My Ridiculous PL/Fav Drama

8/14/2010 6:06:34 PM

Due to heavy travel, my game was always a road show where the goal was to take out, sometimes eat in, or otherwise sample many different "cuisines" around the country. I admit that I looked upon discussions about "favs" and "regulars" with something close to derision.  <o:p></o:p>
 
Then, due to a longer than normal layover at home, I starting frequenting a local club that, under normal circumstances, is almost everything I hate in a SC. Very local, controlled, etc. There I met a girl that I've taken quite a liking to and, in between road trips, was feeding her for about 3 months.<o:p></o:p>
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This girl is beautiful in that full blooded, sexy Italian way that has always been a weakness of mine.  She is also funny, gracious and very sexy in her flirty way.  For purposes of this article let’s call her “Sexy Italian.”  <o:p></o:p>
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I was strung along in classic PL fashion – a very new experience for me and something I thought that I was immune to, but she had my ticket punched.  She burned me multiple times with last minute bailouts on planned excursions, yet I went back for more.  The excuses were various, including a lost phone and a kid with a fever.<o:p></o:p>
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Multiple road trips did not seem to cure me of my fever for this girl, but they were putting some pressure on her as it was resulting in reduced income to her.  <o:p></o:p>
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After one roadtrip, and with another extended one coming up, I made the move to either break the logjam or break away from her.  I went to the club loaded for bear, suited up with a bankroll in my pocket. I also eagerly chatted up a few other girls, who (per the usual) generally missile lock on the suits in this local club. When Sexy Italian saw this she latched on and did not move all night, except for bathroom runs and stage routines. A little unhappy about the multiple blow offs, I fed her a little (a few 2 for 1 lapdances with tips) but not what she usually made from me. 
 
Finally, as with any sale, I looked to find out what the obstacle to closing was to determine whether it could be overcome. The answer was that covering an extended night away from her kid would be difficult for her. 
 
I'm not sure if it was the fact that the $$$ faucet was being shutoff, a desire to give me a reason to come back after my upcoming extended road trip, whether she was concerned that I would find it from another dancer at this club if she did not provide it, or some other reason, but for whatever the reason OTC options that were not on the table before (believe me when I say I tried) suddenly emerged if it could be done as a detour on her trip home.  
 
It seems that I couldn't close on a night with a superb restaurant, club exploration on my dime and a finale at a 4 star hotel. But a slurpy time in a parking lot? Of course.<img alt="" src="/editor/images/smiley/msn/lightbulb.gif" />  This has since happened a few times and has been great fun.<o:p></o:p>
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With the addition of OTC fun, over the last month I became an increasingly important part of Sexy Italian's income. She was pretty candid the other night in telling me that, the other week, I provided over half of what she made for that week (this club, like many, has been suffering recently). Unfortunately, however, the amount of drama relating to my interactions with other dancers has increased in lockstep with my rising contributions to her bottom line.<o:p></o:p>
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What’s worse, however, is that it is a friend of Sexy Italian that is causing all of the drama.  It started when I started talking to another dancer during times that Sexy Italian was not around.  For this article, I will call her Young Lithe Hottie.  Young Lithe Hottie is ridiculously sexy with a body and attitude that would make you want to do all sorts of bad things.<o:p></o:p>
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During the last few times I sat with Young Lithe Hottie, the friend threatened YLH and one night actually started hitting her while she sat next to me.  She was smiling and trying to pass it off as playful, but each time she pushed her shoulder or arm she would say some variation of "that's Sexy Italian's man" or "Sexy Italian sits with him." <o:p></o:p>
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The other night was the worst. My fav was out sick, but her guard dog friend was there. She worked hard behind the scenes to keep me girl free almost all night, and even went as far as to aggressively confront Young Lithe Hottie in the dressing room. "That's Sexy Italian's customer, so back the fuck off. Oh, and I heard you offered him sex!" (Not exactly true and I never said anything to anyone, though she did allude to the possibility recently while doing a stage performance). 
 
