The REAL Reasons Some Dancers Are Annoyed By Regulars
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Everything a dancer does, online, ITC and OTC, that a PL can see, is a game. Striptok, Reddit and stripperweb were designed to keep the kind of guys out of clubs that dancers don't want to put up with. They want guys to think 1000 buck air dances, fully clothed stage work and treatment like we are guys they are dating is and should be the norm. That's not me calling dancers evil, they aren't and I understand its there job to separate me from my cash while doing nothing. I just don't go for it. I'll pay you but you just have to make me happy to get it.
They might dupe a few shoot PLs into accepting whatever they give them but that's rare, and they're more likely convince some other dancers to take up these customer losing tactics, which will result in failure. Unless you're silly enough to believe that you're the special one a dancer is actually treating fairly while she breaks everyone else or the actual sucker, these dancers are not fooling anyone. In reality, if guys come across dancer outlets and buy what's said on them they'll probably just stick to watching Lacey Duvalle or doing other things.
The biggest lie on the stripper net is extras are/should be/used to be rare and mega expensive. The second biggest lie on the stripper net is dancers saying they are over having regulars. Anyone who thinks an average dancer can make big bucks and cut off the guys who get dances from them on a consistent basis is a fool. But first lets talk shop.
What I Mean When I Say I'm A "Regular"
If I say I'm a regular, I'm a regular at the club. Clubs have regulars more than dancers do. There are some strippers with a following, especially with social media where the dancers can post they are going to be somewhere and guys they deal with can show up. But for the most part my favorite clubs vibe and they way its run are more the reason I'm a regular at that club than any dancer.
If a club double the dance price, slices song length, allows too much nonsense ETC, I don't care how much I like a dancer I'm not going to be in her home club. Plus, I spend on 10-15 difference dancers twice a week most of the year. So when a dancer says I'm there regular, they lead some to believe that I basically show up, shower them and leave. I know for a fact some dancers have told other strippers that about me, they'll say "I thought you were here for Wonder Cheeks" and so on and so forth. Well that's nonsense. Variety is part of the draw of the club for me. Plus dancers come and go.
But I actually do believe dancers in many cases don't like club regulars or the guys that frequently buy dances from them. Frankly, you'd have to be silly to deny that. But the reasons are multiple and vary along certain lines.
Understandable Reasons Dancers Are Annoyed By Regulars
The Stripper Speaks No English - This isn't our fault but imagine being surrounded by words you don't understand all day. Trying to talk into translator apps over loud music. That shit must suck. But this was borderline because hey, learn English.
Regulars May Play Games - I don't think this happens anywhere near as often as dancers say online but some guys do try to date, pimp, be friends with and push the boundaries of dancers. So if you're an imbecile to that extent of course the dancers don't like you.
"Club Regular" Doesn't Mean "Buy Dances" - I don't get hanging out in clubs, I dislike clubs and don't actually want to hang out in them. I go to get dances and VIP and leave, not to eat, chat, play darts or pool, drink, smoke and watch the game. I only note those things in reviews because it makes a better review, I don't give a fuck about that I just want dancers. But hang out is all some guys go to the strip club to do. Even worse, some of these guys waste dancers time.
How can that not annoy the dancers? 30 dudes in the place and only 1/3 want dances at all much less from that particular dancer. I get the argument that these girls are somewhat stupid because the beer sales, quarters in the pool table and plates of wings keep the club open and dancers who get clubs understand that. But I don't have to deal with people at my job not actually making ME money and I have to understand how that can be annoying.
They Aren't Attracted To Us - Again not our fault but you can never forget this. O can always understand why a woman isn't really into me. I'm sorry but dancers aren't our friends this all has to do with what we pay. If she liked you you could stop paying her. She has a boyfriend or a rotation. What goes on in the club is an act. The end.
Hypocrisy Pt.1 - Some dancers resent men who go to strip clubs because they go to strip clubs. No matter how well you're doing, your a loser for being there. Is that hypocritical seeing how they participate? Sure unless they're being trafficked. But hypocrisy is a strip club fundamental. But I also kinda have to understand this because that's true in some cases.
Hypocrisy Pt. 2 - Some dancers don't like men who vote right wing and in there mind are anti sex and come to the club or progressive men who vote lefty but come to the club to "use" women. Are those kinda guys hypocritical? That would take some nuance to break down but the erasure of nuance is also a strip club fundamental. Again, I kinda have to understand it because that's true in some cases.
They Have A Hot Girl Temperament - Men want consistency and fast women want new roller coaster action, especially this new gen raised on social media. The fact I come in and pay for similar things the same way is great for me and bores some dancers to tears. Now if this was about a normal relationships I'd just say get outside yourself a bit, try new things and keep stuff fresh. But this is about a place where normal relationships go to die. I can't trash a woman for her personality though, I don't have to marry her. That same temperament is what makes strippers fun.
