To all the dancers: What's going on here? Really need your imput.
Riv
At first I thought it was a just freak thing that was a coincidence, but I can't tell you on how many occassions I've spent a lot of money on a dancer(private lap dance), then when I'd come into the club a few weeks later, the same girls that I've spent money on by getting private dances, will just ignore me and won't come up to me. I practice good hygiene(don't smell bad or have bad breath), I'm a good-looking guy, am not an a**hole to the dancers, am not a weirdo, creep or stalker, etc., etc., yet this seems to keep happening with a lot of the girls. I'm really confused. I've spent a large amount of $$$ on these women, only to be ignored. One girl in particular I spend like $700 in dances one night, and now whenever I come into the club she ignores me. ???
*Note*: this doesn't happen with every girl, but it happens a lot. I know this is not a case of them not recognizing me, because I know they do recognize me(it wasn't that long at all since they last seen me).
*Note*: this doesn't happen with every girl, but it happens a lot. I know this is not a case of them not recognizing me, because I know they do recognize me(it wasn't that long at all since they last seen me).
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Here in Ohio, the Dayton/Southern Ohio dancers are more respectful than the ones in the central and northern part of state. Southern hospitality kind of thing I guess.
FYI: There are only a couple dancers that post on here. 99% of the people on the discussion board are clubbers.
Riv- I know you wrote that you're not creepy or stalking or anything.....but are you sure that you aren't giving off some kind of vibe that is turning the dancers off?
Unfortunately, the opposite problem of being immediately approached sometimes involves a girl I gave a whirl despite not being that attracted (hoping the private would be better than I expected) or a girl that ended up not being that good in private.
Could be the town or the club. Or a vibe -- maybe not negative, but they might be interpreting your vibe in a way you don't intend.
"Data, data, data. I cannot make bricks without clay."
--Sherlock Holmes
You could also try to space out your visits and spend $700 over a total of 3 or 4 visits instead of all in one night.
Steve and lopaw are right - there is a missing piece of the puzzle here.
I don't agree with Aluc about chasing the girl. Either she remembered you and steered clear anyway of she just did not remember. Either way she has blown it in my book. I don't reward stupidity - unless of course it is a dumb girl I convinced to do bad things with me ;)
Someone mentioned earlier that they see hundreds of guys and can't remember everyone. Unless it's Mons Venus or somewhere in NYC or such, they remember customers that leave an impression. If you buy one or two dances, no they probably won't remember you as time goes by, but if you spend $700 they remember you.
Then there's this other chick; again, it's gonna be hard for you all to believe, but she ended up giving me a few FREE regular dances at her own will(even had no qualms about stroking my d*ck through the pants. but the next time I came into the club, she ignored me. So, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and called her over for a private dance $100 for 15 minutes. She gave me the dance and again had no qualms about stroking my dick through my pants. By this time, this chick CLEARLY has to know who I am. So, I go to this other club that I had no clue about her dancing there. She's talking to her friend at the other end of the bar when I walk in. She clearly see's me, but ignores me. Then I see her mumbling something to her friend, looking in my direction, as if she was talking crap about me. I'm saying to myself, "What the hell's up with this chick, I never said or did anything to her?" She never ended up coming over. Totally weird. The only thing I can think of, if anything, that might have bothered her, was suggesting she grab my d*ck in the last dance. But if that in fact was the thing that bothered her, then she should have never did it in my last two other dances with her. She wasn't forced, she could have said "no", and I would've been cool with it. Weird, weird, weird, is all I could say.
Again, theses 2 dancers are just a few examples of the handful that ignore me, after spending a lot of money on private dances with them. But then yet at the same time, I'll have dancers I've spent a lot of money on who won't ignore me. I just can't figure it out. I've had 2 hot dancers in the past pull my d*ck out and start jerking me. Most of the time, everytime I get a dance, the dancers will grab my dick through the pants. I get that a lot. I don't know if that's a common thing at all. Anyhow, so yeah, it's very bizarre that I'm being ignored by a lot of dancers the next time they see me around, when I know they most certainly recognize me.
But most of the time it is the opposite: walk into a SC you haven't been to in months, and the girl who gave you the last lame LD during your previous visit latches on to you, remembers your name, asks why you haven't called even when you tossed her number when you left, and has a hard time getting the hint you aren't going to give her any repeat business.
Shit, if you like latina meat (and I very much do) $400 will get you good takeout in some of those Queens dives.
You might need to toughen up a bit.
As far as giving off a weird vibe, I can't see anything that I could possibly be doing that is so bad that would make them go to such an extent as to ignore me(I can't find anything at all. I really wish I could find something). I mean, someone would have to be behaving really "out there" for me to avoid that person. And I would think dancers would be thinking along those same lines too. If I was so weird or needy, then why would a lot of these dancers grab my dick through my pants, let me suck on their necks, why would that one dancers that I spent about $600 on, suggest we maintain some kind of financial sex for money relationship. Why would she keep insisting I cum also during the dance? Really, if I was projecting such a weird vibe, or if I was so needy, why go this far with me? Doesn't make sense. Plus, I know I'm a perfectly normal dude. I have a good social life, have many friends, etc.
Might be a good call on your part. :)
1. Strippers in Queens, who are among the most money hungry bitches I have ever met (and I travel the country) won't give you the time of day after you blew $700; and
2. You seem really worked up about #1 above.
Don't get me wrong, if the girl doesn't like you, your vibe, whatever then fuck her. But the fact that you are having this problem baffles me.
I guess you just need to move on to the ones that like your money. Hell, for far less than $700 you should be able to get some nice takeout, so I'm not sure why you would spend $700 in a Queens club anyway.
Females like the ones you have mentioned will either try to milk you dry or will not want to have anything to do with you period. My advice is to stop going to these clubs and find some dancers with better class.
A lot of these girls are HOT and don't spew a lot of the horse shit that you find in Manhattan clubs. This makes these clubs a lot of fun and, as I previously mentioned, takeout with a hot piece of ass is available from some of the Queens clubs.
Of course, some of these girls are also tough and smart and will clean you out if they can. This is why I suggested that he change his frame of mind, pull up the ol' pants, and go in with the right attitude.