I care about the interactions. I care about you as a human being.
Yes of course, this is a job and at the end of the day, I would not be there unless it was for the money. I'm not a huge fan of strangers seeing me naked and getting groped all night. Or disrespected. But aside from all that, when I sit down and talk to you, I care about what you're saying. I care about the happy things and sad things you've gone through and I like building a personal and human connection. I always tell customers to treat the dancers with respect. Treat others as you would like to be treated. But sometimes we forget that customers are people too. With lives and jobs and feelings and hearts. And I want anyone I interact with to know that I remember that fact. I care about you as a person and I hope that the time we have in the club is a positive one.
I know that girls are "supposed to make guys feel special", and I know it's a fantasy (and it is, as far as the touching goes). But as far as human interaction goes, I want you to feel like you mean something. And I want you to leave feeling better than you came in. That means I did my job right and it means I impacted someone positively and that (along with the money) makes the other stuff bearable.
Just wanted to share. I care about doing a good job, and that to me means making someone feel like they matter.
The way I look at it is that money is what allows the girl to be there. Were it not for that money she would have to be someplace else, like maybe FIRE (Finance, Insurance, and Real Estate), and that would be a total waste.
You don't want these hotties to be in sensible shoes, you want them to be in high heels and makeup. So you should support your local strippers.
But then by all means, you want to get your girl off script and treat her no differently than you would any other woman.
Treat her like you just met her at a party, or like it is your first date with her.
And of course, buying dances is for chumps. Instead, turn on some charm and get a front room makeout session going. Invite her to the back room when it is time for your own pants to come down. Then take her home with you to continue. And then see her regularly.
And it all starts by simply selecting the girl you want, the one you want to be waking up in the mornings with, and then approaching her yourself. And best to always start by demonstrating generosity.
Fei_Dancer, welcome to TUSCL.
SJG