Young Lithe Hottie is young and somewhat new to the business and was shaken by the event.  In fact, she has not been in the club for the last few night, even skipping the most lucrative weekend shifts. It happened in a dressing room with other dancers in it, which did not help matters once they heard this claim that the newbie was offering sex to someone else's regular. No doubt this did nothing good for my image in the club either as I'll surely be seen as a big mouth who blabbed. This club is now burned for me as a source of any additional fun with any other girl. 
 
And all the while, unknown to anyone else (of course - I am discreet and keep my mouth shut), except maybe the very friend that engineered the confrontation (and not from me), Young Lithe Hottie is getting trashed for an alleged offer of services that I am actually getting from Sexy Italian. 
 
I am irritated by all of this drama and am truly done with this experiment. I am now going back to my primary game and I'll leave this fav shit to those of you who have the patience for it.

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georgmicrodong

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14 years ago

So I have to ask, because I'm nosy, just why you put up with the pieces that happened while you were present?  I can understand not getting involved in back room fights or arguments, but why not, when the arm punching happened, a simple "I don't need a baby-sitter" to the friend?  You don't strike me as someone who would be particularly overwrought be losing Sexy Italian's affections, so what's the deal? 
 
Basically, aside from nosiness, I ask because laying down the law works, in most cases.  My Favorite Cocksucker pulled that shit on me one time, telling other girls to stay away because I was hers.  When I informed her that if I ever heard of her doing that sort of thing again, she'd never get another dime out of me, ever, it stopped.

rickdugan

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14 years ago

gmd, fair question.  The answer is I did - several times.  I came down particularly hard one night on the friend, telling her things like "don't ever fucking touch somebody I am sitting with.  In case it's not clear, noone owns me and you are screwing around with my entertainment.  Don't ever fucking pull a stunt like that again."  The other instances I put a stop to it soon after it started. 
 
The reality, though, is that one can only do so much to control what a dancer will do in her habitat, and in particular in the dressing room.  Read other posts on here and SW about disengaging from "favs." The reality is that most of the hardened SC hounds, more times than not, end up having to leave a club for awhile when they drop a fav. 
 
I've learned from my road game that a dancer can burn you in a number of ways in a club, which is why I normally fly quietly under the radar. Now I've got missile locks and strafing rounds all over me. 
 
I had a recently  with Sexy Italian and I made sure she understood that this has already cost her a lot of money (I cancelled on an event the other night and did not give her much on my last visit).  She swears that the situation is fixed as she tries to woo me back, but too little too late.  Also too late for me at this club as I am now burned there and other dancers are avoiding me like the bubonic plague.

steve229

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14 years ago

So, how do you say "PL" in Italian? 
 
"I provided over half of what she made for that week"  
 
Mama Mia!  I think when you reach that level it changes the dynamic, and not in a good way.

CTQWERTY

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14 years ago

Quite the read!   
 
For any would-be delusional PL, it does reinforce items 1, 2, and 3 as to why dancers work: money.

steve229

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14 years ago

Rick, 
   A song for you: 

Been there done that messed around 
<o:p></o:p>I'm having fun don't put me down, 
<o:p></o:p>I'll never let you 
sweep me off my feet.<o:p></o:p>
This time baby I'll be bulletproof, 
<o:p></o:p>This time baby I'll be bulletproof.<o:p></o:p><o:p> </o:p>
Tick tick tick tick on the watch 
<o:p></o:p>And life's too short for me to stop 
<o:p></o:p>Oh baby, your time is running out.<o:p></o:p>
This time baby I'll be bulletproof, 
<o:p></o:p>This time baby I'll be bulletproof.<o:p></o:p>

harrydave

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14 years ago

I think George is on to something that us "nice guys" could learn. I for one am too forgiving of behaviors that I object too on the part of women who are stroking my ego, or dick, or both. But it's wrong to let that stuff slide, especially if it's escalating. When I was raising my kids, I believed there should be consequences for bad behavior, and the consequences should have some direct relationship to the offense. But to make that happen, I had to think about it some, because it's just not my natural response; I'm a live-and-let-live kind of guy. That suggests to me, in the case of "strippers behaving badly", that a little pre-planning is in order before we step through the door into the dark, issue-filled world of our favorite strip club. I find, when I think about various bad outcomes and behaviors, and plan my responses, I may not always follow the plan, but things tend to work behavior. 
 
