If a dancer gives you her number, how do you interpret that?
Topher1029
Florida
Hey guys, I'm a relative newcomer to tuscl, having only discovered this site a few months ago. I'm late middle aged, and have been a moderately active participant in the hobby for a number of years. I usually visit clubs when I travel on business, so I often go as a "lone wolf", but occassinally I'll go with a couple of clients. I thought I was pretty experienced in the ways of strip clubs, but after reading a fair amount on this site, I've come to recognize that I may have been relatively naive regarding whats been available, and that I have miles to go to catch up to some of you guys. So I thought I'd post a question here, and get some of input from those who are more experienced.
Over the years, I've had a fair number of dancers give me their phone number. I've never asked for a strippers number, they have always volunteered them freely. Often, they've given me their number after several sets of dances, but I've also gotten them after only a couple of LDs. I remember the first time it happened many years ago, I thought she must really like me and wants to get to know me on a personal basis. However, the following morning (after I sobered up!)I realized that that was probably not the case (I'm not quite that naive). Anyway, over the years I've never actually called a dancer who has given me her number, as I'm generally only in town a few days before I move on to the next city or go home. I was recently (the end of this past week)at a club, and it happened again. The dancer was very nice, we had talked for a good long while, I had bought her a couple of drinks and we did several sets of LDs over a couple of days. She gave me her number (again, unsolicited) as I was leaving, and now I'm wondering how to interpret this, and trying to decide if I should call this dancer.
So my question is , how would you interpret getting a phone number from a dancer when you didn't ask for it?
My thoughts on the possible interpretations are:
1. She's giving you an invitatiion to discuss/ set up an OTC "date\experience".
2. She's only giving you a contact number to reach her, so you can ask when she will be at the club to do more LDs or CR/VIP room dances.
3. It's a bogus number, and she's just trying to play with your mind, or worse set you up for her boyfriend come to your hotel and rip you off?
So what do you guys think, and how have you handled this?
Over the years, I've had a fair number of dancers give me their phone number. I've never asked for a strippers number, they have always volunteered them freely. Often, they've given me their number after several sets of dances, but I've also gotten them after only a couple of LDs. I remember the first time it happened many years ago, I thought she must really like me and wants to get to know me on a personal basis. However, the following morning (after I sobered up!)I realized that that was probably not the case (I'm not quite that naive). Anyway, over the years I've never actually called a dancer who has given me her number, as I'm generally only in town a few days before I move on to the next city or go home. I was recently (the end of this past week)at a club, and it happened again. The dancer was very nice, we had talked for a good long while, I had bought her a couple of drinks and we did several sets of LDs over a couple of days. She gave me her number (again, unsolicited) as I was leaving, and now I'm wondering how to interpret this, and trying to decide if I should call this dancer.
So my question is , how would you interpret getting a phone number from a dancer when you didn't ask for it?
My thoughts on the possible interpretations are:
1. She's giving you an invitatiion to discuss/ set up an OTC "date\experience".
2. She's only giving you a contact number to reach her, so you can ask when she will be at the club to do more LDs or CR/VIP room dances.
3. It's a bogus number, and she's just trying to play with your mind, or worse set you up for her boyfriend come to your hotel and rip you off?
So what do you guys think, and how have you handled this?
43 comments
One phony, I felt right away something was up, so I called her right on the spot with the pretext of getting my number into her cell phone. Busted!
The 2nd phony came when I was negotiating an OTC session. This chick wanted $900, writes down a number and tells me to call. I put the number in my pocket and didn't look at it for a week since I had no intention of paying $900. When I was about to throw it away I noticed the name was not hers. Maybe she had given me the name of an escort friend of hers?
But that's only 2 out of a 100. The number a stripper gives is almost always real and it will be for reasons 1) or 2) you mention unless you have enough game/knowledge of women that your intuition tells you it's for a different reason. Unfortunately, If you have to ask here, you don't have that level of game.
As your intuition gets better about these things you'll find that if a strippers wants to fuck (unpaid) they will make it completely obvious (i.e. ask if you want fuck), and, then, you must follow up that night. If she gets home and gets a chance to think about it, she'll get all these dumb ideas about the "ethics" (haha) of having unpaid sex with a customer, and then your chances will rapidly fad (though not necessarily to zero if there was some legitimate basis of attract. That, however, is extremely rare between square middle aged traveling business man, and young, druggie, party girl stripper.)
Best to be careful about revealing your own number. Once they've got it many will do a "call-in". "Come see me at the club (and spend some money on me)..."
I am waiting for some one to match this. Another favorite gave me her number and also gave me her husbands name and cell number. Said if I ever needed help to call her and if I couldn't reach her, to call him. I have shown this to other dancers at the same club. They said that if I ever needed help to call him.I have since thrown his number away but still have hers.
Only 2 have ever gotten my number. The first one disappeared 5 years ago. She was my original ATF. Only gridget has it now.We talk frequently but this doesn't really count because she quit the business over 2 years ago.We are way beyond ATF status.
She could be interested in you for some OTC activity. That could mean she wants you to pay her for sex, or it could mean she thinks you're cool and wants to spend time with you. YMMV.
This last dancer to give me her number was out of Shadowcat's club (Platinum Plus Columbia SC). We never discussed "extras" in the club, nor did she offer any, so my guess is she just wants me to call to tell me when she'll be in the club for more LDs. Some of the others in the past however, I think probably wanted to set up an OTC encounter for pay, although there'e always that element of doubt (these are the ones that usually offered ITC extras).
Check out www.stripperweb.com and read the stripper forums and you will see so many strippers talk about how they go out and buy prepaid cell phones so they have disposable numbers to give out to customers. They also sometimes like to tease you and send you pictures of themselves.
