If a dancer gives you her number, how do you interpret that?

43 comments

• Dougster

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  14 years ago

  I'd say I've gotten around a 100 numbers from strippers and only had two which were phonies. One phony, I felt right away something was up, so I called her right on the spot with the pretext of getting my number into her cell phone. Busted! The 2nd phony came when I was negotiating an OTC session. This chick wanted $900, writes down a number and tells me to call. I put the number in my pocket and didn't look at it for a week since I had no intention of paying $900. When I was about to throw it away I noticed the name was not hers. Maybe she had given me the name of an escort friend of hers? But that's only 2 out of a 100. The number a stripper gives is almost always real and it will be for reasons 1) or 2) you mention unless you have enough game/knowledge of women that your intuition tells you it's for a different reason. Unfortunately, If you have to ask here, you don't have that level of game. As your intuition gets better about these things you'll find that if a strippers wants to fuck (unpaid) they will make it completely obvious (i.e. ask if you want fuck), and, then, you must follow up that night. If she gets home and gets a chance to think about it, she'll get all these dumb ideas about the "ethics" (haha) of having unpaid sex with a customer, and then your chances will rapidly fad (though not necessarily to zero if there was some legitimate basis of attract. That, however, is extremely rare between square middle aged traveling business man, and young, druggie, party girl stripper.)
• 59

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  14 years ago

  My experience for a first time meet is typically 2. They'd like you to come back and spend some more money on them. Best to be careful about revealing your own number. Once they've got it many will do a "call-in". "Come see me at the club (and spend some money on me)..."
• gatorfan

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  14 years ago

  I think most often dancers give out phone #'s to get you to come back and see them. It's a hook, nothing more.
• steve229

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  14 years ago

  Speaking of numbers, try 867-5309, ask for "Jenny".
• shadowcat

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  14 years ago

  Usually it is just a business practice. The last one to give me her number,3 months ago, offered to come to my home for FS. Way too risky. I threw it away as soon as I left the club. I do have 3 in my wallet. But only call one of them. gridget and I are personal friends. But she only dances for me now. I am waiting for some one to match this. Another favorite gave me her number and also gave me her husbands name and cell number. Said if I ever needed help to call her and if I couldn't reach her, to call him. I have shown this to other dancers at the same club. They said that if I ever needed help to call him.I have since thrown his number away but still have hers. Only 2 have ever gotten my number. The first one disappeared 5 years ago. She was my original ATF. Only gridget has it now.We talk frequently but this doesn't really count because she quit the business over 2 years ago.We are way beyond ATF status.
• potheadpl

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  14 years ago

  Lots of times the dancer just wants you to come back and spend cash. I've received the call----"It's slow. Why don't you come down?". Giving you her number is her way of getting your number, because she knows you're gonna call. She could be interested in you for some OTC activity. That could mean she wants you to pay her for sex, or it could mean she thinks you're cool and wants to spend time with you. YMMV.
• shadowcat

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  14 years ago

  steve - area code? City? Did you get that off the bath room wall? lol...
• vincemichaels

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  14 years ago

  steve, DON'T GIVE OUT MY PHONE # !!!!! sc, the area code is 313 LMAO
• Topher1029

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  14 years ago

  Yeah, I've never given out my cell phone number, which is actually a company cell phone, so that wouldn't be cool. I wouldn't give my home phone number either, agree it's too risky. This last dancer to give me her number was out of Shadowcat's club (Platinum Plus Columbia SC). We never discussed "extras" in the club, nor did she offer any, so my guess is she just wants me to call to tell me when she'll be in the club for more LDs. Some of the others in the past however, I think probably wanted to set up an OTC encounter for pay, although there'e always that element of doubt (these are the ones that usually offered ITC extras).
• samsung1