Or, to put it plainly with two pithy sayings: 
1) Nothing ventured, nothing gained (that's why we're there) 
2) The best defense is a good offense (and that takes practice before the game)

bhunter5252

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14 years ago

I try to keep it on a basic level.  My nature, and the nature of most men, is to try and get into her panties.  Even men in monagamous relationships are always wanting into the panties of their wife or GF.  Most of us play the game to get into her gstring.  The girls, want to get into our wallet.    So we want in theirs and they want in ours.  There should exist some common ground where we both can get what we want.  If they try to control you and you let them you are no different than a henpecked or cuckold husband.  When some stripper does the stripper shit and tries to control you is when PLitis starts.  You don't have to control the girls, just let them know you can do without their services or that someone else is available to get into my wallet without the BS.  Just sayin.....

rickdugan

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14 years ago

HD, nice guy is far from my gig, I'm an admitted asshole who will normally drop a girl at the first whiff of a problem.  After years of doing this I usually have 0 tolerance for BS.  But I will admit that I was infatuated with the girl, and her incredible pussy and oral skills once she stepped it up, enough that I let it go for longer than I should have.  I will also admit that, because I have been a road monger for many years with limited visits to any one club, this local club reg/fav thing could have been managed better and I should have hammered Sexy Italian sooner about her friend's behavior.  
 
If you read below you will see that I came down hard on the friend several times, but all she did is was move it from the floor to the DR.  Perhaps if I had turned the screws on Sexy Italian's money sooner I could have headed off some off this.  Now that I have shut the faucet off completely the girl is swearing that the problem is now fixed, but too late. 
 
LOL steve and the dynamic was indeed changed, thoguh in this case it is what got me into this girl's pants.  This club is one of the old style, NE limited extras type of place and, though one never really knows, I do believe that this type of OTC thing was not a common event for her.  Only the prospect of gaining additional $$$ vs. losing what she was already getting finally pushed it over the hump (so to speak).

harrydave

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14 years ago

 RD, I reread your post, and came up with an alternate theory to explain the drama in the club. That theory is predicated on my observation that for most strippers, what happens is not about you, it's about them.  Is it possible that you were simply caught in the middle (and used as a prop) for the usual tendency of the experienced girls to try to drive out a more recent and threatening hottie?  I have seen this in most clubs, and my GF has described what happens especially in the dressing room to the new girls who are a threat to the old guard. All kinds of confrontations, complaints to management, and other forms of sabotage are manufactured with the express purpose of driving the new girl away.  Did you just step into that sort of situation?

georgmicrodong

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14 years ago

rick, I see.  It's not that you didn't attempt to curb it, but that it didn't work.  Your attitude is completely understandable in that respect, and frankly, I can't say that I've reacted very differently on those occasions where something like this has happened to me.  It's never been that drastic for me, i.e. actively keeping me away from other girls, though.

rickdugan

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14 years ago

hd, I agree with this based upon other things that I heard.  It seems that his new girl had a habit of honing in on other girls' regulars, so your theory is probably on point.  As far as the friend and Italian were concerned, this was a dancer matter rather than one isolated just with me.  It just so happened that my shit was messed up in the cross-fire. 
 
gmd - see above.  I hope they enjoyed the little drama, because I have since moved my $$$ out of the club, which has resulted in a real income loss for Italian.  She has been trying to bring me back in but no mas.

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