I admit myself that when I was new to strip clubbing myself I got excited and spent more money than I intended on a dancer when she called me and texted me to come and see her. This happened once to me and I hope you learn from my mistake.
The next time the dancer called me I asked her for a pic and she complained to me that the phone company will charge her extra for sending pics. She had verizon, which does not charge you much extra for sending a pic. Something like $0.25-$1 depending on plan. I realized what an ROB she was when she was not even willing to send a lousy pic. Again, I hope you realize from my mistake so you can benefit and save your money.
I recommend running a background check using the phone number to find out her name and if she has criminal record if you are interested in meeting her OTC.
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Chances are the phone number will not return a result (meaning it is a prepaid disposable one).
All without giving out any of my real phone numbers.
You didn't mention if you're married/have a SO. If so, having strange numbers and text messages show up on your phone can be risky (see Woods, Tiger).
Even if otc is discussed (say motel meeting) - the only to find out if thats for sure is see if she will meet you that day. There are ROB's who will use the possibility of otc to get your money itc, say dances and handouts. Never, ever give one of them money for services not performed.
Divorced less than a year ago, no SO as of yet. But you make a good point, as does samsung and player.
I did check above the urinal at Spearmint Rhino in Vegas for a "Tiger was here!" Must be a trademark issue as to why he couldn't leave it.
"I am waiting for some one to match this."
Why?? This isn't a game old man...give it up...
I had one guy call me one time and say "Why is your number in my GF's phone." It was a dancer who had given me her number. My first impulse was just to cuss him out. Instead I said "Look fella, this is a contractor office and probably ten guys use this phone. Your guess is as good as mine. They are not supposed to use this for personal business - Did he leave a name?"
know why they would give me their number so my thought is if i want to see
them again, i will just come back to the club on my own free will.
and most of the time, they would just give me fake numbers, so i play dumb and take it, then when i get outside i toss it, im not gonna be fooled by anyone.(years of getting fake numbers in high school made me immune to that obvious ploy)
and the fake numbers they gave me was so funny i could not help but to laugh, they ranged from pizza places to supermarkets. i figured this out when i tried to dial one of the numbers and to my surprise it poped up because it was already in my phone because i had ordered pizza the night before.
Don't they have better things to do?
My two cents.
Circa 2005, Sadie (tall, blonde, 30, great body), a dancer at a So Houston Strip Club phoned me asking for $60 as she needed it for motel room rent where she was living. While I did not know this at that time she was supporting a BF. I told her "Well honey, I want to help you but I will need some pussy." After a couple calls back and forth she settled on taking $100. I then took her to a motel and had sex with her for $100. I did her a couple more times for around the same rate over a couple of months.
In a one of the subsequent sessions, Sadie was one of 3 different strippers I did at different times in the same motel room over a 2 day period. It was a big hit on my bank account and I would recommend that. At that point I felt the Project (my sc hobby) had got out of control and went back to my fav at that time.
Due to the fact she was on drugs, always supporting some sleazebo BF, I lost track of her shortly after. In addition, she could not go as long as the 2 other strippers I was doing at that time.
A few months after that I was separated, she called me offering to move in. She said "Just think if I move in you will have a whorehouse." As I had all I could handle with Wendy (stripper at Ricks), I had to let that go. To this day I have to wonder what that would have been like having her move in...I could just see her doing tricks in my place all day while I was at work - not a pleasant thought!
My assumption was that really the only reason she would give the number was to arrange OTC pay-for-play meetings. I called it and it was so awkward. I was lost for words and the conversation only lasted about 2 and a half minutes -- She asked if I was coming to the club soon, but didn't bring up OTC.
On the other hand, I am rather socially awkward and have a horrible time relating to people. Perhaps a more outgoing person would have had better luck.
Maybe you should try texting. Most young strippers are more likely to text than make a voice call. At the clubs I frequent, dancers are not supposed to take calls when they're working, but most keep their cell phones with them and sneak in text messages.
Your posts are well written, so you probably just need more time to form your thoughts. Texting gives you that. You can read and send texts at your leisure, so its a good way for someone who's somewhat shy to interact with a dancer. Plus it can be fun. Happy texting!
First of all, no one can say what it means. They can only give their experiences. (Plus, any guy that can say what any action taken by a woman "means" is an idiot.)
Over the course of about 3 years of clubbing, I've probably gotten about 20 numbers. All of the ones that I bothered trying (at least 8-10) were legit for at least 6 months -- some remain so 2.5 years later.
The time I get numbers most often is when I'm interested in a dancer and I ask what her usual schedule is (many times, if in a mood to go to a club, it's to see someone in particular, at least for a bit, rather than seeing random naked titties). Usually it's "my usual sched is XYZ, but my number is ABC -- text me earlier in the day to be sure that I'm going to be here that night."
I've only had one dancer abuse my number (that she got when I texted to her) with lots of "come see me" messages. I just ignored those.
I've had two others that used it sparingly (maybe once or twice) in that kind of unsolicited manner. Those I don't mind -- hell, usually I thought, "hey, now that's a good idea -- there's nothing on TV anyway."
I've had three that I've used just for general communication (beyond "you gonna be at the club tonight?"). For instance, one fave got preggers. She waitressed from the time she showed til a couple weeks before giving birth, then was out til the child was about a month old. Over those 6 weeks, I kept up with her to see how she (and eventually, the baby) were doing. Another fave quit dancing, but we continued to keep up over texting for several months after she "retired".
BTW, I only use a Google Voice number. And it's rarely forwarded to my real phone anyway. The only downside to this was that one dancer wanted to send me pix at random times, mostly just to fuck with my head (sitting in meeting at work, phone vibrates, look down, there's a pussy pic) but GV doesn't allow MMS. :(
Yours sincerely
Amber Leigh