripper sit with me looking at her phone complaining about a PL/ex BF who sends them long text messages or pleas on voice mail and they just laugh while deleting them telling me how they don't care about that person.

^^^^ What is kind of ironic is that after a few weeks of getting to know this stripper better and seeing her OTC to go out to a bar to listen to one of her local musician friends play music (but not fucking because she said she was feeling sick - probably was SS and wanted to use me to provider her drinks, cover charge, and companionship lol), I became that PL that would call her several times a week and get ignored. Eventually just had to move on, it was tough but you can do it.

sam, Just out of curiosity, why was it tough?

It truly amazes me that i joined Tuscl because it seemed like a great
place for people of similar interest to be able to share views and and
have a bit of fellowship.It also seemed like a great place to get differ
ent views on various situations from people that have had it happen to
them.I've asked 3 different questions to get feedback and you've got some serious assholes out there that think they got their shit together,
but are probably a bunch of punks living in their mommas basement.I may
be new to sc's and easy to become a pl, but i never repeat my mistakes.
If I thought my question had been answered in my previous post,I wouldn'
t have posted this one.I don't know who are what a Dick Johnson is but it doesn't sound very good.As for troop who the hell are you telling someone to find another board to troll.You've only been a member since
Novenber of last year.Get some more time on the board and a couple 100
more post and your opinion might mean something.For all who offered some
thing constructive I really appreciate,for you other miserable men go
screw yourself.For any offended by this post i apologize it's my turrets.

Geesh, brotherhood, what an outburst. We are sorry we couldn't be more helpful to you. LOL!

well if the number of posts is the measurement of knowledge.. dude you only have 4 posts.
by your own admission, you've started 3 threads asking questions and never responded to any of your answers until now. if your question wasn't answered in the previous post why didn't you say something?
i called it like i saw it.. but i will do you and myself a favor and stay out of your threads seeking the meaning of life.

anyway.. i gotta go now, my mom's about to turn off the basement lights.

Snore...

brotherhood,
What's the fuckin' big deal with living in my mom's basement? You want a piece of me, brother?!?

On the main issue, moving on the best advice. Moving on after giving her a message is better. How about giving all of "her" money and attention to another dancer in the club. Payback.

I disagree. You will not succeed in making her jeleous or feel bad. If you were ever close you should ask her in person. From my experience she could have a bf and/or sugar daddy taking up most of her time. Could be drug addiction or just trying to be discrete around family visiting. Hooked up with a few dancers OTC and they sometimes drop out of touch once in a while for various reason. Worse case she ignores you or just not interested seeing you. Then you can either move on or throw $ at her until she comes back. Depend on what kind relationship you want.

Do try to avoid the common response, which is to treat her even worse than you perceive she's treated you. Apparently you had some tender feeling for her, if her behaving like a typical stripper upsets you. Best to forget about it.

yayyyyyyyyyy, this discussion got lively, it's been relatively peacefu around here lately. LOL. As far as the dancer, there's plenty of fish in the sea. I found some really nice fish on my visit to Platinum Plus last week, too bad it's soooooo far away.

b'hood: Just to clear, I'm one of those who suspects you are a troll, or attmpting to emulate DJ. For an explanation of why, search the user base and peruse a few of his posts.

If you're for real, then I think you're terribly naive. There's nothing wrong with that condition in and of itself, as long as you learn something from it. There are some who apparently believe that they sprang from the womb perfect knowledge of women, how to treat them, and how to maximize their time with them, but those folks are full of shit; we've all been where you at some point and to some degree, even if not to the degree you appear to be. :)

This smells a lot like one guy messing around with a few different screen names and self generating some buzz.

However, in the interest of being a good sport...

My brother, this is about the whiniest shit I have read on here, and that is saying something. You ARE a PL to her (and maybe in general) and the only thing left to do is move on. If this is real, then you need to toughen up. Dancers are head cases that think only about the $$$ and if you have been texting/calling her for 3-4 months without going into the club, then what the fuck do you expect?! What have you done for her lately?

As Eddie Murphy says, "What have you done for me lately?"

If one of my customers spent four months harassing me by text without spending a dime at the club, I would stop replying to his texts altogether. I am not a charity, you want me to touch you right then you have to grease my palms, so to speak. Strippers are not there to be your girlfriend. Our job is to provide you with a fantasy in exchange for money - lots of it.

Fantasy? WTF? I pay strippers to suck my cock. For real.

KitTastic, are you Shecat or do you know her. We swapped some emails a few years back.

No, I don't know Shecat, sorry.

"If one of my customers spent four months harassing me by text without spending a dime at the club, I would stop replying to his texts altogether. I am not a charity, you want me to touch you right then you have to grease my palms, so to speak. Strippers are not there to be your girlfriend. Our job is to provide you with a fantasy in exchange for money - lots of it."

Thanks Kit for the input - and I'm hurt that you have me on Ignore ;)

The fantasy part is generally crap. This may be true for the casual clubber or for a slice of PLs, but a majority of us have a variety of other motivations, from seeing lots of T&A to more seedy intentions. Also, plenty of guys in the clubs I frequent have hot girlfriends or wives, including me, though I must admit that my hot wife is also my age (40), so I do not mind seeing fun girls 10-15 years younger than us ;)