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  14 years ago

  hey topher129, It is most likely a ROB (rip off bitch) tactic of hers. I have known strippers who give me their numbers at the end of lap dances and then tell me I should tip them extra for giving out their number. 90% of the phone calls will be about getting you back in the club so you spend more money on them. Most are not willing to meet with you outside the club! They are "dancers" not escorts or strippers lol. Check out [view link] and read the stripper forums and you will see so many strippers talk about how they go out and buy prepaid cell phones so they have disposable numbers to give out to customers. They also sometimes like to tease you and send you pictures of themselves. I admit myself that when I was new to strip clubbing myself I got excited and spent more money than I intended on a dancer when she called me and texted me to come and see her. This happened once to me and I hope you learn from my mistake. The next time the dancer called me I asked her for a pic and she complained to me that the phone company will charge her extra for sending pics. She had verizon, which does not charge you much extra for sending a pic. Something like $0.25-$1 depending on plan. I realized what an ROB she was when she was not even willing to send a lousy pic. Again, I hope you realize from my mistake so you can benefit and save your money. I recommend running a background check using the phone number to find out her name and if she has criminal record if you are interested in meeting her OTC. [view link] Chances are the phone number will not return a result (meaning it is a prepaid disposable one).
• georgmicrodong

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  14 years ago

  I set up a Google Voice number that I give to a dancer who asks. I only give it to dancers, so *any* call that comes from that number is stripper related. I can set it up to ring any of my other phones, and to make the caller announce themselves. I can even listen in on the voice mail while they are leaving it, and decide if I want to pick it up. There's allegedly even an option to set up the times when specific numbers are put through, or even if they are, and to what phone they are sent to. I give the number out freely, because only the girls I want are ever put through. The others go straight to VM until they prove themselves. All without giving out any of my real phone numbers.
• steve229

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  14 years ago

  Topher1029, You didn't mention if you're married/have a SO. If so, having strange numbers and text messages show up on your phone can be risky (see Woods, Tiger).
• Player11

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  14 years ago

  Based on experience - Answer #2 Even if otc is discussed (say motel meeting) - the only to find out if thats for sure is see if she will meet you that day. There are ROB's who will use the possibility of otc to get your money itc, say dances and handouts. Never, ever give one of them money for services not performed.
• samsung1

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  14 years ago

  player11, makes an excellent point. They will give out their disposable prepaid number to you and tell you how they will love to meet with you tomorrow (they claim they can't meet tonight because they are too tired from working, or some other reason, etc.). They then proceed to get you to buy a couple of dances at $30 each! And you pay it because you are thinking with the little head and not the big head
• Topher1029

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  14 years ago

  Steve- Divorced less than a year ago, no SO as of yet. But you make a good point, as does samsung and player.
• CTQWERTY

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  14 years ago

  "Did you get that off the bath room wall? lol..." I did check above the urinal at Spearmint Rhino in Vegas for a "Tiger was here!" Must be a trademark issue as to why he couldn't leave it.
• MisterGuy

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  14 years ago

  You're right on all three counts Topher1029...each stripper is different in what they really mean. Most of the time it's option 1 or 2 though. "I am waiting for some one to match this." Why?? This isn't a game old man...give it up...
• lopaw

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  14 years ago

  I'm betting on option #2, 99% of the time.
• gk

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  14 years ago

  You'll learn a lot by just calling the number and asking what she's up for. Most likely she just wants your number for marketing reasons as many have said. It's not hard to figure out what's real and what's not in these cases.
• how

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  14 years ago

  Dancers frequently give me their number or ask for mine. Typically seems they want to do a lot of texting. Some ask me to take them out for lunch or dinner, some just ask how things are going in general. Only one ever used it to ask me to come into the club while she was working, but I can understand how that might be a frequent use of such number exchanges.
• gatorfan

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  14 years ago

  The proverbial "What are you doing, Come and see me now" text.
• Clubber

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  14 years ago

  I've been given many numbers and called two. The same two have mine. My ATF and my favorite bartender.
• rockie

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  14 years ago

  Topher - You could also purchase your own disposable phone. You would only use it for calls that you aren't comfortable using the business phone on. Setting up a google voice number might provide you the same solution. I agree that generally the phone number is to generate business for the dancer and to possibly use your contact number in return when you call her. Proceed carefully and realize that it's not typically a free contact situation, but the only way to figure it out is to participate at some level. I have only given out contact info once. It's only been used for scheduling ITC.
• Player11

