Sensual / Raunchy Scale

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FishHawk
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I have only been on this forum for about six weeks, but I have been going to strip clubs all my adult life. Not often but over almost 50 years I have been to quite a few. One thing this forum has done for me as I read discussions, reviews and articles by others I have begun to reflect on my experiences. In the middle of last night I woke up thinking about Sensual vs. Raunchy experiences and which mean more in the long run.

The following is my opinion and reflects my views alone. It is totally valid for others to have a completely different opinion. If I think of my experiences in Strip Clubs and discarding the meh experiences, which are common unfortunately, I will decide the experiences into two categories.

Sensual experiences where the dancer looks sexy, attractive, and just stirs your soul. Lap Dance is sexy but not overt, suggestive touches that make you wish for more, soft whispers in your ear. Sweet intelligent conversation when the dance is over, holding your hand, looking into your eyes as she talks to you.

Raunchy experience where the dancer is still sexy, but gets right to the point, grabs your cock, with little conversation leads you to the lap dance area and all options are open and you partake as she drains your wallet. When it’s over she is on to the next customer before you even zip up your fly.

I realize these are the extremes and most often it is somewhere in the middle. Given that which end of the spectrum gives you the most lasting happy memories. For me, I think when I was a young man I thought the raunchier the better, but now many years later I am thinking that the sensual dance that left the impression that there was so much more possible has fueled more lasting memories and repeated joys as I recall them.

This position maybe tempered by a dancer I met a few months ago. I only saw her on two occasions and then she left. She gave very sensual dances and by the second visit with her they were getting more and more enticing. She was mysterious, sexy and an absolute beauty. To this day she haunts my dreams in a very good way.

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JamesSD
6 years ago
I would say the best experiences are somewhere in the middle. The former is a tease, the latter is too transactional and basically a whore house experience.
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rl27
6 years ago
I don't consider there to me a sensual / raunchy scale, but more a 2D graph of sensual and raunchy. I have found that most are neither sensual or raunchy, and lie somewhere inside the (4,4) and (6,6) area assuming a ten point scale and a (sensual, raunchy) coordinate system, . You know the type, mechanical, disinterested and just goes through the motions.

The best times I have had occur all occurred inside the (7,8) to (10,10) area. I found about two dozen or so over many years who rated very high in this area, five of whom are still dancing, and two still work in some very well known extras clubs, as of the last time I checked.

Personally I use a 4 dimensional coordinate system which consists of looks, sensuality, extras, and skills. Extras in my case would be the same as raunchyness. I used to have a fifth category of sexiness, but sexiness is basically a combination of the first three categories anyway so I removed it.

A dancer can be can me tens in the first three categories, but if she has no fucking clue what she's doing, you likely aren't gonna have much fun.
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Eric2100
6 years ago
Good article, interesting thoughts. I think for a lot of us it's about figuring out what we want, and the different things girls bring out of us.

I'm a pretty timid guy most the time, so dancers who bring out my inner dom are usually the most fun. Like girls who have a GND look but talk about being submissive and ask me to choke them. That kinda qualifies as Raunchy, but at the same time there's a little bit of a connection there, a chemistry that makes it exciting.

Usually what works for me is talking dirty, like even if a dance starts very tame if a girl gets into it when I start talking shit and she starts talking back, then it tends to end up fun.

But that's just personal preferences that I've discovered from my recent heavy SC-ing. I started out with more of a wide-eyed, kid on Christmas morning approach, but now I know I definitely want the dance to be more interactive.

I agree as far as the quality of the experience isn't just about whether or not a girl gets me off. Like girls who just want to sell FS don't usually leave me with much except for an interesting story to tell. But one of the best girls I ever met gave me this kind of accelerated, intense GFE that was like so warm and intimate in a weird, abrupt, quickly escalating way and ended in a HJ and it was awesome...maybe cause I wasn't expecting it?

So I'd consider that a mix of sensual and raunchy. Just the more choreographed aspects of the dance, like just watching a girl move and look good can be really fun, but when a girl doesn't want to deviate from that at all, that's when a dance kinds sucks. It might be just that she's new/nervous but it makes me feel like there's no connection between us at all.

Also, I really like kissing. Not sure where that falls on the sensual/raunchy scale. Only like maybe 1 in 5 girls is cool with kissing on the mouth, which I always love, but usually on the neck and shoulder is good.
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Sweetheartinkd
6 years ago
The idea is to "entertain" and give a level of taste and tease into an alter reality that puts you in the moment and keeps you coming back for the continued level of excitement. Being quick and having little connection w your guest is no fun and little enjoyment from it. Sitting and talking before having a private dance, just getting to know each other on the slightest level and not jumping into the pressure of immediate "want a dance?", gives such a deeper rooted connection that pours real sensuality and sexiness out and builds the better clients that will remember you...
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FishHawk
6 years ago
Thanks everyone for their thoughtful comments. I was trying to put some of my thoughts in writing and to provoke some thoughts in others. I am gratified that on some level it worked.
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