How long does it take you, and do you finish every time?

Boy I have gone from one extreme to the other. It seems like it depends 90% on my mood and my physical health at the time. I remember once I came while the girl was putting the raincoat on (I probably hadn't been laid for a few weeks) and other times it just doesn't matter. I have sometimes failed to come with Full Service, but have always come within a couple of songs for Hand Job or Blow Job. So go figure. Why would a guy not come for Full Service? Tired? Feeling cynical/mad? I dunno.

arbeeguy, you nailed this one. At least for me. Age?

It depends on how horny I am and how good the girl is working it. I'd say 10-15 minutes is typical. At strip clubs it's try to finish as quick as possible.

I'm weak in this category; if she's stroking me and I'm playing with her titties, then I'll be a happy man in about three songs...I need to improve that !

I sometimes think I have developed a metal block or something like that. I used to go VIP with this one dancer and got off every time. The last time we were together, some club dude walked in on us. Didn't say anything to us, other than the AC control was located in that particular room. Couldn't wait? In any case, I've not gotten off in that club. The one reason might be that that particular dancer left not long after and went home to NY. Might be she was better or just a mental thing. After paying about three or four times and not getting off, I have not tried since.

I've tried numerous times but haven't gotten off on hj, bj or fs in the club yet. It's not lack of effort because my regulars go all out trying to make me. Two have said it's probably a mental block being in the club. Oddly, I've gotten off more than a few times from hard grinding lap dances. Mostly takes a few good songs, but my ATF can do it in two.

I don't know, maybe the other girls might be right about the mental block as far as extras go - being out in the open and such.

My Mileage Does Vary, and so does my ability to finish the job. My ability depends a lot on my mental state at the time and the dancer. I have had favs that make me very relaxed and allow me to remain "in firing position" for an extended period of time with some good foreplay. I know that I will finish no matter what we are doing to get there.

Recently had a spinner(fav)who has a great body, and any sane guy would want to do her every chance he got. But, for me she is a box full of distractions. Including persistent reminders of how much this is going to cost me. No GFE, HJ or BJ foreplay. Does allow finger and sometimes DATY or rim. A bit of a nagger, but if you have dance money plus $200, a rubber and can get in the mood and stay that way for a while, she's a good hose. I've stopped wasting money on her because without FS her dances aren't that great, and she waits until we're already doing dances before informing me that her aunt Flo is in town.

Very much a mental thing for me....probably because I have come to realize that with most dancers it is all fake. I still have one who makes it as real as she can. Except for her time-to-be-redone bolt-on's, she's perfect.

It depends on if I have a full load and a combination of how pretty the girl is and how good her body is. I rarely reach completion on HJ though, BBBJ sometimes and FS always.

I'm a younger guy and sometimes I've had to leave without finishing because the girl (not strippers, FYI) didn't know what they were doing.

Non- ITC splooger here- often, too many distractions. A real question should be: "How quickly do YOU want to splooge, & how quickly does dancer want you to splooge? " Any perceived conflict there, doesn't matter how much one presses on, ain't gonna happen.

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As mentioned in many of the comments above, I think it mostly depends on your mental attraction to the particular dancer. If I find a dancer that is very attractive and she offers extras I will usually be able to finish in the allotted time. Since I very seldom get a dance from a stripper who does not physically appeal to me I usually leave happy. Also I try to spend some time in the club enjoying the stage dances before getting any special treatment. I think the buildup from getting excited by several stage dancers will increase the likelyhood of a happy ending in the private area.

The only ITC HJ that ever did it for me was in Buffalo, where the girl used plenty of her own saliva for lubrication. Don't know why more don't do that; every time I've asked since the answer has always been "I'd rather not". WTF, over? You don't worry about my jizz getting on you, but your own saliva puts you off?

I also need, whether it's HJ, BJ or FS (the latter of which I've never attempted ITC), room to stretch my legs, unless I'm the one doing the work. For whatever reason, inability to stretch out inhibits me almost completely.

As others have noted, fatigue level, general health, and age all affect me as well. Somebody busting in, or a setting that is too public to begin with, will put me off for the rest of the night.

One thing that has not been mentioned yet. Alcohol consumption. If I drink too much, it ain't gonna happen. I missed out on many pieces of ass in civilian life because I over indulged. The same can happen in a strip club. Maybe more so because you do not have an emotional involvement with your partner.

shadowcat: For men, anyway. For women, it appears to help things along, as long as the quantity isn't too great. When I was doing that sort of thing, the more I drank, the less likely I was to be able to keep it up. Alcohol *is* a depressant, after all.

It depends on the gals performance for me - I will be 60 in 5 months. With my 28 yo atf who is a good, experienced performer and does me on top leaning forward - 6 minutes is average (I use condoms) and she gets me off every time - she is nice and tight too (not some fucked out, stretched out assembly line whore). When I was on Lexapro (antidepressant) it took me much longer and was more difficult - 75% of the time (she probably could only go about 15 min) I would need to take a HJ from her to get off. Had she not been such a good HJ specialist I would have dropped her. IMO Lexapro is for guys who have PE. I dropped Lexapro in Jan 2009 after doing some research on the net about DE. Before that time different gals got me off 25-80% of the time. Of course the 80% gal was the best. It probably took me in excess of 10-15 minutes or more to get off. Most women their parts get sore after 10 minutes. However there are ones who can go much longer. Doing a new girl can be a crapshoot in terms as to how tight she will be, her technique, and stamina.