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  14 years ago

  If I am interested in seeing her otc I will call the number and make an offer. All she can do is say no or its a bad number. I had one guy call me one time and say "Why is your number in my GF's phone." It was a dancer who had given me her number. My first impulse was just to cuss him out. Instead I said "Look fella, this is a contractor office and probably ten guys use this phone. Your guess is as good as mine. They are not supposed to use this for personal business - Did he leave a name?"
• whopper

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  14 years ago

  Player, that is a good response, I like it.
• how

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  14 years ago

  Good reply, Player. I would have been tempted to tell the guy that my number was in his GF's phone because she was doing me every chance she got...
• Jmoney007

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  14 years ago

  i have been handed numbers unsolicited, but i just discard them, i already know why they would give me their number so my thought is if i want to see them again, i will just come back to the club on my own free will. and most of the time, they would just give me fake numbers, so i play dumb and take it, then when i get outside i toss it, im not gonna be fooled by anyone.(years of getting fake numbers in high school made me immune to that obvious ploy) and the fake numbers they gave me was so funny i could not help but to laugh, they ranged from pizza places to supermarkets. i figured this out when i tried to dial one of the numbers and to my surprise it poped up because it was already in my phone because i had ordered pizza the night before.
• Clubber

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  14 years ago

  I = 1, II = 2, III = 3, IV = 4, V = 5, VI = 6, VII = 7, VIII = 8, IX = 9, and for 0, not sure but likely IX. Of course this only if she is an Italian, or loves Super Bowls.
• 59

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  14 years ago

  Jmoney, do I understand correctly? Unsolicited, a girl gives a fake number? Don't they have better things to do?
• jcdenton

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  14 years ago

  They want you to come in and spend gobs of money on them. At least, that's been my experience. I learned my lesson on giving your number to them... Unless you want her to call you at the most inconvenient time possible and ask for money, don't give her your number. If she's offering to call you to facilitate the number transfer, you know she's going to call you at least once about coming down. My two cents.
• SuperDude

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  14 years ago

  I learned, in my early clubbing days, that giving a dancer my number was just an invitation for calls asking me to return to the club and by dances on a slow night. Nothing more will come of giving your number.
• magicrat

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  14 years ago

  I think it depends..pretty profound huh? If it's a first visit, my experience is that it's a number that is no longer in service or inoperable for other reasons. If you get to know the dancer, then it's a way for them to get in contact with you, generally for $ to either visit her at the club or otc or just send $$. I used to think it was a big deal, now I don't even think about it. Sort of like them giving you their "real" name...don't really care anymore.
• Player11

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  14 years ago

  I would tend to agree with you Super Dude. But consider this: Circa 2005, Sadie (tall, blonde, 30, great body), a dancer at a So Houston Strip Club phoned me asking for $60 as she needed it for motel room rent where she was living. While I did not know this at that time she was supporting a BF. I told her "Well honey, I want to help you but I will need some pussy." After a couple calls back and forth she settled on taking $100. I then took her to a motel and had sex with her for $100. I did her a couple more times for around the same rate over a couple of months. In a one of the subsequent sessions, Sadie was one of 3 different strippers I did at different times in the same motel room over a 2 day period. It was a big hit on my bank account and I would recommend that. At that point I felt the Project (my sc hobby) had got out of control and went back to my fav at that time. Due to the fact she was on drugs, always supporting some sleazebo BF, I lost track of her shortly after. In addition, she could not go as long as the 2 other strippers I was doing at that time. A few months after that I was separated, she called me offering to move in. She said "Just think if I move in you will have a whorehouse." As I had all I could handle with Wendy (stripper at Ricks), I had to let that go. To this day I have to wonder what that would have been like having her move in...I could just see her doing tricks in my place all day while I was at work - not a pleasant thought!
• samsung1

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  14 years ago

  You made a smart decision player11!
• Digitech

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  14 years ago

  I got a phone number from a stripper once (and still have it.) My assumption was that really the only reason she would give the number was to arrange OTC pay-for-play meetings. I called it and it was so awkward. I was lost for words and the conversation only lasted about 2 and a half minutes -- She asked if I was coming to the club soon, but didn't bring up OTC. On the other hand, I am rather socially awkward and have a horrible time relating to people. Perhaps a more outgoing person would have had better luck.
• steve229