Bad Reasons To Dislike Regulars
Some Strippers Are Anti Social - Some people don't like anyone. And tons of people in clubs aren't that well adjusted. It's not personal. It's hard to be uniquely put off at a rude stripper who's rude to the bouncer, rude to the DJ, rude to other dancers, rude to people in traffic when she pulls out the club, rude to her landlord, rude to her hairdresser................................................
Also some dancers have no idea how to take social cues. I know a gambler who frequents one of the most popular clubs on this board on nightshift and he's watching the game most of the time. Dancers will literally grab their co-workers and warn them to just leave him alone until the game is over and then he'll spend. But isn't that obvious? I haven't sat down and taken a sip of a drink, does it look like I'm ready for dances? I get this is your work space but this is my entertainment space. Be logical.
Some Dancers Aren't Serious/Part Timers - If a stripper dances seasonally, for play money or even if they are just done with dancing but there permit just hasn't expired yet, what do they care about keeping guys spending. Strippers are about themselves. If they don't need you, some have no reason in their mind to be honest or even nice.
Some Dancers Are Travel Dancers or Escort - The ROB tactics some strippers exhibit only work consistently if the dancer is a 9-10 in hotness or none of the guys know who you are, and more so that later of these 2. So travel dancers can pull bull crap and be gone to the next town in 4 weeks so why should they care your there all the time.
Also alot of travel dancers are piping hot, that's why they can get money in any market in the country. And being hotter gives you a different margin of bitch than the typical stripper has. Most dancers are 6's-7s who get over on being available for a price, not because they look like Nadia Jay before the surgeries. A drop of self awareness is needed, most dancers aren't getting away with what the hottest dancer gets by with. If you try to take r/stripper advice and have a home club at the same time you better be a TKO or work a ROB club, and those are closing down by the year. Plus, there is always a TKO that doesn't play games that PLs can pick from.
Also some dancers come into the strip club for 2 hours and tip out because stripping isn't really what they do. They use dancing to have a tax return and don't have the patience to work for 5-50 buck dances when they could be making more than that in the same time going all the way. They have no reason to care about the guys ITC.
Your Money Green With Envy Pt. 1 - Resentment is going to be a base theme here, but dancers who think they have GSP and really don't can be seething watching guys spend on dancers that aren't them. And don't lead a dancer on by buying a pity dance if they're unpopular BTW. The guys on this site seem too seasoned to do that. You're actually buying trouble.
Your Money Green With Envy Pt. 2 - This is related to the last one but its more about a dancer running off a regular because you spend on other dancers AT ALL. Some popular dancers get mad if a PL doesn't spend it all on them even if they do make a ton, they get weirdly clingy. They see all your money as there's basically. I've also noticed that these kinds of dancers get mad if you spend on dancers that for some reason inflame their insecurities. They may overreact and get weird or try to get on over on a PL out of hurt because they think they are losing a regular to another dancer, especially a younger/hotter dancer. And in fairness they might be. I'd have lost her if I was broke.
There are some dancers that aren't ROBs that I don't trust enough for VIP or OTC, and get hung up over the fact that I do it with other strippers and won't shut up about it when they're dancing for me, and at that point we are done. And by the way, all dancers will tell you that they don't make that much. They of course are there for the love of the game. Fact is, some of them will never think what they make is enough no matter what.
Or maybe she's mad you touch up other girls because she likes you. There also could be fire breathing dragons.
Money Green With Envy Pt. 3 - I met a dancer at my fav club who I talk to about the economy. Which is weird, and yes I'm weird but be nice to me and approve this article anyway. More important than our stock talk, she noticed something about guys who talk finance or even about work ITC.
Alot of dancers say they hate "finance bros". She thinks the real reason they hate them isn't because they are so lib, many are not, but because the finance guys actually do what they love and aren't just driven by money, its a combo of both being paid and what they are interested in. And some dancers resent people who don't dislike their lives. When he brings up investments he's not trying to be weird, it flows out because that's just what their passion is. I think Wonder Cheeks has a point.
They Won't Do What Other Dancers Do - I am not here to tell a woman what to do in the strip club, the only thing a dancer has to do is her thing. I'm just saying the PLs aren't "cheap" because they won't pay for you to stand in front of them or got to VIP to just talk. We all go to clubs where if you're not a high mileage grind queen your going to be negative every shift. Change or leave that club or the business. Stewing and complaining isn't going to work.
We Know The Business - We are harder to fool, guilt, bully or neg than some newbies or simps period. We know too much and have seen too much. And its silly for a dancer to be mad at the fact we know how to conduct ourselves with strippers, just likes is silly for a chef to be mad I know he cooked my steak wrong. I understand the service and the market and that makes me smart not cheap or a predator.
So improve or fail, because I'm a regular. So ROBs, GPSs or any other dancer, no matter how much I've spent on her for how long or what we did is going to play me. You'll be getting no arguments, no rage, no engagement and no second chances and you can't ruin my good time. Take it to the next guy. There's always another one.
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This frame of reference might not apply across the universe of clubs and regulars.
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Alot of these dancers have GPS and if you don't call them out on it, you will keep getting burned.