I'll go out tonight and do some research. LOL

Player11: I had forgotten about the effect of antidepressants. At a time when I tried Prozac it was almost impossible to get off. It should be the medicine of choice for anyone with premature ejaculation.

Typically, about 5 songs gets the job done if there is direct physical contact. If she is just really hard scissoring thru my clothes, it can take 30 minutes or more, and I end up mighty chaffed!

@samsung1---no need for ED meds. I get harder than Chinese arithmetic as soon as I see naked women @ the SC. LOL

Like gatorfan and SnakePlissken wrote, it varie. One can tell by the time the first song is done, whether it is going to happen or not. I've let some of my prospective favorites go on, with the hope of getting off, others, that I peg as ROB's, I cut my losses and get out. My research tonight, confirmed that I have a new favorite, a very hot Latina, who makes it her mission to make me happy.

PS, she makes me happy in 2 songs, so I give her a nice tip.

the comment about alcohol reminds me of a song called "Too drunk to fuck" by Buckcherry. I heard it first in a strip club.

I may have a mental block plus alcohol making the possibility of getting off in a strip club to be zilch as far as I'm concerned. I don't go looking for extras so all I usually get is some casual grinding. I don't think extras are available when clubs are busy when I visit. I'm definitely not getting off from casual lap dance grinding. I have to be relaxed more than anything and I'm definitely not relaxed in most strip clubs. Some alcohol may help me relax a little bit in the strip clubs but too much and parts of me feel a little bit numb and my sex drive takes a plunge too. For some reason though, a little bit of alcohol does seem to make me feel better the next day.

From my experiences in sports bars, to get the highest scores on the arcade machines which included something like Daytona 500 and/or some other car racing games along with some pistol style shooters, I had to drink about 4 beers to get the highest score. After that and everything started to go downhill back towards normal driving. The cops in the commercials always say alcohol impairs you so I wonder if that's normal for my driving skills and shooting skills to get a lot better after drinking a few beers. I actually feel an energy boost with just a few beers. Is that normal?

I run the gamut, too. I have finished from mere HJ in one song in a very cramped position with a lot of anxiety about being caught; and I've been unable to finish from full, uncovered intercourse on a bed with a stupendously hot woman. And I've had the converse: amazingly quick explosive (disappointing) orgasms precisely because the situation and the girl were very conducive to it; and annoyingly evasive ones precisely because of the many interferences.

I'd say the one thing that is a good solid predictor for me, is the freedom of my hands and lips to play with her tits. If I can really just get at 'em, I can pretty much guarantee that I can get done on time.

Another excellent plan is to get really revved up on lappers, and playing grab-ass on the main floor, before the main event. Sporting near-embarrassing wood before we even head toward the back room, so that I can joke with her that she should lead me there and she'll know where I am because poke-poke she can feel me behind her ... that's always a good plan.

Here's one final point. I love paying for it. Yeah, weird, no? If sex is a commodity and there's a negotiation before the act, then I'm WAY horny. Especially if I feel like I got the better of her in the bargaining, because of my superior experience at strip-club-sex-negotiation tactions. :) Seriously. :)

i usually cant afford long excursions to the SC so i usually try to have a happy ending in 3 songs or less during a LD, witch most of the time is all i need if the grinding is great.

i usually get one LD from the 2nd or 3rd girl that approaches me after i get there, this is usually a 10-20 min time frame that i use to relax and get in the mood b4 i get a LD, then the first LD is just a warm up and the warm up girl only gets one dance, then i head back out onto the floor and scan the room looking for another girl that peaks my interests.

once i find that special someone, i causally wait on her to do the approach, then we sit and have a nice quick chat, then its off to the LD spot, if shes good, i will let her continue till i have a happy ending, and if she sucks(and no.... not that type of suck)i will let her finish that one song then i move on.

usually the the second girl does the trick, if im in the right mood, it will only take 1 song and great grinding to get me off.

Of course it varies. And of course the mental aspect is a big factor. Does she seem distracted, or is she doing her best to convince me she wants me? All the difference in the world...

The expectation must be set prior to the start......if it it is agreed to completion, the girl must take it upon herself to make sure she finishes you off...I will always have a flat fee for this service

jj,

You will NEVER have a flat anything! :)

I call it thrifty MrLover2010 :) I don't have enough $ to try out a bunch of girls to see if the magic is there. I pick one hot enough to get the job done in a song or 2... interview her to see if she likes to play... then take her back for 1 dance with the option for more. if they are energetic enough I get 1-2 more and well.....

I used to have a cut-and-dried search protocol as Jmoney007 reports, but as I gained clubbing experience, I began to understand that half of what I enjoy in a place is the interaction on the floor. Sure, I may be goal-directed about getting the right kind of grind, eventually; but in the meanwhile, I really like playing grab-ass, having a girl get all dewy-eyed about me when I crack the right joke and make her feel either self-confident about her desirability or submissive to me because of her lack there-of (and NO I don't care whether she's "acting" or it's a "real" response). I want a "girlfriend for an hour," and only part of that hour is going to be spent actually lap-dancing with her.

"So, is it just me?"

No, it isn't. I would say that a fair amount of time (not a majority of time though) that I don't actually "finish" when receiving an "extra".

"if it it is agreed to completion, the girl must take it upon herself to make sure she finishes you off."

I agree, but the problem is that it's been rare for me to see a dancer in a strip club, an AMP girl, or an escort agree on a "to completion" arrangement.