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  14 years ago

  Digitech, Maybe you should try texting. Most young strippers are more likely to text than make a voice call. At the clubs I frequent, dancers are not supposed to take calls when they're working, but most keep their cell phones with them and sneak in text messages. Your posts are well written, so you probably just need more time to form your thoughts. Texting gives you that. You can read and send texts at your leisure, so its a good way for someone who's somewhat shy to interact with a dancer. Plus it can be fun. Happy texting!
• potheadpl

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  14 years ago

  Texting is definitely the way to go. I actually NEVER talk to strippers on the phone, and I'm in contact with a half dozen. But I text like crazy. It's great. Like Steve229 said, texting gives you time to look at what you're planning to express before she sees it. Your posts are well-written so texting should be a natural fit for you.
• georgmicrodong

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  14 years ago

  WRT texting, be aware that all those texts may be saved on a server somewhere and available to satisfy a court order. :)
• Jball

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  12 years ago

  I have many experiences with dancers giving me numbers, and I always felt it was only to keep me hooked. This last one thought she had already spoke with me on the phone when we had not. After she revealed this and I said told her it wasnt me, I initiated a discussion about turnons and tunrnoffs. She says she hates it when guys come right out and ask "how much?" I told her she shouldnt be suprised by such offers and most men would naturally consider financing a date with her(she is somokin!!!)She applauds my use of financing and says its so much classier. I said friends with benefits is a great option for many of us. She concured by confirming she had a benefit thing going on. She added I have nice guys come in and drop $500 on me. So lets review...she says we talked when we never did...she says her turnoff is blunt "how much" inquiries...she gives the number. What would you think...On one hand she could be leading me to believe she is interested in biz OTC with me and on the other hand she could be only trying to seduce my mind to keep me hooked as a ITC regular. She has succeeded! Welcome to the game me...enjoy the show! LOL
• Alucard

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  12 years ago

  Only my ATFs have given me their numbers, no other Stripper has done that. Only my ATFs have my Cell number.
• LeeH

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  12 years ago

  500 opinions already given, so I'll give mine, too. First of all, no one can say what it means. They can only give their experiences. (Plus, any guy that can say what any action taken by a woman "means" is an idiot.) Over the course of about 3 years of clubbing, I've probably gotten about 20 numbers. All of the ones that I bothered trying (at least 8-10) were legit for at least 6 months -- some remain so 2.5 years later. The time I get numbers most often is when I'm interested in a dancer and I ask what her usual schedule is (many times, if in a mood to go to a club, it's to see someone in particular, at least for a bit, rather than seeing random naked titties). Usually it's "my usual sched is XYZ, but my number is ABC -- text me earlier in the day to be sure that I'm going to be here that night." I've only had one dancer abuse my number (that she got when I texted to her) with lots of "come see me" messages. I just ignored those. I've had two others that used it sparingly (maybe once or twice) in that kind of unsolicited manner. Those I don't mind -- hell, usually I thought, "hey, now that's a good idea -- there's nothing on TV anyway." I've had three that I've used just for general communication (beyond "you gonna be at the club tonight?"). For instance, one fave got preggers. She waitressed from the time she showed til a couple weeks before giving birth, then was out til the child was about a month old. Over those 6 weeks, I kept up with her to see how she (and eventually, the baby) were doing. Another fave quit dancing, but we continued to keep up over texting for several months after she "retired". BTW, I only use a Google Voice number. And it's rarely forwarded to my real phone anyway. The only downside to this was that one dancer wanted to send me pix at random times, mostly just to fuck with my head (sitting in meeting at work, phone vibrates, look down, there's a pussy pic) but GV doesn't allow MMS. :(
• vincemichaels

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  12 years ago

  Lots of times, it means they want you to come back to the club and spend money on them. One babe would text me to let her know when she was working. Other's said they wanted to OTC. Never happened for me, but oh well.
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